Is it normal to be completely fed up so early in pregnancy?

[Emtaboo]

Hi everyone
Not sure if I am the only one feeling like this, and feel guilty for saying it.
I am nearly 10 weeks and going for a private scan and NIPT test this weekend for peace of mind.
I have had an absolute gutsful of the symptoms and had no idea that being pregnant would feel this miserable. I don’t want to tell people yet due to a previous m/c. I have terrible nausea, which means that I’m in a vicious circle of not feeling like food or knowing what to eat/ drink, then going too long without food making me feel worse and lightheaded. When I eat, I’ve got terrible heartburn/ indigestion and am trying to belch constantly to ease it. I have the other symptoms such as painful boobs and awful tiredness in the evenings when I can feel the blood draining from my face. I feel like I want to go to bed on my own to spread out as I am so miserable and can’t get comfortable. I hope my partner understands. I haven’t told him this. It’s not him, I just feel so miserable and uncomfortable, I just value time on my own in bed.
So many women are worried about getting the right nutrition for the baby etc, and I’m not being selfish but all I can think of is looking after myself at the moment and what is making me comfortable.
I even feel guilty writing this as everyone expects us all to be sickeningly happy when we’re pregnant. I’m 40 next week and have no children (had m/c a few years ago) , so this is not an unwanted pregnancy at all.
I just wonder am I on my own? And I genuinely struggle to understand at the moment why any woman would go through this more than once!!! Sorry, I have just found this a hideous experience so far.

Yes Being pregnant sucked. I spent the whole time wondering when I would start wondering around meadows in maxi dresses, clutching my bump. Sadly that never happened.

However, for lots of people you feel worst in first trimester and about week 12/13/14 that hideous nauseous fog lifts and you start to feel better

Congrats

Yeah first trimester is god-awful for me too. I U
used to beg my husband to kill me, as I couldn't cope with the illness any longer. I'm on no. 2 and so far its been a lot easier (in that I'm not actually bed-ridden and can eat something - last time I lost 2 stone and probably should have gone to hospital in hindsight). At 10 weeks you're nearly through the worst.

First trimester is shockingly awful for some people. It really took me by surprise how debilitating it was!

First trimester is the worst part - you're nearing the end of it so you're presently smack bang in the worst part of pregnancy. It gets easier, eating small carby snacks eased my morning sickness loads. Don't worry about nutrients right now, saying hydrated and keeping everything down is the most important when you feel so dire. Also - congratulations! I'm looking at my three week old son as I write this, you have the most exciting time ahead of you, it's totally worth it

I could have written this post myself! Especially the part about valuing my own time and space in bed! Nearly 35 weeks now and I promise you it does get better - hang in there

Sorry you’re going through this
I’m a similar age to you and am experiencing nothing of what you’re experiencing, nor did I in my pregnancy last year, so before someone comes along and says it’s because of your age...it’s not. It seems to be the luck of the draw
Hope the rest of your pregnancy eases up

Same. It got better around 16 weeks.

Yup. It’s super hard. I’m jealous of those who don’t have many symptoms, especially the sickness and nausea. It is relentless. I found it got a lot easier at about week 17/18, although that probably seems an eternity away. It’s well worth it though when you have your lovely baby in your arms at the end of it.

Like most people here I really felt the difference between the 1st and 2nd trimester! I had days where I could barely get out of bed at the beginning but now that's a distant memory! I'm 18 weeks today and full of energy. I started feeling back to my normal self around 13 weeks. Hope you feel better soon!

In all honesty, I've felt like you're describing the whole way through my pregnancy, I'm 33 weeks now.
Like you, I suffered a miscarriage previously, and was absolutely delighted to be expecting. We'd dreamed of this happening for us, but it's been such a depressing and disappointing experience. Don't get me wrong, obviously we're really lucky that baby's been doing well and we're still so excited for him to arrive, but pregnancy has really taken its toll on me. I had terrible morning sickness from week 5-20, I have lower back pain, PGP, my skin's gone to shit, the baby's enormous and so am I, the lipoedema in my legs has doubled, and my mental health has really taken a nosedive...it's just been rough, and not anything like I'd hoped it would be.

