I need some encouragement 😭

[Cinderellashoes]

I am between 10/11 weeks pregnant and I’m suffering from the most horrid nausea and occasionally being sick on an evening. I also have awful awful heart burn and since my BFP I’ve had diarrhoea every day/every few days. The midwife has said it’s all normal abs caused my hormones but I just feel SHIT. By the time I get home from work I am exhausted end usually fall asleep! I also have a 2 year old and a 6 year old and I am guilt ridden that I’m not being a better mom and spending more time with them. My husband is wfh so I’ve been able to have more naps than usual (albeit ones where I usually get woken up) but I am so worried about how I will feel when he’s back in the office. Does it get any easier? Anyone ever had the diarrhoea and nausea in early pregnancy abs then improve? Sorry for the self indulgent moan! I’m a nurse and I’ve had a really awful day; my feet are killing me and I could just cry. I am incredibly grateful to be pregnant but just having a really bad time

Oh it sounds like your having a terrible time of it! Just wanted to reach out and say, you have every right to feel the way you do: you have so much on your plate! I think you can give yourself the love and patience you would give a friend: like there is nothing worse than the shits oh jesus! Especially when you've got to get on with life.

Definetly lean on husband and is there anyone who can help with the children so you have more time to rest and recuperate? Use everyone around you as much as you can!! I stopped cleaning recently because I would hoover for example and then have to sleep for an hour and I thought ... it's just better If my healthy husband does this instead... so he has to work a bit more, but hey I'm making an eyeball and an elbow right now so...

Dont worry about being a 'bad mum'to the other two. Kids are fine with situations like this and it is a great opportunity for them to be empathetic towards you and see that parents need help too sometimes. I dont even remember my mum being pregnant with my siblings and I was around the same age as yours, so I know it has like no impact!

I think these things do tend to go away, I hope this happens for you soon.

Sorry kinda long message

Thank you so much! I have my mom who works full time but sometimes has them for an hour at the weekend. They are at school/nursery but the LO is only at nursery in the days I work as it’s so expensive. My husband helps especially at the weekend when he’s around more. He’s actually really stepped up and gets up early every weekday and weekend I’m not working so I can sleep. It does help but by lunchtime I feel awful again. I am maybe 10.5 weeks now and really really hope this improves soon x

I'm really sorry you're going through this, having to maintain an active job at the same time is really tough. I have a job I can do from home, and that really helped - don't know how I could have kept working without it.
I suffered from terrible heartburn from the start and nausea, headaches, and complete exhaustion. The good news is that at 13 weeks I'm far less nauseous and have loads more energy. I'm still struggling a lot with heartburn but I'm getting an omeprazol prescription so hopefully that will help.
The improvement for me happened around the 12 week mark.

I'm almost 19 weeks and I can say mines did subside, I felt awful all the time in the first trimester. The good news is for the majority it does get better to the point where you don't feel pregnant - no nausea, less peeing, more energy and more yourself etc. I don't feel pregnant bar the odd ache, a common feeling at this stage apparently so it does get better in the second tri.

Be kind to yourself and try for as much support as you can from those who are available. I hope your symptoms settle soon ☺️🤞🏻