Any plus size mums on here

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Just looking for mums who may be in the same boat as myself. After a tricky start I've decided to go ahead with this pregnancy, I am now 14 weeks , in weighing in now at 98 kilos, I've gained around 3/4 lbs in total . I'm worrying as I feel I should be either losing as I'm so heavy to start with (no alcohol thought that would help lol) or at least keep my weight the same until the last trimester where of course weight gain is inevitable. I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid just before I got the BFP and currently on medication although only 75mg , this hasn't made any difference and I'm really starting to panic that the weight is just going to keep pilling on. I can't bare to look in the mirror or I just cry , I don't want my partner to touch me as I'm so embarrassed as to how big I am. I'm not in denial by far but I just cannot see what more I can do. This is really causing my anxiety to rocket. Wondering if u lovely mumsnetters have any advise or have been or are in the same situation as me...

My daughter is 16 now but I was about the same weight as you when I fell pregnant with her.

I had pretty bad nausea 24/7 from 6-20 weeks and was sick every morning without fail for the rest of my pregnancy which resulted in me ending up 10lb lighter than when I started after giving birth! I was also diagnosed with underactive thyroid at the beginning of my pregnancy.

I think a 3/4lb gain at 14 weeks is fine, you can't expect to lose weight when pregnant under normal circumstances. I gained about a stone in baby etc weight by the end (2 weeks late).

Are you having any additional monitoring because of your thyroid? Do make sure its kept on top of as if it's out of kilter it may have an effect on your mental health and make your anxiety worse. Also be aware that post birth hypothyroid can contribute to post-natal depression so it's really important you get it checked regularly.

On the upside, despite my weight I didn't develop any related issues - no high blood pressure, swelling, joint problems or gestational diabetes - so try to just look after yourself like you would normally and not worry too much.

Congratulations and good luck

Thank you so much for your reply , I never seem to get morning sickness so my appetite hasn't actually changed , I wouldn't say I eat a lot per se but just pick inbetween all the time , midwife isn't concerned about my weight in fact she has marked me has low risk. I do have an appointment with the endo at some point on the telephone for my thyroid.

I'm 10 weeks pregnant with a bmi of 43
I will be consultant led and am pretty stressed about it all
BUT I am trying to eat healthily though I have arthritis and am unable to take my pain relief which means I can't really exercise and also want to eat choc and takeaways
I've lost 10lbs so far and have been using my fitness pal app, sticking to 1800 calories a day so not going too low obvs

I just wanted to say I know how you feel!

When I had my son 3years ago I had a bmi of 32 I think I was consultant led but due to a blood clotting disorder I was just told to keep my weight gain to a minimum and had a healthy pregnancy.

I have a bmi of 40 and am 37 weeks pregnant. Everything has gone fine and I have actually lost 10lbs despite getting bigger everywhere! It’s crazy because I look humongous. I am depressed about it at times and would have liked to have been smaller when I got pregnant. However my husband loves me just as I am and my body is doing amazing things growing this baby. Try to embrace what is happening and make sure that you eat healthily for the baby. My appetite has been massive at times when the baby clearly needs it and I have mainly had lots of protein which is great for baby and doesn’t pile fat on me. Also I am planning to breastfeed. The combination of breastfeeding and running around after a little one will really help with the weight loss. My sister used to be a size 16 (I’m way bigger) and a year after birth she was a 10 simply from pushing a buggy for miles and breastfeeding. She became really fit. I’m hoping for an even more dramatic turnaround!
But for now... we have to think of our growing babies and eat right.
Try not to despair. Thank your body for what it’s doing and remember this isn’t for ever.

Thanks for your input Elmtree, sorry to hear about the arthritis that must be difficult. Well done on the weightless too thats so good as I know how really hard it is

Hi OP
I am 8+4 and my BMI at booking in was 30, so I’m in a similar boat.
Please don’t judge yourself harshly when you look in the mirror! Our bodies are doing weird and wonderful things. I am the exact same weight so far, yet my shape has changed (to bloated!) already. It’s going to change a lot more by the end, whether I put on a lot of weight or a little! It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Try to focus on eating nutritious foods and follow the midwife’s advice not to worry.

