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All children the same sex

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Salvationz · 13/04/2021 19:05

Hi all

I want to ask quite a controversial question to all parents who have children of one sex, do you often wonder what it would be like to have had a child of the opposite sex?

Obviously we all love our kids, we love what we have been blessed with and of course we’re aware how incredibly lucky we are to have children at all. It’s just something I wonder about as my children are all of the same sex.

I’m currently expecting and baby is the same sex as my previous children. I’m over the moon.

Due to pregnancy being so incredibly difficult both mentally and physically I just couldn’t go through it again but would have loved a child of the opposite sex one day. I accept it probably won’t happen though.

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EXA1912 · 13/04/2021 19:27

I don’t have children of the same sex, I have a mix...but I do remember when I just had the one daughter thinking that I could of had all girls and not minded as I loved having a girl that much and obvs didn’t know what it was like having a boy at the time (I feel parents of boys must feel the same too)....I feel like u don’t miss what you’ve never had, so although you may wonder what it would of been like to have a mix you will never feel like you’re missing out 😁 boys or girls they’re both wonderful xx

Soubriquet · 13/04/2021 19:31

My Nan had 4 boys before having a girl with her new husband, my grandad

My mum had two girls before having a boy 22 years later

I have a girl and a boy

PolarnOPirate · 13/04/2021 19:33

We have 2 boys and about to TTC another child.

I am obsessed with and addicted to my 2 boys, they are the absolute best so I would be bloody delighted with another boy. Plus, people saying ‘ooooooh I hope you have a girl, are you going for the girl’ makes me want a third boy even more.

Equally, if we have a girl she will be brilliant and amazing too, just like the rest of her family

Chelyanne · 13/04/2021 19:33

I don't have all of one.
We have one lonely boy among 4 girls and another girl due in Aug. DH says he wants another in the hope of another son but I have told him chances are it'd be another girl (or twin girls again lol).

Ava50x · 13/04/2021 19:58

I have 3 boys and was slightly disappointed to discover i'm having another boy. But honestly I love my boys to bits and I am obsessed with them:)
Would still love a girl though...

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Salvationz · 13/04/2021 20:30

Thanks for the replies, the thing is you could try and try and still be blessed with the same sex. One has to stop at some point lol

The only way I’d go through the sickness again is if I knew it were the opposite sex, that’s me being brutally honest x

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Jchina · 13/04/2021 21:10

I’m expecting my third of the same and I think I may always wonder what it might have been like. Three is absolutely our maximum though, emotionally, practically, financially. DH is getting the snip. I am looking forward to moving on as a family

foodtoorder · 13/04/2021 21:18

I have all girls, I am not the least bit miffed about not having boys. In fact I often look at boisterous little boys and think I am so glad I have girls! Not that all boys are like that of course but it would be my luck and knowing my husbands traits they would be and I wouldn't cope with them!

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Salvationz · 13/04/2021 21:24

@Jchina - I’m in the same boat as u x

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Willow4987 · 13/04/2021 21:27

Honestly op...yes I do wonder what it would be like

I’ve currently got boys and have always seen myself with 3 DC so we will probably roll the dice again. I’d be happy with another healthy child, but if I could choose I would like it to be the opposite sex. Not to say I wouldn’t be happy with another boy and I’d quite like being the only queen in the castle but a girl would be the cherry on the cake for me

ilovespinach · 13/04/2021 21:35

I have 3 boys and I can honestly say I don't wonder at all what it would have been like to have a girl. It has been commented on a lot by other people though especially when ds3 was a baby.

MarshaBradyo · 13/04/2021 21:36

I had two boys then a girl and I did wonder before the third what having a girl would be like

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Salvationz · 13/04/2021 21:37

I’m kind of worried it’ll always feel like a void that hasn’t been filled, however, one can’t predict the sex and you get what you get so I don’t really see a way forward lol x

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RandomMess · 13/04/2021 21:40

We have 4 the same and tbh it was just a fleeting thought but it just seemed "easier" to stick with what we knew plus it helped us focus on their differences in personalities and needs if that makes sense.

I think there was more sadness around it being the end of babies/little ones rather than anything else.

ancientgran · 13/04/2021 21:41

I had two boys and then a girl. I wanted another boy, I hated people saying they hoped it would be a girl this time as if I was only having another one to get a girl. I then had another boy. The boys vary as much from each other as they do from their sister.

Strokethefurrywall · 13/04/2021 21:43

I have 2 boys and don't really think about a girl now really, even though I did when I was pregnant with DS2.

I probably wonder what she'd have looked like rather than what she would have been like personality wise, but my boys are so different I personality that it's hard to predict!

If I did have a 3rd I'd probably want another boy because I'm so used to them now!

Evanna13 · 13/04/2021 21:47

I think having a mix gives parents a more balanced view. Sometimes I feel parents of all girls look at boys and think they are just so boisterous and can lack an understanding about boys. Obviously this is not the case with all parents but it is something I have noticed.

Girlmama3 · 13/04/2021 21:56

I have 3 girls and am pregnant. I suspect another girls as it’s exactly the same as the others so far!

I’m not bothered either way. I know where I am with girls!

Notthissticky · 13/04/2021 22:15

I have two boys (2.5 to and 11 weeks) and I do wonder what it would be like to have a girl. I feel a strange pang when I see families that have a boy and then a younger girl. HOWEVER, I know myself well enough to know that had DS2 been DD1, I would've felt exactly the same pang seeing families with 2 boys, it's just how I am🤷‍♀️. One thing I have noticed though is that with DS1 I marvelled at having a boy for months after he was born (we didn't find out the sex beforehand), as I had always pictured myself with a girl. With DS2 there is none of that amazement, as it's not so new I guess. I am not at all disappointed, the only thing is not being able to buy girls' clothes for them. I really don't mean pink or glitters, more that if I see a dress or girls' outfit I like I don't have anyone to buy it for. I do put my boys in pink sometimes, but I wouldn't go so far as putting them in dresses and the like. I suspect my nieces will do well out of me for clothes for many years to come😊. WRT typical girls'/ boys' stuff: I really dislike how everything for girls is pink and glitter (and grey, randomly), but then I'm also getting rather tired of the vehicle obsession in my house. Swings and roundabouts!

mrscatmad31 · 13/04/2021 22:19

Before I had my children I thought I would be upset if I didn't have one of each, now I have two DDs I absolutely don't care I didn't have a boy, in fact if I ever had another I would want another girl if I was honest. I can't imagine having a boy at all now

Notthissticky · 13/04/2021 22:22

@Girlmama3

I have 3 girls and am pregnant. I suspect another girls as it’s exactly the same as the others so far!

I’m not bothered either way. I know where I am with girls!

My pregnancies were so completely different (until the final few weeks, when both monkeys turned into an awkward position and had to be delivered by section🤦🏼‍♀️) and both were boys! It's early to say, but they seem to look very different - DS1 was my mini whereas the only thing DS2 got from me are his finger nails (yup, clutching at straws there). If different pregnancies = same sex then the opposite might be true for you now😊

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