Finding this pregnancy so hard

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I am 17 weeks and I still feel dreadful. My energy levels are so low and I called the midwife today to beg for an iron infusion and she said she would look into it.
I can not do my job properly. I can't look after my children properly. All I want to do is sleep and its making me really depressed. I am just sat here crying because I need to go food shopping and have no energy what so ever to go.
I have managed to get a last minute tesco slot tomorrow which is a huge relief. I just hope I remember to collect it. My brain is next to useless at the moment, I missed a therapy appointment for my daughter today which I have waited months for

Just had enough, I want to enjoy this pregnancy as it will be my last and its just so hard. I feel really alone. I don't know how much i should be expecting of DP. (We are in the process of moving in together) he came over before work and did the dishes, folded the clean laundry and took out the rubbish, he kept telling me to sit down and leave stuff to him but I really could do with more help. He works till late at night so he can't help with dinner. I am trying to cook things that are fairly easy to make and have resorted to frozen pre chopped veg like onions and pepper/Mediterranean veg just to get me through this. My slow cooker has come in handy too. I feel like a shit mum and a total failure.

I just don't know what to do. I'm miserable and then all I get is people telling me i should be happy because I am pregnant and having a lovely little baby which makes me feel guilty.

Didn't want to read and run. Pregnancy can be totally crap, can't it? I just really want to empathise with you feeling like you ought to be happy to be pregnant when you just feel like crap.

Let your DP do stuff for you. Anything he's capable of! My DH has been doing absolutely everything for the past month because I've been feeling so bad.

When's your next midwife appointment? When I was heavily pregnant with one toddler, I found it very helpful to talk to my midwife about how hard I was finding it. They'll have heard it lots of times and can reassure you, and can think about it you could do with any extra help, e.g. mental health support.

Don’t feel bad! I’m only 8w and already hate being pregnant. This is my third baby and if it’s taught me anything, pregnancy is crap! You most definitely don’t need to enjoy it, it’s a needs must. Get a takeaway for tonight and get your Oh to do the cooking others x

I’m with you - 15 weeks and feeling so exhausted still. I felt much better than this with DS1. I’m fed up, tearful and want to just burrow in my bed 😩

I have an appointment next week. Also back in work next week which I think might help a bit, change of scenery etc. My manger is being really good about my work load so I know I can speak to him if that gets too much.

Just had such a rubbish time with my other pregnancies (due to their stupid dad) and I really wanted to enjoy this one but it seems impossible.
I will definitely speak with my midwife, she is really nice. I just don't want to feel like this anymore.

Hi,
I can relate to this. I’m on my third pregnancy (25 weeks now) and I was shattered at 17 weeks. I remember saying to my husband I felt overwhelmed because I was so tired and I still felt a bit sick then as well. Last few weeks I have actually felt much better so there is hope! Hope you feel better soon x