Single mums

[Digestives6565]

I just found out I'm having my first child and i'm going to be a single mum. I know it sounds silly as there are loads of single mums out there. I guess I expected a different reaction from the dad. I feel a little bit blue. Sorry guys just feel like I needed to tell someone how I felt.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I was a single mum for the first few years of my dd's life. It was tough at times, but in other ways it was simpler than trying to negotiate a relationship at the same time as learning how to be a mum. My dd and I developed an incredible bond and I got much closer to parents and friends through the process. I've been in a good relationship now for over a decade and my dd has a wonderful stepdad.
So don't lose hope, this might be an unexpected path but there are definite positives and you will build a lovely life for you and your child

Thank you so much for you reply. It really made my day!
I just don't want the dad to come along after the birth and try get involved when initially he wanted me to not go through this pregnancy. I'm thinking positively and I'm looking forward to meeting my little one.

I'm a single parent and we're happy, wouldn't change being a parent at all x

Congratulations!
I'm a solo mother by choice to be so I'm alone on this journey but I didn't want to miss out on motherhood due to not meeting a suitable partner in time (I'm 39). Naturally, I'm nervous but I'm trying to take each day as it comes.

Do you have a good support network?

To be honest I have a lot of support from my family. They weren't thrilled at first but they're coming along to the idea.
I personally didn't grow up with a dad I just didn't ever imagine my child would be in the same position as me as I know how painful that is and it did really affect me.
I'm so happy at the responses I've gotten it's really cheered me up. Didn't want to go through these months very gloomy and depressed, thank you.

A joyous occasion to share with someone

Congratulations, how exciting , doesn't matter of dad is in the picture or not all that matter is you are and you try your best for your baby. If the dad doesn't want to be there for you during your pregnancy then obviously he's not mature enough at the moment and you may be better off. Please do what's best for you and your baby and whatever happens your on an exciting and amazing journey !