Were you shocked when you got your BFP? (After TTC)

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Hi ladies!

Question is in the title really. I’m asking mainly people who were trying and then got their BFP

I ask because I’m on month 6 () of TTC and not been pregnant during this time. I try to stop myself from symptom spotting during TWW but wow it’s so hard!

If I’m not thinking “is this a pregnancy symptom” I’m thinking “is this a sign I’ll get my period and we’re out this month” and it’s quite draining

I’m just curious really as I’m currently on TWW and don’t really have any symptoms. If I was lucky enough to get a BFP this month I’d be so shocked (and so bloody over the moon happy, I’m so ready for it)

So yes, were you symptomless during your TWW? And did your BFP surprise you due to this? Or just in general

I had ivf for dd. I was crying the day before my bfp because I 'knew' it hadn't worked. Shocked was an understatement.

With my first, many of my 'symptoms' were similar to all of my other previous non pregnant cycles. 5 days before my period was due I realised I had no PMS. I had done a million pregnancy tests up to this point, and right before I tested with this one I just knew. I wasnt that surprised when the second line popped up immediately, although was still in shock.

With the second, it was just a business as usual cycle. Nothing odd, and in fact I thought I had missed my ovulation dates. I dont know why I tested, bit again it was early and a strong positive came up immediately. This one took a bit more a accepting as it actually was a bit of a shock (as shocked as I could have been, considering the baby was planning!).

I had zero symptoms with mine. Took the test expecting a negative, couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw the second line. I stood staring in the bathroom for probably a full minute. I remember my heart racing, a proper ‘shits about to get real’ moment. Couldn’t believe it was actually true. She’s now 29 weeks and wiggling around as I write this!

As a side note OP, we TTC for 5 months with no luck, I ended up buying Ovusense and conceived first go. I totally recommend it and will be doing it again for my second. So nice to have the guesswork taken out- we were using the glow app to track ovulation and it was out by a few days every time!

@Ginevere thank you for this recommendation I’m going to have a little research of that! Willing to try anything at this point

For me I’ve been trying to listen to my body and symptoms but they all span over a week so I can’t pin point a day! Maybe that’s where I’m going wrong. It would be nice to have the day exact

Cycle 13 of TTC and I was shocked when the second line came up. Other than a chemical in cycle 1, not even a squinter of a second line for a year. I bought an AVA bracelet which was a complete waste of money. I used OPKs and had been taken Feroglobin tablets the month I conceived finally. DD2 is 7mo next week.

Fingers crossed it happens soon for you.

*had been taking

Zero symptoms until I was about 10 weeks pregnant (mild bleeding at roughly the right time etc). I took the test and came out swearing. DH thought this bizarre until the enormity hit him a couple of days later. Much less shocked with DS2.

Yes!! We conceived on month 24 naturally, two months after failed IVF. I was waiting for my period to turn up to start medication for embryo transfer and was cursing the fact it was late. Clinic always says this happens when AF is needed on time. I only took the test because I knew clinic would advise me to. I felt no different and my missed period was my only symptom until week 5. 6 months is no time at all to TTC, but I understand the frustration. I drove myself mad in the early months symptom spotting but now realise it was a waste of time. Good luck x

We'd had a mc at 9+3 after seeing a hb on a private scan and took a break ttc as a result. Had a chemical pregnancy once we did start ttc again. I was getting nauseous when training in the gym so took a test before af due but it came back negative. The nausea continued when training for a week and af was a couple of days late. I went out and bought a test expecting it to be negative but it was a very strong positive. I didn't tell dh for a week due to the cp and the mc, dh had suspected anyway as I was napping a lot. It has been a constant worry but now 22+3wk with a very wriggly little girl.

Good luck testing

Yep definitely shocked. I had usual AF cramps in the days leading up to testing so I was absolutely sure AF was imminent. I would only test when AF was officially late (although not every cycle was the same so my hopes weren’t up). So when I got my BFP I honestly couldn’t believe it. It took us 14 cycles so I was just so used to it being negative by that point.
I know it’s easier said than done but really try not to symptom spot, it just drives you insane and is not an indicator of what your result would be. Avoid early testing too as that is just as frustrating.
Good luck op

We were trying for over 2 years before I got a bfp in January. I would symptom spot constantly during the TTW but when it came to it I actually had no symptoms till about 2 weeks after bfp

We were floored and didnt believe it. Tested again then next day. We had only tried for one month and I had expected it to take forever due to my health. I was 6 days late and felt really odd, is the only way I could describe it. The second test was so strong though there was no doubt but we were still in shock for about a week.

Thank you for all the stories (which are very reassuring) and luck everyone!

I don’t mean to be tone deaf when I say I’m upset we’re on month 6 - I know it can take a while. I’m quite young so I did believe it would’ve happened sooner so I have a slight disappointment and fear that somethings wrong

I just need to trust the process I guess. And stop f*cking analysing being hungry or a bit tired!

