Please help me

[Supernova18]

hello,
my ex left me 3 weeks ago, maybe less. The breakup has been hard and he basically kicked me out. Then he talks about things may work one day but not right away and it goes around and around. Then he will never come back, then he may realise etc.

Anyway, I have discovered on Thursday I am pregnant, something we had decided to do since Christmas. He doesn't seem to care and has told me its up to me, can I support myself etc. He told me last night it may be good for us and draw us together, then this morning, I need to decide if I want the baby and I am happy for him to be doing his own thing.

Can I ask for any help/advice? will I cope as a single mum going through the pregnancy alone too?

You will, but he sounds like an absolute head fuck.
He’s stringing you along.
The decision you need to make first is the one to cut this arsehole out of your love life permanently THEN focus on the decision to continue or end your pregnancy, don’t let him influence you with vague promises.
Good luck.

Thank you,

He is awful - yesterday he said to me he will realise and this could be what pull us together. I just don't have time for it as I feel so gross.

Financially is my concern with doing it alone

Agree with previous poster. Draw a line and move on. He will just mess around with you and make your situation more vulnerable and unstable. Also expect when you reject him for him to start to sound more positive about your relationship. Don’t be fooled.

If I was you I’d be making plans for how to make it work as a single mother if you plan to have the baby.

Best of luck 💐

Thank you,

I just don't know financially what I can get e.g. childcare with a baby etc

100% don't let him dictate anything to you. Sounds like you are better off without him. He clearly doesn't know what he wants but you can be strong enough to tell him you're done and work on figuring things out for yourself without him.

Do you have any help from family or friends?

Don't go back to him. Why are you hanging on to his every word and falling for it every time?
You need to build up your self esteem
You are an adult and need to think properly about this baby without this guy in the picture because as you can see he is not reliable and clearly doesn't respect you. If he did he wouldn't be playing silly, pathetic games with your mind.

Hi op
I'm really sorry you are going through this. But congratulations on pregnancy.

However you need to follow your heart. Even tho I don't know you personally but I think you would be a great mum. There is always support out there if you need it.

Keep us updated x

You need to decide whether you want to be a single parent, or to move in and not keep the pregnancy. You must decide soon though, as it is harder the longer it continues. I would not want a wanker like that in any child's life