Section request, confused...

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AssassinatedBeauty · 30/04/2021 22:20

That means that the consultant agrees that you can have an elective Caesarian. They have written down that they have explained to you the possible issues with a CS but you are still wanting to have one. It says that you won't be offered the C section before 39 weeks. Also you would like a c section even if you came into hospital in labour at less than 39 weeks.

The only situation in which you would be ok with a vaginal delivery would be if you were in labour before 39 weeks and already at 9cm or fully dilated (10cm).

Does that match what you wanted to ask for?

MelissaAnn92 · 30/04/2021 22:22

@Bittersweet12

So today I had my section consultation I spoke to a women first who was REALLY nice about things, really clear about things saying she could fully understand the reason for requesting ect, then she got the consultant who to be honest I just didn’t understand what she was getting at. I came out in absolute floods because I took the outcome as negative, my partner was like why are you so upset? She was on our side about things you just have to see a second person anyway for protocol, so we were sat bickering over it because he saw it one way I saw it another haha. Then the lady who I spoke first then called me because I’d left a prescription there, and I asked her again what really the out come was cos I was confused and told me the consultant was understanding ect, then reading this they said ‘supported her decision’ even tho they never actually told me that, so reading this how do you take it?

I wouldn't worry hun , I had a tear which needed a colorectal repair and was told by the surgeon never to push again unless I wanted to end up incontinent. My midwife stated it needs to be section. Had telephone call and the consultant was so blaze.... "well, you could push again if you wanted to try. It might be fine this time"

Like, hello? Have you read my notes about likelihood of incontinence?

I think they just try and avoid sections unless 100% neccesary and sometimes forget what people have been through during "natural" labours. There was nothing natural about it

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Bittersweet12 · 30/04/2021 22:24

@AssassinatedBeauty

That means that the consultant agrees that you can have an elective Caesarian. They have written down that they have explained to you the possible issues with a CS but you are still wanting to have one. It says that you won't be offered the C section before 39 weeks. Also you would like a c section even if you came into hospital in labour at less than 39 weeks.

The only situation in which you would be ok with a vaginal delivery would be if you were in labour before 39 weeks and already at 9cm or fully dilated (10cm).

Does that match what you wanted to ask for?

Yes pretty much! It was just very confusing because during the appointment didn't make things clear that she actually agreed with my request, it kind of just seemed like she was trying to put me off which I was expecting, and I was having a second opinion. So when I read these, and spoke to the lady who called me I was a little confused 🤦🏼‍♀️ guessing I'm blonde for a reason 😫

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Bittersweet12 · 30/04/2021 22:25

@AssassinatedBeauty

That means that the consultant agrees that you can have an elective Caesarian. They have written down that they have explained to you the possible issues with a CS but you are still wanting to have one. It says that you won't be offered the C section before 39 weeks. Also you would like a c section even if you came into hospital in labour at less than 39 weeks.

The only situation in which you would be ok with a vaginal delivery would be if you were in labour before 39 weeks and already at 9cm or fully dilated (10cm).

Does that match what you wanted to ask for?

Thank you so much as well for clearing that for me!

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AssassinatedBeauty · 30/04/2021 22:32

Being blonde is nothing to do with anything. It sounds like you were still feeling vulnerable after your previous labour experience - the consultant should have been able to understand that and explain things to you so that you understood and felt reassured.

A lot of what happens around requesting a c section is to do with hospitals having targets to reduce the number of c sections. So they will want to double and triple check your request, and make absolutely sure that you understand what the risks are as well as the benefits. Hence the second opinion and the offer of a referral to "birth afterthoughts" which would be about discussing your previous delivery.

So, please don't worry about this. At the next appointments if they ask you again just repeat that you are aware of the pros and cons and that you are still requesting an elective c section as it's the right choice for you.

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Bittersweet12 · 30/04/2021 22:40

@AssassinatedBeauty

Being blonde is nothing to do with anything. It sounds like you were still feeling vulnerable after your previous labour experience - the consultant should have been able to understand that and explain things to you so that you understood and felt reassured.

A lot of what happens around requesting a c section is to do with hospitals having targets to reduce the number of c sections. So they will want to double and triple check your request, and make absolutely sure that you understand what the risks are as well as the benefits. Hence the second opinion and the offer of a referral to "birth afterthoughts" which would be about discussing your previous delivery.

So, please don't worry about this. At the next appointments if they ask you again just repeat that you are aware of the pros and cons and that you are still requesting an elective c section as it's the right choice for you.

Thank you so much for that I defiantly will! Hopefully the second consultant gets my point to, and agrees x

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ForeverBubblegum · 30/04/2021 23:09

I think that they have to make sure they tell you about every possible negative, so they don't end up getting sued if you are in the tiny percentage of cases where something goes wrong. That probably made it seem really negative, and like they were against it. You also discussed your previous birth, which sounds like it was a really traumatic experience, so maybe dealing with the emotions of that made you less able to process what was been said.

Either way it sounds like they did a shit job of explaining. They should never have let you go without making sure you understood what had been said.