I don't have any solutions, because obviously I'm still struggling and I'm weeks away from our due date, but you're definitely not on your own.

The guilt is probably what I've found most difficult. You're not supposed to complain, but tbh I think when pregnancy is as difficult as I've found it, and god knows there are women who have far worse experiences, then I think we're really entitled to say "this is shit and I hate it"...that doesn't mean we don't love our babies, or that we're not grateful that we can have them, or that we're shitty people, it just means we're honest about how horrible and difficult pregnancy can be.

Congratulations on your pregnancy 💐 I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time of it, I really hope it gets better soon!

I was exactly the same. It has got better now I’m past 16 weeks. I started taking Omeprazole for the heartburn and I’m not joking it made me feel like a new woman! The ridiculous heartburn and nausea disappeared pretty much overnight. I’m starting to feel slight movements now (I’m having twins and am 17 weeks) so starting to enjoy it all a little more.

I wanted to thank all you ladies for your replies. I must admit I feel better knowing I’m not the only one feeling like this and I’m not being judged. Thanks for sharing your experiences too and good luck with everything x

You’re not alone - pregnancy is the most miserable thing I’ve ever done. If I’d known the reality of how awful I would feel then I probably wouldn’t have done it. I have HG which I’m hoping will eventually go but at 15 weeks there’s no sign of it abating. You’re not alone, @Emtaboo!

What makes me laugh is when people say ‘you must be so excited’. No, not really. It’s hard to be excited to see the inside of the toilet for the fourth time today. I totally get what you mean about feeling guilty. I hope it passes for us both!

Ten weeks? I'm eleven weeks and I feel fucking awful. First trimester for me is the absolute pits. And not even a great big bump so everyone offers you a seat everywhere!

It's my third baby, though, so I know it'll get better for me. I felt the trimesters quite strongly in my previous pregnancies, so I'm expecting to feel a hell of a lot better over the next two or three weeks. Then the third trimester is a struggle again but an easier one because it all feels a bit more reasonable - and close to being over!

It annoys me when people talk about pregnancy automatically being so wonderful, or about pregnancy brain. No, if you look at the symptoms objectively without mentioning the baby as cause, it sounds miserable, doesn't it? And no wonder I'm not firing on all cylinders if I wake up every hour in the third trimester to pee, turn over, or drink Gaviscon out of the bottle. That's torture if other people do it to you.

Last baby! I'm very committed to that!

I had come to accept that I would only ever enjoy my pregnancies in retrospect!

Omg OP, I feel you. 10 weeks tomorrow and I could not be more miserable. I’ve had relentless nausea and vomiting, diarrhoea, constipation, bloating and exhaustion since 4 weeks. I can’t do anything. I’m also so stressed because of a previous MC. I thought I wanted more children but right now I can’t see how I could ever go through this again. Fx it gets much better for both of us soon! X

I'm only 7.5 weeks and this last week has been horrendous. I'm in tears again now because of how utterly terrible I feel, I haven't been sick just gagged & tiny but sick in my mouth a few times, but I constantly feel badly hungover. Nauseous, headache, v sore eyes, dizzy, the furry tongue.

Being hungry & thirsty but not fancying any food or drink, tho equally having to munch on gingernut biscuits. Craving McDonald's, had one Thurs & was the only meal I've enjoyed this week

I'm fearing it's going to get worse for a few week or 2 yet as well. I don't get why some people enjoy being pregnant, it's bloody horrible!!!

I’m 42 and pregnant with my second but 4th pregnancy in 2.5 years.
I hate being pregnant and each time I wonder why I do this to myself.
I desperately want this baby, but it doesn’t stop me moaning and wanting it to hurry up and be over.