Positive stories after miscarriage

[Conundrum12345]

I had a MMC last month at 9.5 weeks. I ended up with surgical management. It was our first.

Does anyone have any positive stories of a healthy baby after a MC? We want to try again but the thought makes me sick to my stomach to go through all that again 🥺

Hi op, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I mc may 2019 after trying for 6m. I then got pregnant September and had baby last June who is currently having her morning boob!

I was devastated after mc and was so worried it would happen again or wouldn't get pregnant at all. But I had a text book pregnancy and a wonderful dd.

Have hope but give yourself time to grieve. Everyone is different. Be kind to yourself xxx

@Conundrum12345 so sorry for your loss. I had a mc in 2020 July at 6 weeks. Before that I had two very easy pregnancies. Had a period in August and was pregnant in Sept and currently 37 weeks pregnant. Having a mc does rob you of that carefree attitude I had with my two pregnancies as I tended to analyse every ache and pain. I found the miscarriage odds reassurer quite comforting. Look after yourself.x

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Yep, got pregnant 2 months after my MC at 9 weeks and had a perfect baby, now perfect teenager.
They said wait 3 months to try to conceive again, but when I asked why? they said it was to give myself time to get over the emotional loss. The only real way I was getting over the loss was to have another go at pregnancy, so we did.
When I had my MC, so many men and women came up to me to tell me about their experiences of early MC. It’s so common.
In the olden days you weren’t sure you were pregnant until 3 months in, now with testing you are invested so early and there is so much that can go wrong in the early days. I was working in a factory at the time and whilst devastated about my MC, I looked round and thought.. “How many of these machines would you expect to make a perfect batch first time?”
If you tell people about your MC, so many people will share stories of their own experiences, it’s quite scandalous that it is so common and yet so taboo!
I would say, have another go as soon as you are ready OP, I wish you the absolute best of luck but I am sure you will not need it.

15 miscarriages, 4 surgically managed, all under 12 weeks, but 2 healthy children (10 years between them but that is another story)
It can go ok, try not to put too much pressure on yourself xx

I'm so sorry OP . I found MC incredibly difficult - had one last year as covid was kicking off, so I felt the whole world had turned upside down. Things will get better. The likelihood is that you will be able to conceive again and carry to term. I'd say the main thing that helps is time, followed by talking about/feeling whatever you feel, rather than trying to bottle it up. On MN if you like, or to your partner or friends, but do open up.

Morning ladies! Yesterday had my appointment in hospital and the scan showed exactly the same as the private scan we had last weekend : pregnancy looks like stopped three weeks ago. I still have to go back next week to confirm the MMC and get treatment. After the initial shock, now I need it all over as we want to go back to TTC asap. My biggest fear now is that it takes us a long time again to get pregnant. Chances of getting a successful pregnancy after a MC are supposed to be pretty high.

Hi OP, sorry for your loss.

I had a MMC at 10 weeks and had medical management back in October 2020. I fell pregnant again in December and I'm currently 23 weeks.

For me, the anxiety after the MMC was hard to deal with but after the 12 week scan I started to relax and have been able to enjoy this pregnancy.

Wishing you luck for the future xx

Our 2nd child followed 2 mc's, 1 at 12wk where I got an infection and the other at 8wk. Our 3rd child followed 1 mc at 8wk, got bfp just 6 weeks after bleeding started with that one. Current baby (number 6) follows 2 mc's at 8 & 9wk, the most recent we had a scan which showed baby with hb a week before losing it. Not counted how many chemicals over the years but lots of those. I'm 26+1wk atm with an active little girl.
It's really hard to relax in pregnancy after miscarriage but holding a precious newborn makes the journey worthwhile.

Condolences on your loss and good luck ttc.

Hi @Conundrum12345 Very sorry to hear about your loss. I had a MMC (stopped growing around 8 weeks) and miscarried naturally three weeks later. After waiting two cycles to try again, purely because of future travel plans, I conceive again on the second cycle of trying. Currently 14 wks and everything is on track, scans and blood tests are clear.

