11 weeks and I feel done in

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I'm 11 weeks and I have a 3yo son also. This was a planned and very much wanted pregnancy but I just feel so miserable right now.

I just feel permanently absolutely shattered, shivery and like I want to curl up and sleep 24/7. I am also in a dreadful mood all the time, anxiety is running riot and I have little to no patience. I have been snapping at my husband and son so much this week and I don't like the person I have been. I have honestly been wondering if we have made the right decision having another baby.

I don't know what to do. I sleep as much as possible. I go to bed at 10 and sleep until 7 usually. I only work part-time 2 days a week and my son is in nursery one morning a week so I do get a little time to myself.

I know pregnancy is tiring - but could there be any medical reason I feel so zapped? I was tired with my first but this is ridiculous. I just don't know how to pull myself out of this.

Has your iron been checked?

Personally I found my second pregnancy much much harder, although you’re saying you’re sleeping, getting time to yourself etc. It’s still extra exhausting with a wee one in the mix. I don’t know if it helps but I found it did get better after those initial 12 weeks - it is worth talking to your midwife about to see if there is anything contributing to it?

Sounds just like my pregnancy with dd2 when dd1 was 3. Second time round is just harder as with the toddler being there you can't rest as much as you did first time round. I felt exhausted like you are but it did pass as I moved into the second trimester xx

Possible difficiency could be the problem.
I felt tired all the time in the early days. Consultant put me on extra folic acid and after a week I felt much better.

I was the same, diagnosed as suspected anaemia on Tuesday. I was sleeping 8-8 and having two naps a day.

I've been taking floradix since Tuesday evening (taking a while for the proper prescription/blood count to be sorted, midwife suggested it) and I feel like a new person.

Plus second pregnancy seems much harder than first - I also have a bouncy toddler!

I am feeling the same but a bit behind you at 7 weeks. With my first DS I was working full time when pregnant, last week there were literally days I found it difficult to stand up I was so tired and tbh don't remember feeling so awful last time.

Are you eating and drinking enough? Presume your iron was OK at your booking appt? Maybe ring MW or check notes if not sure?

Three year old are hard work!
I'm just holding onto the fact that I had a good second trimester with DS when my energy felt much more normal.

Thanks for the replies everyone.

Honestly, it's hit me like a ton of bricks this time. Had such an easy pregnancy last time.

I haven't even had my booking appointment yet! It's next Tuesday. It's a telephone call but I have to go in afterwards for bloods (don't understand the logic there) so I will ask them to check iron.

I haven't been eating that well, because of my nausea all I fancy is plain carbs and sugary snacks. Probably not helping! I am drinking a ton tho.

They will check iron when they do bloods but just mention how you’ve been feeling, could also be hormonal changes that are making you snap. I went through a period of just hating life!

Maybe your bloods will throw something up they can support you with. Just don't feel guilty about popping your 3yo in front of CBeebies for a bit whilst you lie on the sofa on a bad day. Forget housework if you're worrying about that too.
My booking appt was also over the phone and the MW said it was because she were meant to try to keep f2f to under 30 mins or something. The risk goes up the longer you're f2f with someone in the same room apparently. I have a separate f2f appt for bloods like you.
Sorry you're feeling so rough - do you have a supportive partner?

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