Anxious- 11 weeks

[bookwitch13]

Hello all!

I’ve seen a number of threads similar but wanted to start my own to maybe talk to people in a similar boat and to hear some reassuring stories :)

I’m 11 weeks pregnant today- this is my second pregnancy. The first resulted in a missed miscarriage in October last year.

I’ve had two reassurance scans- one at 6+6 and one at 9+3. Both measured spot on, heartbeats present and in the later scan baby was dancing around (similar to their father’s wedding moves!)

I just can’t shake the anxiety of going to my 12 week scan next week to be told of bad news. I know it happens, but I also know after seeing baby measuring right and with a heartbeat, the odds of success are higher.

Is anyone feeling the same, or have you felt the same in the past? I never knew my anxiety would be like this. I feel like I can’t let myself get excited at the moment because I’m scared it will “curse” it- which rationally I know is ridiculous but my mind won’t stop!

Bump :)

I know the feeling! I had fortnightly scans through my first trimester because of past miscarriages and my last was at 11 weeks. I was so unbelievably nervous. It went perfectly in the end, but because it was my last first trimester scan I just felt there was so much riding on it! I hope yours goes well, I'm sure it will with the two prior scans being good.

I am also 11 weeks and have my scan next week I’ve only had one early scan at 8+4 weeks and everything was fine. But I feel exactly the same, I just feel like I need to get past the 12 weeks scan to be able to believe it’s all actually going to be ok.

I had a lot of private scans after a loss.
It’s hard to enjoy it isn’t it.
Once I hit 20 weeks started showing and getting kicks that was the only time I could relax and enjoy it.
Sorry you’ve had a loss and feeling this way, but it is normal after a loss.
Are you able to afford afew more scans?
Congratulations on your rainbow baby 💐

@MouseholeCat - thank you so much, it’s the strangest time isn’t it. I felt relief after the 9 week scan, but I think I scared myself reading some of the threads that showed up on google - I am my own worst enemy sometimes! Also, I love your username- it was my absolute favourite book as a child!

@Florence13 fingers crossed for you on your scan next week- we must have a similar due date! I’m Nov 9th x

@PinkCookie11 honestly I’ve found the first trimester so difficult to enjoy, and I’m looking forward to hopefully getting past it! Thank you and I’m sorry for your loss too. I’m off for another scan tomorrow, I know my 12 weeks is only next week- but I almost want to prepare for it if that makes sense! X

Yep totally agree!
I had midwife app at 16 weeks heard heartbeat, felt ill with anxiety that something happened within those 3 hours and booked a scan that night 🙈
Enjoy seeing your baba tomorrow ❤️

@bookwitch13 yes my due date is the 8th Nov. I’m holding off for my dating scan next week now rather than having another private one. Although have to admit it’s so tempting as it’s been a couple of weeks since my last one.

There is a website for miscarriage risk and honestly at 11 weeks it will be so so low. I'm at 9 weeks at its at 8% risk and then as the works go buy it drops significantly.
Try not to worry! Congratulations!!

Hi @bookwitch13 I’m in the same situation as you, I feel for you! MMC last October at 13 weeks. I’m now 11+6 and my 12 week scan is this Thursday - eek! I had a scan at 9 weeks and everything looked great but I’m still nervous. I do feel a little bit better as I get closer to my scan though, it’s the waiting thats been driving me mad. I’ve written a wee list of things I’ll do this year if this pregnancy doesn’t work out, for example a belated honeymoon, and that’s helped me feel a bit more prepared too.

This is the link
datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer
You can add in additional info about yourself and then it can calculate more accurately.
Might help?

@bookwitch13
I'm exactly the same. I had an early miscarriage in December. currently 11 weeks. have had the most horrible 11 weeks, which everyone keeps telling me is a good sign, but I cant help but worry.
I had a scan at 5 weeks due to really bad cramps, I had one at 6 weeks just to check the heartbeat appeared as 5 weeks was too early, then I had a private scan at 8 weeks and everything was fine and the heartbeat was strong. I felt really good for about a week but the closer I get to the 12 week scan the more nervous/anxious I'm getting.
I've never felt anxiety like this, it's just awful. xxxx

@PinkCookie11 that sounds exactly like me, it’s horrible to go through but in a way it is nice to find others who feel the same to talk to.❤️

@Florence13 totally know what you mean, at my 9+3 scan I was like “this will be my one until 12 weeks” haha! It’s as if I have 2 weeks in between where I start off really reassured and then get anxious again. Massive good luck with your scan next week, I’m absolutely positive everything will be good. Keep us updated xx

@Horehound that’s such a good site isn’t it! It’s put me at 2% today and goes down to 1.9% tomorrow. It explains everything so well, thank you so much.