Best of luck going forward - try not to worry too much (much easier said than done) and take care of yourself.

So sorry to hear what has happened.

I had an MMC in March 2020 also surgically managed, we waited a full cycle before trying again but luckily fell pregnant again in May 2020. I was incredibly anxious the entire pregnancy because of what happened and didn't really believe it would end in an actual baby.

Currently have my lovely baby girl sleeping next to me (who wouldn't be if the first pregnancy had gone to plan) so there is definitely hope!

Sending lots of love and hope your future is bright

I'm sorry OP.

Baby loss is much less taboo than it was but it's still not talked about enough. If it was, we would know just how horribly common it was and perhaps be able to feel more positive about going forward.

I had 3 in a relatively short space of time, altho I do have an older DD, with the last occurring a couple of months before our wedding. I was 40 and absolutely despondent. I'm now 43 with a 2.5y old and a 9m old. DS1 was conceived a week after the 3rd loss, and DS2 was out little surprise a year later. It can and does happen all the time. Good luck!

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :-(
I had the implant removed last July and didn't have another period... I was super shocked to do a pregnancy test and find out I had fallen pregnant within days!! About 3 days after my positive test, I started bleeding. Long story short, this went on for 2.5 weeks before I was rushed into hospital with a ruptured ectopic, requiring surgery.
They removed my left fallopian tube and I felt really emtpy following the surgery. I would say in one sense, I was very lucky because I hadn't really accepted the pregnancy and allowed myself to get excited about it before it all started to go wrong... and once the bleeding started, I accepted the loss. But... I felt angry that the NHS had neglected me, left me to fend for myself and then ended up in a life threatening emergency and losing a tube. I was angry for a good few weeks! I think I channeled my upset into that, rather than processing the baby loss.
I was told I must wait at least 3 months to recover from surgery and allow my body to heal. I had regular periods after surgery, but ovulation pain on the left (the side I lost my tube), every month, so I was very concerned that conceiving may be a long and painful process. The first month of "trying" was December and I was frankly too exhausted to do the deed very much! I would say my efforts were lack lustre at best....! ;-) So when my period didn't come in January, I assumed it was actually the effects of surgery, not that I was pregnant!
When 10 days later, it still hadn't come, I did a test at 4pm in the afternoon and nearly fell over when it said positive!
The NHS got me straight in for a placement scan and confirmed it was in the uterus. I'm now 23 weeks - and my due date is the day before I had surgery on my ectopic!

I would say early pregnancy is a whole different ball game after a loss - it's hard to enjoy or feel like you believe it, in case it's taken away... but have hope, it will happen :) :)

Thanks all. I had such a traumatic time with my MMC, 2 rounds of MM then ending in an ERPC, in between being taken into emergency overnight when the bleeding got so bad.

I'm so scared to get pregnant again for fear of this happening again, I just wish there was a way to guarantee it won't happen again. We're trying everything, healthy eating, no booze, acupuncture, exercise, but you still don't know do you

@Conundrum12345 please remember that the fact that it happened doesn't mean it will happen again. It is ok to feel worried, you will know when you're ready to try again.x

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a MMC in June last year and after trying the medical management which failed I had a D&C in July . I had one normal cycle and then fell pregnant again I'm currently 37 weeks.

It hit me hard too as I'd never heard of a MMC was just plodding along oblivious thinking everything was fine (in some ways I miss that)

I think the best thing I did was throw out my ovulation sticks and just really enjoy some time with my partner. Trying to conceive can become very stressful anyway without suffering a loss on top of that

falling pregnant again so quick was a blessing although the early weeks felt like they went on forever I was constantly anxious and had 2 early scans before my 12 week one to check things but I couldn't be happier now that my rainbow baby is arriving in 2 weeks.

