Pregnancy after loss thread - December 2021

[Clio91]

Hi all,

I have found out today I am 3+1. It’s a bit confusing really.
My daughter was stillborn at 37 weeks in October, have been ttc since December once we where given the go ahead.
I had a chemical pregnancy last month and lost at 4+6.
My gut feeling with that last pregnancy wasn’t great, I just had a feeling it was a chemical.
I started bleeding on the 22nd of March, and had a positive opk on 02/04/2020 and had ovulation pains and the wave of nausea on the 03/02/04.
Had a small implantation bleed at 8dpo and couldn’t resist testing last night and got a faint positive at 9dpo.
Today I got 1-2 weeks on clear blue at 10dpo.

I have a hopeful feeling about this pregnancy but obviously I know that there is no safe week or month having lost my perfect little girl.

I will have a scan at 6 weeks.

Just looking if anyone else would like to join for support?
Sorry for rambling!

Anyone want to join??

Hi @Clio91 I’d like to join you! Our beautiful baby boy was stillborn at 40 weeks in July last year. Since then we’ve suffered a missed miscarriage in february but have just found out we’re pregnant- 4 weeks. We’ll be induced/section early so I reckon we’re on track for a new year baby.
Like you I know there is no safe zone and won’t be able to relax until we walk into our home carrying our baby

Hi @KJLM. Gentle congratulations 💕

That’s good then, I’ll be having a section at 36 weeks so I’ll be likely end of November/beginning of December.

It’s hard isn’t it, I’ve already booked a private scan in for 9 weeks next week. Just dreading it.

Must be so hard after a mmc as well. My friend had one in august and she didn’t find out for 3 weeks. Just like your body completely betraying you and not letting you know anything.
Xx

It’s very hard- unfortunately we won’t have the blissful naivety that so many get to enjoy (even though that was me before). I just try to look at it like when I tell our future baby our story they will know how treasured they were from minute one (still won’t stop me stressing and being ridiculously anxious the whole time!!)
That’s good you have your scan booked in for next week- a milestone to get to. We’ll likely go 8/9 weeks just for peace of mind after the mmc.
The mmc was hard but in the grand scheme of things nothing like July last year- I think my body was just so desperate to hold on to that baby that it didn’t realise it wasn’t going to work.

Hi, I'm currently 7wk6d after having had 2 mc's in just over a year! Havent had any appointments with midwife yet, very anxious with the previous losses and I'm an older mum at 43 so yet more stress!

Hi @gizmo167 the anxiety is horrible isn’t it. If only we had a crystal ball to tell us the outcome! If I could go straight from pregnancy to delivery I would be delighted- would love to hibernate the 8 months I have to go!
I’m going to try tap into meditation and after 12 weeks go back to yoga. It’ll just be a matter of finding ways to relax but it’s easier said than done isn’t it?

Hi @Clio91 how are you feeling?

Hi @KJLM I’m ok just very very anxious and convinced it’s all going to go wrong! Have my 12 week scan on Tuesday. How are you?

Can i join plz. After having a mc last year and my daughter 15 years ago at 32 weeks i am 12+5 with my 5th pregnancy. I hope everything goes well this time. Sorry for all your losses

I had my 12 week scan today and cried with relief! I had a MMC last summer at 17 weeks so it still feels like an uphill climb to the 20 week scan but today was a good day and it was nice to feel excited rather than worried which is my constant go to! Good luck to everyone else and their precious rainbows! We’ve got this 💪🏻

Hi can I join please? I had a MC in March at 11 weeks, now around 6 weeks pregnant (so due date is actually January 2022, not Dec 2021). Since we started ttc I have always been very conscious of the possibility of struggling with getting pregnant, and then with the risks of early pregnancy loss - so I think I have never enjoyed the early pregnancy excitement fully, and when at 11 wk i miscarried, I was very very sad and cried a lot, but to be honest I did not feel surprised, if that makes sense...?
I am pregnant again now, it doesn't seem real that it happened again so fast...I feel a mix of emotions and I am almost in denial of the pregnancy...? I mean I am excited, but until today I could not convince myself even to refer the pregnancy to my community midwife. I was asking my self what's the point??
did anyone have similar feelings, how did you cope?
Good luck everyone with your rainbow pregnancies