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42 and pregnant HELP

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PaulaRaty · 14/11/2007 16:54

I thought I was going through the change but did a test just in case and it turned out to be the just in case bit - any advice

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

SantaBeClausImWorthIt · 14/11/2007 16:55

no, but congratulations!

pagwatch · 14/11/2007 16:57

What advice do you need? I had DD ( DC3) just before I turned 41. It has been lovely.
What is your question about ?

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 14/11/2007 16:57

Sorry, can't give any advice, but congratulations!

rainbowdays · 14/11/2007 16:57

PaulaRaty - Don't mean to put a dampener on any excitement, but you can get a positive test when going through the change! Depends on if it was a sensitive test or not, but could still be the change. If not then big congratulations, I hope you enjoy. Have you other children?

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PaulaRaty · 14/11/2007 16:59

this will be my 3rd others 10 and 7 it seems so long ago and this one wasn't planned so I'm a bit scared

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cece · 14/11/2007 17:02

I am curretnly 15 weeks after a smiliar surprise! I am 40 though. Congratulations! Does your DP/DH know yet?

pagwatch · 14/11/2007 17:03

PaulaRaty
it will be fine. My DS's were 10 and 6 when DD arrived. It has been fantastic !
DS 1 (14 now) is upstairs playing with her as we speak and he just loves her without that thing where they are competeing for the same attention.
I found I was so much more relaxed about the whole thing and I was much more confident about trusting my instincts. She has so far been the easiest child of all because nothing really throws me and i am muchcalmer in myself.
Its great.
( except it did take slightly longer to get back into 'shape' but I think I expected that.)
it is a big gap but trust me it all starts to seem familiar very quickly.
many congratulations

pagwatch · 14/11/2007 17:05

( actually something strange happened to my knees and that has never resolved itself. No one warns you that your knees can get wrinkly )

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PaulaRaty · 14/11/2007 17:10

I think people will guess at the xmas parties when I am only on pop - I like a drink

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Flibbertyjibbet · 14/11/2007 17:17

I had my first at 42 and 2nd at 43.
What advice can you need if its your third??

You will be so laid back this time and the other two are old enough to help out. Its a wonderful blessing! Pagwatch is right about it taking longer to get back in shape though...I went straight from baby bulge to middle age spread...

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PaulaRaty · 14/11/2007 17:21

thanks Flibbertyjibbet I don't know anyone my age having a baby and you have made me feel a whole lot better about it. I think I am worrying about what others may say

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HairyIrene · 14/11/2007 17:26

paularaty
congratulations!

dont give a rats ass what others will think
and that includes medical folks..they made me feel almost ancient at 36 ..

its a great thing
and even better later in life i thikn!

pagwatch · 14/11/2007 17:27

ellceeell · 14/11/2007 17:28

Plan your answers to the intrusive questions - the most annoying is - was it planned?
I don't know why people feel they have the right to ask....... I got practised after a while and used to smile and say "Are you more interested in my sex life or choice of contraception?"
(I was 42 when dd2 was born - she is now 5 with a brother of 21 and a sister who is 18.)

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PaulaRaty · 14/11/2007 18:16

bump

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Lulumama · 14/11/2007 18:19

i suppose you should get checked out ASAP to find out how far along you are, as if you thought were menopausal, your cycle might have been a bit odd

start taking folic acid

also, i suppose you need to talk to your DH and get your heads straight about this

NAB3littlemonkeys · 14/11/2007 18:52

Congratulations!

Re the drinking. Tip out the bottle or wine glass and just keep slyly filling it up with water/lemonade.

beeper · 14/11/2007 21:33

lol @ Hairy......made me feel old at 35.

When had my booking in I just slipped under the 35> box mark cause I am bang on 35

rainbowdays · 15/11/2007 18:01

Paula - hope you are getting used to the idea now, and enjoying it. My mum was 40 and 42 when she had her 4th and 5th children, the rest of us were teenagers at the time, 18 year gap between first and last - she managed fine and I am sure you will. I am pg with my third at 40 and thinking of possibly a 4th if all goes well!!! I used to think that having children in your forties was madness, but now I am here, I think it is great! How did your husband take the news?

nappyaddict · 24/11/2007 00:24

hi paula!! congrats!!

you're in wolverhampton aren't you? if you ever want a chat over coffee or whatever i'm only a short journey away (kingswinford) if so email me on tobys_mummy at btinternet dot com xxxx

overthehill · 24/11/2007 00:37

I had my ds (no.2) aged 41 after a quick and trouble-free labour, which I've no doubt was induced by a trike ride across town that afternoon to an NCT sale, with dd (aged 3) on the seat! I'd felt very conscious of being so much older than all the other mums-to-be, but I got the last laugh with such an easy delivery - and it wasn't as though he was a small baby either: 10lb 2 1/2oz to be precise! So celebrate the fact that life begins at 40 with another addition to the family and the best of luck!

disneystar · 28/11/2007 06:52

i am just 40 and found i was pregnant on sunday i just cried all day with shock but i was so upset mainly to the fact of what other ppl would think am i too old????
ive read lots of replies on here and you guys are so reasurring i am happy my husband is over the moon i guess i have to get used to the idea for a few weeks i have 6 children 21 19 16 7 6 3 also 1 2yr old grandchild as you can see 2 marriages hence the age gaps also older mums reactions are different like when i had my first it was how can i afford it?im more relaxed stable lifestyle i can actually look forward to my little arrival without the worry just gotta get over other ppls reaction i guess

spackcat · 28/11/2007 09:57

Hi ladies, congrat's to paularatty and disneystar! Would just like to put my two cents in and say older mums are the best! I am 26 myself but my mum was 38 when she had me (more unusual then) and my nan was 40 when she had her(had two mc between mum and her sister so 14 year age gap) and they made the loveliest mums in the world! Both are no longer with me now - mums life was cut unfairly short with a degnerative disease but they were so grounded and calm, always had time for me. Good luck with your lo's, and don't worry about what people may think - they are probably over the moon for you anyway! Take carex

ruty · 28/11/2007 09:59

my mum had me at 41 in the seventies. Rare then but common place now. Enjoy and congratulations!

Notquitegrownup · 28/11/2007 10:35

Hi PaulaRaty

I used to visit a site called Mothers35plus, before I found Mumsnet. It is full of mothers who are . . . 35+. They are a great bunch and quite a few will understand your feelings of being the only older mum in an area. It also takes a fresh and very sensible look at lots of the myths associated with health risks of being an older Mum.

I had ds1 at 38, dsd2 at 41, and havent found many disadvantages to starting a family later in life - OK, my tummy hasn't pinged back with an elastic boing and I probably do get a little more tired than some of the younger mums, but dh and 1 are more settled financially and emotionally than we were 10 years ago.

There was another thread on this very issue a couple of weeks ago. I'll see if I can find you a link.

Oh, and congratulations, by the way!

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