First trimester feel like death- help me

[Sleeplessemma]

This is my second pregnancy and so far could not be more night and day. I had very very mild symptoms first time around, this time, 0 energy, constantly feel sick, food is repulsive (yet I’ve gained weight, go figure) I just feel sorry for myself.

I’ve got a 19month old and I can’t cook, can’t clean (because any movement makes me sick) can’t play or do too much at all. Hubby is having to take the brunt, which is fine but he often forgets to cook, so I have to make a healthy last min dinner for her and gag whilst I do it.

Anyone got any tried and true ways of getting through? I’m nearly 9 weeks and the idea of 4 weeks more of this feels like hell!

What you must do, first thing tomorrow morning, is ring your GP. Tell them how sick you are, how movement makes you sick, how you're struggling to care for your child. Tell them you would like a prescription for anti nausea medication. I am lucky in that I had a very sympathetic GP. If they refuse, ask to speak to a different GP and lay it on thick.

The second thing you must do is ensure your husband will cook for your 19mo. Up to you how you do this. Set an alarm and ring him up (from bed) when it's time? Leave a big notice somewhere? Tbh it's a bit tragic he can't just remember, but now's not the time to have a massive argument about it. Get it done however it has to happen.

The third thing is for you to give DH a shopping list of anything you feel you can manage to eat or drink. He can get it whiles he's collecting your prescription. Possibly also include ready made foods to feed your daughter. The most important thing is to stay hydrated. That's the real health issue for you at the moment, not food or a balanced diet. My second pregnancy, I lived for several weeks on squash, Haribo and pizza. This time it's fruit.

I also had a mild first pregnant and a truly awful second one. Alas my third is proving to be truly awful too. I am deeply deeply sympathetic. Remember that it will end! Honestly! Rest unless you are doing something genuinely essential and get those meds. If they're not enough, other options are available so give it a few days then ring back.

I spoke to my GP today and they said because I’m rarely physically sick, they don’t really like to prescribe anti sickness meds because they aren’t ‘clinically tested’ in pregnancy, they said it’s only when you can’t even keep water down or are getting dehydrated then the risk of dehydration is bigger than any risk from the tablets. I had complications with my first so I’m scared, just in case.

My hubby is fasting for ramadan so he’s extra forgetful. Plus he’s used to a life of being mollycoddled by his mum .

I’m bloody awful at work too, thank god I’m working from home and can go for regular lie downs. I hope it fades at 14 weeks!

Thank you for your advice

I have never been physically sick in pregnancy, but I have taken anti nausea meds gratefully both times. Nothing going in ends up with the same result as everything coming back up again! Honestly, I would really encourage you to call them again and lay it on thick about how badly it's affecting your life. My GP was very concerned that I was basically unable to do anything except lie in bed feeling like death. I've still done my fair share of lying around while DH does everything, but I've been able to ingest enough food and water that I've not been worried about my health objectively.

Cyclizine and ondansetron are the two they're likely to prescribe. I urge you to look them up and really think about risks vs rewards right now. Do you know the Best Use of Medicine in Pregnancy (BUMPS) website? I've found it to be very balanced and informative.

I remind/ask my husband to do stuff by text message from my sickbed if necessary. Much better than having to get up and do it myself!

Totally feel your pain.. at 16 weeks now and starting to feel better.. there is hope.. I just found I would do anything just to get through the day.. my OH would feed my son but if he was working shifts I would feed him what I could.. normally toast or fruit bread, raw veg, fruit, yoghurt.. etc..
Did not move from the sofa and opening the curtains was just about all I could achieve.. I was working from home to which was a bloody blessing.. drink what you can and nibble what you can.. do what you can just to get by for now..

I'm on my 2nd now, nearly 16 weeks. First pregnancy was a breeze, this time I felt horrific from around 6 weeks, constant nausea but not physically being sick, all whilst running around after a one year old. It's bloody hard. Thankfully my sickness subsided by 14 weeks so hopefully you wont be suffering for too much longer. I actually found that not eating was making me feel worse, so I ate little and often and it would give me a little bit of energy to at least interact with my DD for short periods. Drink lots of iced water too as this weather wont be helping matters. Hope you start feeling better soon. X

It's pretty shit your husband cant or doesn't remember to cook a meal for his own daughter..

I'm same as you OP, first pregnancy was barely noticeable, this one I felt like I'd been hit by a truck. Healthy ready meals, rest on the couch while watching LO, and try vitamin B for the nausea! And remember it'll pass