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Missed miscarriage

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Piggers946 · 26/04/2021 18:06

This post might get a bit long, so apologies in advance.

I had my LMP on 05/02, first tested positive on 02/03 and had a private scan done 06/04. At the private scan I thought I was around 8 1/2 weeks going by LMP but they couldn't find a heartbeat and sonographer said the pregnancy was only about 5 weeks along by what she could see. We were told to come back two weeks later for a rescan.

Last week Friday 16/04 I started spotting, just the occasional light pink and sometimes brown jelly/slimey/mucus-like discharge when wiping. Then wiped bright red once on the following Tuesday before it went back to clean wipes the rest of the day. On 21/04 we went for the rescan and same sonographer could only see minimal growth and still no heartbeat, she said it looked to be only about 5 1/2 weeks now. She said it was a missed miscarriage and referred me on to the EPU the following morning. She phoned me back and said I've an appointment for next Tuesday 27/04 when I should be about 11 1/2 weeks. I'm still spotting brown on and off and had one more red wipe today. But none of it has filled a pad or even stained my underwear, there's not been a single clot as far as I could tell and cramps have either been absent or very minimal.

I know I just need to wait and see what they see and say at the EPU next week but has anyone gone through the same where the missed miscarriage has taken so long to process naturally or where somehow the baby was just slow to develop and eventually still caught up? As the sonographer said the baby stopped growing around 5 weeks, meaning it's now been just over 6 weeks already and my body still hasn't caught on or processed it naturally. I know chances are very slim to none that everything will work out still but I can't help but hold on to the tiniest bit of hope. This is my second pregnancy and would be my second miscarriage after having a chemical last August.

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Shamoo · 26/04/2021 18:17

Hi @Piggers946 - so sorry you are going through this, I know how hard it is and send you lots of hugs.

My second MMC I got a heartbeat at 6wk5 days. I then went for a scan at just over 10 weeks and it had stopped growing at 6wks6 days, so had been there about three and a half weeks. It took another week to start passing. I know that’s not as long as you, but thought I might share. Mine did pass without any medical intervention at all. I was on progesterone pesseries which I think contributed to the length it took to pass.

Wishing you all the very best. X

Chanel05 · 26/04/2021 18:57

Wishing you all the best op. I had a mmc in 2019 and unfortunately, it was bad news. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear but I remember frantically googling and looking for positive stories. Take care of yourself Thanks

PinkCookie11 · 26/04/2021 19:00

I had Mmc and was told to go back for 3 scans in the hope it caught up but sadly it never.
As pp I was stressed out my head googling and wish someone had said to me it doesn’t look good.
Sending lots of love.

movehimintothesun · 26/04/2021 19:13

So sorry that you are going through this OP.
My first MMC was my first pregnancy, and I'm afraid I was in the category you fear. The 12w scan revealed no heartbeat, growth probably stopped about 7/8 was. I went home to wait it out and had spotting/mucus discharge etc, I thought it was all complete (didn't really know what to expect tbh) - but a scan a month later revealed my body hadn't done much at all, as it turned out, and I ended up having an ERPC anyway, after I guess a total of 2 months since growth stopped.

I'm so very sorry, take care of yourself. Thanks

Piggers946 · 26/04/2021 21:17

@Shamoo @Chanel05 @PinkCookie11 @movehimintothesun

Thank you all for sharing your experiences, I know it can't be easy doing so. I'm just absolutely heartbroken and just have no other way to describe it. I know we can try again but we'd both been looking forward to it so much already.

I think for me it will likely be medical or surgical intervention since it's been so long now already but will see what they say tomorrow. Also because I don't think I can take waiting much longer for it to happen naturally. Even though I'm still holding out the tiniest sliver of hope for tomorrow, I know what the odds are and where we stand. So, I would just prefer it be over now, so we can deal with it properly, if that makes sense.

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PinkCookie11 · 26/04/2021 21:22

Makes total sense! I had surgical intervention the next day after confirmed mmc because I just needed it over with it, like you to process feelings.
Please let us know what they say tomorrow, take care Daffodil

movehimintothesun · 27/04/2021 08:27

What you say makes total sense - with hindsight, I wished I had opted for surgical intervention straight away rather than trying to wait it out, for exactly the reason you and @PinkCookie11 mention. Sending you strength and love for today.

Piggers946 · 27/04/2021 14:24

EPU did another scan and found that our baby sadly died at 8 weeks rather than 5. I didn't need blood tests for additional confirmation as they could see the sac had begun to collapse already and the pregnancy was already breaking away from the uterus wall as well. I opted for medical management to speed things up and because surgical would've meant a bit of wait still due to reduced procedures at the moment what with Covid. Just want it to be over now to be honest

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PinkCookie11 · 27/04/2021 14:31

I’m so sorry op ❤️ Sending you lots of love.

movehimintothesun · 27/04/2021 15:45

So sorry @Piggers946 😞 Sending you much love.

Piggers946 · 03/05/2021 12:17

Well, just to give you an update. I ended up in hospital after having gone to A&E Thursday morning due to excessive blood loss. They put me on fluids and there was a good chance I'd need a blood transfusion. In the end my blood levels thankfully elevated just enough not to need the transfusion and they let me go home late Friday afternoon with an iron supplement for the next 4 weeks. What a week it's been, never thought I'd go through anything like this. Work's given me some time off at least, so just taking it easy so I can recover

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