When to get moving

[Babyjune21]

I know there’s no right or wrong answers , and it’s just down to the person themselves but I’m not sure where to start this is my 2nd baby my first pregnancy’s my mum died when I was 32 weeks pregnant so I wouldn’t let anyone set anything up for baby or buy anything the grief was to much to bare so I had planned c section booked and two days before it everything was still in loft ! It was a mad dash for they two days to try and get things sorted for baby coming and we spend weeks afterwards trying to organise stuff it was stressful and really took a toll !, this time round I want to be prepared as bed as I can ! But when do I start setting out and buying nappies etc and setting up change table another thing is my daughter (new baby) will be going into my mums old room she lived with me and my husband as she was ill her room has lay untouched since she died her glasses even still sit on bedside table ! I know I need to get it done but so stressed ! Any advice ?

Start with mums room. Make peace with the removal of everything from there, keeping some special items in storage elsewhere. It's hard to part with the physical items linked to a loved one but they live on through your memories of them not those items.
Redecorate the room for your child then you can focus on getting ready for baby. I like to buy things little by little so a pack of wipes, nappies etc thrown in with the weekly shop so I barely notice the cost. Bigger things like furniture and prams come last on my list but I like everything dine before my last month so I can relax a bit.
Good luck with sorting your mums room and the rest of your pregnancy.

OP I'm sorry you lost your mum.

I would say just don't put any pressure on yourself. You have a couple of months to go and there is no need to even to set up the room before baby arrives if you don't want to.

I am in a slightly different position to you but understand the anxiety because I am pregnant with my second baby after my first baby died. I don't feel like setting up a nursery or even buying a lot until baby has safely arrived. I've been buying some items of clothing and closer to the time baby is due I plan to pack a hospital bag and would need to get a car seat and somewhere for baby to sleep but I would want baby in our room for at least the first 6 months so I don't see a rush in setting up a bedroom.

The room that will be this baby's room was also going to be our first baby's room, though we had not decorated it, but I think I would always think of it as being both of theirs if that makes sense. So maybe you will always think of that room as your mum's and also your baby's which your mum would probably have loved if she were still here.

I don't know if any of that helps but I hope you find a way forward you feel comfortable with.