I don’t know about you but I often overeat when I’m stressed or anxious so worrying about weight becomes a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy! I am using MyFitnessPal but with calorie limit set for weight to stay the same.

Congrats. Pregnancy is not the time to be focusing on weight loss. You should focus on eating a highly nutritious diet and try to limit treaty foods which have low nutritional value to calorie ratios. Also make sure you exercise, this is not only good for you but can improve the health of baby.
You state your weight but not your height or BMI.

My BMI was 32 at booking, it was 26 2 years ago but 36 in my last term pregnancy (twins now 6). Really let the diet side of things slip then depression ate after a miscarriage. I've kept up with powerlifting sessions thankfully or it could have been much worse, trying to maintain as much strength as possible throughout despite spd/pgp worsening. I took up lifting to repair damage from previous pregnancies and reduce daily pain from osteoarthritis which was diagnosed in 2017. I find myself trying to cover up as my belly flab sinks below bump and is quite jiggly in maternity leggings. Gained far too much this pregnancy so far as I've become a carb loader, slowly reducing that in the hope I can limit further gains. 24+1wk atm

Thank you everyone im feeling a little better about the situation now

Beastofbodmas my bloating has been unreal especially in the evenings , I've actually been going to bed early because I can't bare it especially when I see it in the mirror

I’m 34 & 17 weeks pregnant to date I’ve lost 17 lbs! My weight at conception was 237 anyone else in a similar boat? No sickness since 12 weeks. OB doesn’t seem concerned? But I am!

I had BMIs well over 30 with both pregnancies. I also have a low thyroid, which you should definitely keep under monitoring.

I would say try to eat healthily and avoid cakes, chocolates etc in favour of fruit and veg without actually dieting. If you take sugar in tea or on cereal try to cut down. If you do that, with not drinking as well, you will probably find you gain relatively little during the pregnancy.

If like me you get heartburn in the third trimester, you could find you weigh a lot less after the birth than before. If so, the trick is to harness it and not pile it back on like I did, both times.

Good luck and really don't worry. If you are sensible and eat healthily, you will be fine!

I’ve a bmi of 39. I have to say i have been a bit sod it and given in to what I’m craving and been eating a lot of pot noodles!! . I have a fairly active job though and generally tend to walk 20k plus steps a day.. not that that has ever been enough to keep me slim.
I worried terribly at the start but now at 21 weeks it’s become fairly obvious it’s not just fat and feel a lot better about life now I have a bump.
I think that really helps

Well even after actually loosing 17 lbs at my last OB apt of which the OB isn’t worried - I think cause I’m large 237lbs I did get some good news today my NTD blood test for spina bifida came back negative & low risk for DS - pray the Lord! Anyone else have any news on loosing weigh & still having a healthy baby? Would love to hear from you!

My BMI is 33. I have Hyperemesis so will probably lose weight but can only eat carbs and stuff like cold pizza and smash. Feeling really gross. Worried for my booking appointment on Friday. Worried for this pregnancy, especially at higher risk of COVID

My BMI was 33 at booking and it wasnt actually mentioned although it has been written in my notes , I've actually only gained about 1lb now at 27 weeks , I think because I'm quite depressed and my appetite hasn't really changed which is a good thing the depression not so much...

I've been put on clexane for my BMI & age & Hyperemesis. Probably a good thing. I'm so immobile and house bound with sickness

I’m a plus size preggo. In an ideal world I’d have been lighter but this isn’t an ideal world, it’s the real world. I’m 9+5. Thankfully I’ve lost the weight I put on during IVF which makes me happier. Still big though. I tend to eat quite well so I feel confident that I’m doing all I can for my baby. I’m very very bloated though, have been since the IVF and it won’t go away. I look pregnant which isn’t good given that I’m 9 weeks haha!

Bless u both , I've heard of clexane , is it a blood thinner ? And the bloating at the start is awful I hated it x