Gender at 20w

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Hi,

I would just like some opinions on what you would do?

Went to 20w scan all good, i went in knowing I defo wanted a surprise no gender reveals etc. Told midwife i Didn't want to know. When doing scan she referred to them as baby until the end when she all of a sudden said 'she' she then quickly over compensated for this saying 'you don't want to know do you, even i don't know so surprise for everyone I've never even looked' then carried on saying baby. Me and DH pretty convinced she accidentally let it slip.

Would you book a private one and just confirm this as now a bit in the limbo of do we know or don't we know, and maybe some sort of reveal for the family? or would you carry on as normal and try and forget about it although it is always going to be a thought that it's not a surprise?

I don't know the sex of my baby and I've had loads of scans, sometimes they refer to it as baby, sometimes they say she, sometimes they say he. I wouldn't look too much into it, they have a 50/50 chance that it is a she, but I would not bother finding out as you will still be in the unknown and it will still be a surprise!

@rbetty yeh totally get that but I think it was the way she over compensated for it, she then said 'wait you don't want to know do you' so very unsure.

Yeah I see what you mean, but I would honestly take it with a pinch of salt, if you don't find out you'll still be wondering if she was right though? 😊 so still a surprise? I suppose you could find out then do a reveal party with family and friends, still a nice way to find out?

As the other poster said they refer to baby as all different things. Id tell the midwife more of less at the start its a girl and refer to baby as she/her throughout appointments and they sometimes still say he or him lol. Her reaction after maybe slightlt suspicious however maybe ylur reading into to much cause you think its been ruined for you when it hasnt? I would just carry on as you are. You'll probably have a feeling the whole way through its a girl but you'l still have that wonder throughout and get that suprise possible confirmation.

To be honest if you didn't want to know then I wouldn't get the private scan.

The fact is she maybe did slip up and it could be a girl but as you don't actually know whether she has or not it will still be a surprise as you don't know that it is a girl, so either way still a 50/50 chance. Getting the private scan will just confirm