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Anxiety / depression in early pregnancy

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anon8619 · 11/05/2021 18:18

Hi ladies,
After ttc for 5 years, and 2 donor fets (1 miscarriage), I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Despite trying for so long, ever since our bfp, I've just felt kind of flat. At first I put it down to not wanting to trust things just yet, but as things go on, and symptoms become stronger, I've found myself feeling worse, not better. I feel like I've made a huge mistake, keep feeling convinced I'm going to get cancer because of the treatment (a worry I had during treatment, which has now become a full-blown obsession), worried I won't be able to bond with my baby, feeling like something terrible is going to happen, basically just feeling like a complete failure and there's no hope. I'm booked in for my first midwife appointment in a couple of weeks, but not sure who I can talk to at this stage. I feel like I should be joyous and excited, but I'm about the farthest from that imaginable. My husband doesn't really understand - he's over the moon, and can't quite fathom why I'm feeling like I do.
Anyone have any similar experiences, or advice? xx

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OnslowsBaseballCap · 11/05/2021 18:32

Hi @anon8619 Smile

NC'd as my 'journey' on here is quite identifiable.

DH and I tried for 8 years. IVF, miscarriage, the lot. Last year we decided enough was enough and moved on, it was hard but we did it.

Here I am, 7 weeks pregnant and I hate myself for saying it but I've been miserable since I've found out.

I don't know if it's a case of my head being completely messed up and not knowing how to deal with it? I mean the whole 'moving on' for us was like a full-on grieving process and to have to drag up all these feelings again is not easy to deal with.

I dread bedtime as my mind goes into overdrive. I wake up feeling sick with anxiety. At least during the day I'm distracted with work.

I can't bear the thought of feeling like this for another 7-8 months and live in daily fear of another miscarriage.

Big hugs to you Thanks

anon8619 · 11/05/2021 18:40

Thank you so much for responding @OnslowsBaseballCap. It's really reassuring to know I'm not alone.

Big hugs to you too xx

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