@Jaymar my heart goes out to you too, especially with being on such a similar timeline. I’ve been doing the same as you in my head, making a list of other possible positives to look forward to. Massive congratulations on your rainbow pregnancy, so happy for you ❤️

@vixey I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m right there with you on the anxiety- it’s just beyond control sometimes. I constantly ask my husband “everything’s okay isn’t it?” (As if he is some sort of psychic haha!) but him just grounding me really helps. Please keep me posted on how you go.. we can chat on this thread with others about feeling anxious etc. The answers I have on this thread already have made me feel so much better ❤️

Thank you all xx

Ooh I feel for you a lot. Almost the same. I'm nearly 8 weeks. Like you had a MMC last year. Such a worrying time. X

So sorry you went through that last year. I had never experienced a loss and yet I was still fully expecting bad news at the 12 week scan. We went for an early viability scan too but it was literally just a dot with a heartbeat at 6 and a bit weeks (which I was so relieved about). I then just tried to put it to the back of my mind and not get excited about it at all. Which is sad. When I went to the 12 week scan they put the ultrasound on my belly and the second it went on I instantly saw this fully formed baby and I could see the heart beating within the first second. I was so relieved at that point. It’s still been the best scan and most clear scan we’ve been to and I’m 24 weeks now. Time has also flown in since that scan. The month leading up to my 12 week scan felt like every second dragged in! You actually start to believe it’s real after that! Every scan we go to I’m still amazed and I find it so strange now looking back at the first picture of the wee dot knowing that’s my little boy who is fully grown now 🥰

Try to relax as much as possible. It will all be okay 🤞🏼 X

@bookwitch13
I've spent today at hospital :( I had the most horrendous migraine which made me really panic but im so ill, hospital said its only a migraine and just keep taking paracetamol 🙄 im also stressed out because I'm supposed to be in work tomorrow, team leading, and im the only team leader in so they'll be screwed if I ring in. I know me and baby come first but I cant be losing my job either. its just more anxiety that I really don't need 😞.
fingers crossed I'll feel a bit better tomorrow. xxx

I'm in the same position, 12 weeks since the weekend, scan is on Thursday. I had a mmc in December, had 2 scans in this pregnancy due to a subchorionic haemotoma, the last one was just over 2 weeks ago. Fully expecting bad news on Thursday, no reassurance from the previous scans as I learned all too well with the mmc that previously seeing a heartbeat means nothing. The days are dragging by.

@mrsawhite I’m sorry for your previous loss 💐 fingers crossed all is well this time round ❤️

@sarah13xx that’s such a lovely description, I did feel that happiness seeing 9 week baby after seeing them at 7 weeks! They’d grown so much 🥰

@vixey how are you feeling today? Migraines are the devil, I’ve had a couple of awful ones during this pregnancy ❤️

@Garman I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ When did you have your early scan last time? I booked my 6+6 one this time round to just confirm something was in the sac, as my MMC was a blighted ovum discovered at 8 weeks and that led to a whole new level of anxiety with me thinking “can I even make an embryo”. I didn’t expect to see a HB at this stage and that was a massive bonus. We booked the 9 week scan as seeing a HB at that stage is a good indicator of viability (again it’s not perfect, but from that risk of having a MC is a lot lower) I know a lot of people have had bad experiences with early scans, but they have been a life saver for me and my anxiety. I have everything crossed for you that your scan goes well on Thursday ❤️

Last time my early scan was at 6+4, around the same time I had one with my two previous pregnancies with my dc.

@bookwitch13
I'm feeling horrendous today. I've been to work and got a telling off for my head not been in it. I got told to go on the sick if I csnt hack it. thats £380 a month, that's not even all of my bills. I just feel like things are falling apart. I cannot hack being pregnant and working but I cant not do both.

how are you feeling?
xxx

Haven't read other replies OP but I feel I could've written the exact same post.
I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow, 2nd pregnancy after MMC in October last year. Had early scan at 7+5 and everything was fine but just terrified of bad news at 12 week scan. I've got just under 3 weeks until mine. It's so hard given our only experience of pregnancy resulted in a loss.

My anxiety is through the roof but I'm doing my best to stay busy work-wise to help pass the time.
Hang in there OP!

@vixey that is making everything 10x more stressful for you isn’t it :( do your work know that you are pregnant? Xx

@KeepSmiling89 thank you for your lovely reply. I’m so sorry for your loss. The anxiety is like nothing else. Are you able to have anymore reassurance scans?

We had another reassurance scan- 11+1 measuring bang on for the third time.
Baby was moving around, waving hands and feet and turned at one point giving us a moonie! Baby also had a case of hiccups 🤣 such a relief seeing baby, and amazing to see them looking more like an actual baby than a bean!! ❤️

I was the same, MMC discovered at 9 weeks last year. Now 14 weeks and have had 3 scans - was TERRIFIED going into them but read the stats which are massively reassuring and seeing everything progressing nicely is a relief (for a couple of days at least!). I don’t think I’ll shake the anxiety until I start feeling movements, but just know you’re in no way alone in how you feel ❤️ X

@bookwitch13 We've decided it won't change the outcome at 12 weeks anyway so we're just waiting...20 days to go!

I feel the exact same, not sure whether to book another reassurance scan or try to wait for my 12 week scan. I’m 10 weeks now and had early scans at 7 weeks and 8+1, both were fine. It’s so difficult at this stage when you can’t really talk to anyone about it and are analysing all the symptoms/lack of symptoms. 🤦‍♂️ I’m so terrified of having to go to the 12 week scan alone & finding out bad news. Know you’re not alone in how you feel! Gorgeous picture today of your little one 😍 I’m sure it helped a lot to see!