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Covid rules/disabled mum to be.

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Rosieposy89 · 06/05/2021 15:22

Hello, I'm 20+3 with our first baby. I have a physical disability that means I can't use one of my hands (amongst other things). My midwife is very supportive and encouraging about my disability which I am so grateful for. However at the hospital I'm due to have baby at Covid rules are very strict - currently my DH would have to leave very soon after birth and there's no visiting permitted. I completely understand the reasoning behind it btw. I am just feeling quite overwhelmed about the thought of being left with a newborn baby without the support of my DH. I do have care needs myself but could manage as long as I had help to cut up my food etc. I think part of my anxiety about being left on my own is getting stressed in case I find something physically difficult and the midwives are too busy to help, I don't want to be a burden! The problem is as this is my first, I'll have no idea what I can do until baby is here. I do appreciate rules might change and every new mum feels like this and will discuss my worries with my midwife at the 24 week appt. I guess I wanted to hear from any other mums that have experience and are midwives likely to be able to provide the support baby and I may need?

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minniemomo · 06/05/2021 15:27

As it's a fluid situation I would talk to your midwife ASAP but wait until 32 weeks before you make a plan, if lockdown is released as planned you shouldn't have any issues. They do need to make reasonable adaptations for you which could mean letting your partner stay

ingkir · 06/05/2021 16:45

Contact your hospital's PALS (www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/hospitals/what-is-pals-patient-advice-and-liaison-service/) and explain the situation. I know a few pregnant women who have needed to have their partner with them at the hospital during Covid restrictions and PALS has arranged for this to happen.

Rosieposy89 · 06/05/2021 18:05

@minniemomo @ingkir - these are both excellent suggestions, thanks so much. I'll definitely be advocating for myself and baby! Fingers crossed the Covid situation is better by September!

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Keyboard91 · 06/05/2021 18:19

There are ways around this (from experience)

Discuss with midwife in the first instance. I then had the discussion with my consultant (I was consultant led) who wrote into my notes that my partner was to be allowed to stay with baby and me due to my disability in the event that I required a stay. As it turned out, baby needed antibiotics at birth so we were in for a few days. Was not an issue :)

Congratulations on your pregnancy :)

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