To have a 3rd baby or not

[sharonJJ55]

I've always wanted a big family and had 2 then split up with my husband. I'm now 41 and my children are 14 & 11. I really feel like I'd love to have a third and my children are more independent now & would love a sibling. I'd be raising the baby on my own (have the help of a mother). Am I mad or should I try as this could be my last chance?

This would be absolute madness. Truly. Your kids have no idea of the reality of a baby in the house and only one adult to care for it. You’ll have nothing left over for your teens. No time. No energy. It’s a bad plan.

You’re mad but if it’s what you want, do it! It’s likely you’ll regret having another child but you may regret not doing it.

I am sure you would all absolutely love this baby but my head says this isn't the right thing to do. Age / being single / having two older children would rule it out for me.

Don’t do it, just found I’m pregnant with a 4th and freaking out!

No in all honesty don’t live with any regrets if you want another then yes now is your chance x

Do it if it's what you want! Every child is a blessing x

Who would be the father (not that has anything to do with me) but would the relationship be complex.
Honestly your kids are going to be independent very soon, so having a third isn't going to effect them and will be lovely for you. If you want to start again and not enjoy some freedom then you clearly want another and I say go for it.
You will only regret. Good luck

Might as well try I think? But how will your new child feel about not having a second parent when your other children do - I'm sure there are ways around this but it's something to think about. GL x

I've got a 13, 11 and 1 year old and it has been absolutely amazing.

I worries a lot but she is such a ray of sunshine and my older children adore her!

I think if that's what you want and you can afford it why not? No one says there's any right or wrong way to love a baby

I've just found out I'm pregnant with my third after over 2 years of trying. I'll be 40 when he or she arrives (praying it's a sticky bean) and my other two will be almost 10 and 8. I've battled with all the negatives daily since starting to try but my heart kept telling me to carry on. Now that it's finally happened I still have my worries but the fact that I almost thought we couldn't have another has made me realise it is what I truly want. At the end of the day no one but you knows how you really feel and it actually doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If you feel like you would regret missing the opportunity then go for it, it may be that it's not meant to be, but at least you'll know you tried.

Presumably you'd be using a donor?

Just because you don't want/need a father for your child doesn't mean the child doesn't want/need a father

It would even incredibly selfish thing to do

It’s your hormones blinding your judgement. Don’t do it, it’ll be too hard, you’ll be spread too thin. You’ve forgotten how hard the early years are. You’ll be dealing with teenage issues on no sleep.

Don’t underestimate the difference between being pregnant at 29 and 41. You’ll notice the difference.

In your position? Absolutely not. Age, not in a relationship, the age gap between the other children, one could work against you but all three is just unneeded playing on hard mode.

I also really wanted another sibling, and my mother had one when I was 12 in pretty much exactly the same circumstances. The baby/child never slept, I had a very difficult time during my teen years and she simply didn't have the energy for both of us. My grandparents both passed away suddenly within a couple of years, so what little family help that was available went. I left home and never looked back, it was such a disaster.