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Static Abdominal Circumference growth - getting pushed into CS

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zzmumzz · 12/04/2021 21:19

Hello mums,

I'm in a panic since morning. I lost my first baby due to negligence by the lead consultant in induced labour. I had gestation diabetes then which reoccured now in the second pregnancy. My hospital wanted me to go for a CS even before I planned this pregnancy. Now they are throwing numbers at me to scare me into choosing CS. Baby growth was fine until 37 weeks. I chose home birth this time due to a traumatic experience in the first pregnancy. They wanted me to choose a hospital birth, preferably CS - giving the incident in my first labour as a reason. I told them my decision will be solely on what's happening in the current pregnancy. In the next immediate scan at 39 weeks, they said the baby is not growing. I wanted a second opinion. The doctor scans and verbally tells me that he agrees with the first doctor but won't give me actual scan reports with the measurements. All this makes me think they just want to push me into choosing a CS. I was expecting some support from my homebirth midwife, but she is more than happy to pawn me off to the hospital team. I feel like we have no support whatsoever. Our families are not with us and we feel completely alone and depressed with the turn of events and lack of support. What do we do? Can someone please guide us.

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Mummyof2Terrors · 12/04/2021 21:23

PALS to complain. You have a right to know all the facts before you consent to anything. Coerced consent is not informed consent

WhiteBricks · 12/04/2021 21:26

Noone can force you to do any you don't want to. If you want a homebirth, and as long as you understand the risks, then even if it is against medical advice then you should be supported in that decision.
Do they have Midwifery Advocates (a kind of replacement for the Supervisor of Midwives role) in your trust? They may be able to help. Or you can contact PALS if you are not happy with your care.
Why do the consultants want you to have a CS? What happened last time?

If finances allow could you consult an independent midwife locally?

zzmumzz · 12/04/2021 21:50

@WhiteBricks

Noone can force you to do any you don't want to. If you want a homebirth, and as long as you understand the risks, then even if it is against medical advice then you should be supported in that decision. Do they have Midwifery Advocates (a kind of replacement for the Supervisor of Midwives role) in your trust? They may be able to help. Or you can contact PALS if you are not happy with your care. Why do the consultants want you to have a CS? What happened last time?

If finances allow could you consult an independent midwife locally?

The consultant ignored indications that the baby was distressed for 10 hours. We weren't even informed. Everyone in the room knew. The midwives, on-duty doctors etc. Everyone apparently suggested that I need immediate CS but the consultant overruled everyone. Our baby couldn't cope with the labour in the end and suffered a severe brain injury due to lack of Oxygen.
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zzmumzz · 12/04/2021 21:56

I tried PALS. Hoping they'll help me with soemthing. I do not want to upset my midwife and consultant by going against them at this point. On the face of it, they always talked as if they want me to deliver this baby safely. Also, I'm 40 weeks now & due within days. I do not want to have the stress of finding an entire new team. Basically, I need to trust my carers, but the sequence of events tells me otherwise. Am I just being paranoid or is it odd that the baby growth issues cropped up as soon as I suggested that I wont consider hospital birth as long as the current baby is healthy. Also, the whole point of requesting a second opinion is to confirm that there has been no growth not just an error in measurement. And the doctor only gives me a verbal statement and the entire maternity unit denies me the scan reports although they have given me all the scan reports up until now. Arrrgh!!

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Cyw2018 · 12/04/2021 22:01

It's your body and your baby, so you can do what you want.

But, how your baby is born really is irrelevant so long as you get to take a healthy baby home from hospital. I understand you are scared but I don't think a home birth is necessarily the risk free option you hope. There are many points it can go wrong, and an ambulance isn't always readily available, no matter what the midwives tell you. Please at least have your baby in an midwifery lead unit attached to a full labour ward.

zzmumzz · 12/04/2021 22:12

I'm kind of leaning towards birthing in a hospital as long as they let me go into labour naturally. I'm scarred for life on using medical interventions & relying on doctors to decide what's best for me and baby. That obviously wasn't what happened in my first labour. As I said, the sequence of events is making me panic that the current team is also pushing me into using medical interventions.

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Screwcorona · 12/04/2021 22:18

You have absolutely the right to decline consent for anything to do with the birth of your baby. But it sounds like a lot of the medical professionals are telling you this is the safest way.

I've no idea why they are not giving you all the information though. Definitlyva good call to get in touch with PALS to get access quickly so you can make a decision with all information available

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