@jjjjjjjjjjjjjjj98 i was soo shocked. Had a operation in 2013 for blocked fallopian tubes, ended up with just one healthy tube! They stitched it open.. i got pregnant first month, sadly she was stillborn at 39wks. Got pregnant again.. i now have a healthy 6 year old son, i was happy just to have him, but then decided 6 years later id like to give him a sibling. 70% chance of tube closing back up after 18months so thought they'd be no chance but we'll give it ago 🤷🏻‍♀️ got pregnant within 2 cycles. Total shock. High risk of ectopic, had a scan yesterday and its in the right place 😁 So dont loose faith if its meant to be it will happen xx

Yep. No symptoms whatsoever. It was 9dpo, I woke up at 6.30am and DH said I should test. Didn't see the point as they'd been negative the previous 7 cycles since my mmc. Started to put the stick back in the packet because I didn't see the point in waiting for a negative - it would piss me off and I wouldn't go back to sleep; however, a second line appeared.

That second line is now my 7 month old daughter who's snuggled go in bed with me.

Yes was utterly shocked and didn't believe it for days.. ended up taking 2 further tests.

We conceived on our second try and had been expecting it to be so quickly as I have a health condition that might effect it, the treatment for it might effect it, I have a very high BMI, im very nearly 35 and both my mum and nan needed IVF.. so just assumed it was gonna take forever..

Spent the day completely shell shocked and unable to function and took me 3 days to start to feel anything other than shock.

I had been expecting it to be negative because although I was late - I had no other signs that I had recognised at the time ans the first test at 6 days late period was negative. It was day 11 that showed up an obvious line. I must have ovulated really late that month! DH hadn't been easy to have frequent initmate moments with as he was always so tired and I remember thinking we'd missed the window I expected it to be in.. so I'd just gone oh well let's just have fun as and when he's up for it then. I was just incredibly lucky.

My advice would be to take the pressure of yourself and it will happen, try relax. Easy for me to say I know but that's what happened to me. We started trying in Jan 2020, I had an MC in April but was quite shocked how I quick we had conceived, then I spent the rest of 2020 obsessing why it wasn't happening again, trying to use OPKs and nothing. Spoke to my GP in November and as I was so worried she sent me for bloods at 2 points in my cycle Nov/Dec time to see if I was ovulating! I was so upset the second one they couldn't get enough blood so I was going to have to do it all again in January this year, expect after having time of work over Christmas and not even trying as I thought we were out with the blood thing, I got my BFP 12 days dpo in early Jan.. I honestly believe I conceived in the 2 weeks where I had stopped obsessing and thinking and let my body relax. I had no real symptoms before my test but I just had an odd feeling something didn't quite feel right and so tested 3 days before my period was due and got a strong line appear straight away! 😘

I was on here whining that I was sure AF was coming and I was out. Tested when I was a day late so had an inkling! I have a short luteal phase though so no point in testing until AF due. Having 5 months of rigorous data collection (lol) I can safely say that for me the symptoms of early pregnancy (up to 6 weeks) are identical to that of expecting my period. Did I know this? Yes. Did it stop me obsessively symptom spotting in my TWW? Hell no! Hope you get your BFP soon!

I know first hand his awful the wait is, but when I was going through it, people who were upset after 6 months did upset me greatly - I got a very unexpected bfp on month 74. Didn't occur to me to take a test for ages, ended up doing 12 as I was so shocked they kept coming up positive. Turned out I was 14 weeks pregnant.

I didn’t have any symptoms at all. I tested because my period was a day late, that was it.

Good luck! I hope you get your BFP soon

@Hughbert

I know first hand his awful the wait is, but when I was going through it, people who were upset after 6 months did upset me greatly - I got a very unexpected bfp on month 74. Didn't occur to me to take a test for ages, ended up doing 12 as I was so shocked they kept coming up positive. Turned out I was 14 weeks pregnant.

The problem is that TTC really messes with you. It turned me into a person I didn’t like and I’m not fully recovered from that yet. I couldn’t be happy for others who were pregnant at all.

I was one of those people who questioned everything at 6 cycles and the people of MN were either really kind because they understood or really dismissive of my upset because they’d been trying longer. I can completely understand why someone with infertility would find it insensitive but equally, there will ALWAYS be someone else who has had it worse or waited longer. Someone who’s been waiting 10 years instead of 5.

Knowing it is quite common for it to take up to a year to conceive doesn’t make the wait any easier.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing this is exactly how I feel and I’ve felt so ashamed of it.

Seeing people announce their pregnancies makes me so incredibly jealous and sad and I’ve felt so awful that I’ve been like that. I was scared to admit that I’m only on month 6 but I reminded myself that my feelings are still valid even if I do conceive very soon, the past few months have been hard.

My partner is very supportive and does say “we’ll just try again it could take some time” but that doesn’t really when you’re desperate to be a mum.

Thank you everyone for all the good luck. I hope so too. I know it could take longer I do, I’m just so desperate to become a mum and it’s all I want.

I am trying to ‘stop obsessing’ and ‘let go’ but that’s easier said than done and I have a certain family member telling me that every month which just makes me feel guilty and like I am the reason I’m not getting pregnant.

Just a lot of emotions really! TTC is hard I wish it was easier.

I was absolutely shocked because I had no pregnancy symptoms at all and was 100% convinced I was out that month, I only did the test to get the inevitable negative out the way, thinking my period would be coming at any moment. Could not believe my eyes when it was positive. Just goes to show that ‘symptom spotting’ is so unnecessarily stressful. The only way to know is with a test, ignore everything else you’ve heard/read.