I wish you the best of luck just make sure to keep talking about it lots of people don't like to but it really helped me my partner and family were so supportive 🥰

So sorry for your loss @Conundrum12345 I had a miscarriage in April 2020. It's such a terrible time and so many women can relate. My advice would be let yourself have the time you need to recover and come to terms with what has happened and try take the pressure off trying to conceive again a bit like others have said by getting rid of OPKs and symptom spotting etc. I'm saying this from experience as I spent most of last year after my miscarriage putting pressure on myself and getting frustrated it wasn't happening again. I am now 22 weeks pregnant after conceiving in December the first month I hadn't tracked anything and just relaxed and enjoyed time with my partner. 😘

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So sorry for your loss *@Conundrum12345* I had a miscarriage in April 2020. It's such a terrible time and so many women can relate. My advice would be let yourself have the time you need to recover and come to terms with what has happened and try take the pressure off trying to conceive again a bit like others have said by getting rid of OPKs and symptom spotting etc. I'm saying this from experience as I spent most of last year after my miscarriage putting pressure on myself and getting frustrated it wasn't happening again. I am now 22 weeks pregnant after conceiving in December the first month I hadn't tracked anything and just relaxed and enjoyed time with my partner. 😘

Thank you.

That’s such lovely news. I’m so happy for you

Hi OP, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss! I hope you are coping well!

I would have been due my little Dino tomorrow, but unfortunately that little Dino wasn't destined to walk this planet.

I conceived again in January (lost in Late sept) so for me it didn't take long but it was also tough to get excited I still was living the last pregnancy if that makes sense. I cried at every appointment and every time someone said "is this your first" I also suffered with extreme pregnancy anxiety but the midwifes were really understanding (and I admittedly spent far too much on private scans)

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow, and due on the 29th September, my 20 week scan falls on the day my Dino was due and I'm due on the day I lost my first pregnancy so although I wish I had waited somehow it seems to be fait!

My advice would be just to make sure you are mentally ready and that you have taken your time to grieve (one thing I don't think I did) not that I regret it and super happy I am expecting again!

Lots of support and love!

Oh I’m so sorry, it’s such a dark and lonely time. You get caught up in all the ‘what ifs’ and wondering about the future. This is absolutely normal. Just make sure you’re kind to yourself.

I miscarried my second pregnancy (after a healthy little boy) at 9.5 weeks. Started with light spotting but by the next day it was very much over. I had a scan but was sent home for things to run their course, which sadly they did...

I spent the next 4 months googling
, worrying and obsessing over ‘secondary infertility’ and everything else that came up in my Google searches. My anxiety was high and I was convincing myself it wouldn’t happen again. anyway, on my fourth cycle I got a positive and gave birth to a healthy little girl in summer 19.

My advice would be to take time to grieve, talk and be open with your partner and friends about how your feeling. I had so much support yet it was the loneliest time of my life. The Tommy’s website was a lifeline for me, I found the real stories comforting, especially knowing you’re not the only one to think/feel something. Finally, take your time and smart to stay positive.

My first pregnancy ended in mc at 9 weeks last October. Toughest time of our lives. We tried again but I had a chemical at the end of November.

We decided to take a break over Christmas, got pregnant again straight away in January and I am now 18 weeks! I’m still anxious and cry at every scan with worry but everything looks good so far.

Having a mc did seem to increase my fertility in our case as I got pregnant so easily.

I have pcos and take myo inositol and metformin, and also took progesterone in this pregnancy. The one I think made the big difference was low dose aspirin, which I will take throughout the pregnancy.

Hope this helps 🌈

Sorry to derail the thread a bit but @Cafeaulait27 I remember you (or your username at least) from last year. Really pleased to hear that you’re currently 18 weeks ☺️

Ah thank you @TTCAbroad ❤️ I’ve had a couple of messages from users saying they remember me from last year and it’s honestly so touching every time to hear well wishes 😭 I’m still nervous but nothing has shown up as an actual reason to worry yet so far!
How are things going for you? X