Anyone else as negative as me?

[EXA1912]

I’ve recently unexpectedly found myself pregnant and I just don’t feel deserving of it. I have 3 babies already and they’re my world but I just feel like there are so many people more deserving of babies than me, I have family going through ivf and here I am accidentally getting pregnant through a missed couple of pills. I expect to miscarry or for it not to be viable and be ectopic or something. I really wanted 4 babies but I just can’t think it will end well. I think that even if it was viable then something bad will happen somewhere down the line...I just feel a bit numb about it all 🤷‍♀️

Please don't ever feel you don't deserve to be pregnant. It is not your fault that other people around you are struggling and you shouldn't feel guilty about it . It sounds like you are happy to have another child and that is the most important thing. It is awful for people struggling and must be hard to see others get what they have always wanted but it doesn't mean you don't deserve it just because your baby wasn't necessarily planned. I am 11 weeks pregnant with my first and have been quite anxious that something will go wrong or I will be the one in four who miscarry. The first trimester is harder than I ever imagined and I often feel guilty as I know others would give anything to be in my position. I need to remind myself that I deserve this as much as the next person . Congratulations on your baby and I wish you all the best in your pregnancy 💕

@EXA1912

I’ve recently unexpectedly found myself pregnant and I just don’t feel deserving of it. I have 3 babies already and they’re my world but I just feel like there are so many people more deserving of babies than me, I have family going through ivf and here I am accidentally getting pregnant through a missed couple of pills. I expect to miscarry or for it not to be viable and be ectopic or something. I really wanted 4 babies but I just can’t think it will end well. I think that even if it was viable then something bad will happen somewhere down the line...I just feel a bit numb about it all 🤷‍♀️

Got a BFP last week, this will also be my fourth and honestly I'm feeling pretty much the same. Feeling a bit better that I'm not the only one feeling this way. I was never like this in any other of my other pregnancies, atleast not this bad. Hoping the thoughts/feelings pass soon but I'll be talking to my GP about it when I go in.

If you take good care of your current children then of course you deserve this little one. Don't feel guilty for being blessed with many children just because someone you know is struggling ttc.

I've had trouble with miscarriage and chemical pregnancies but also 22+3wk with our 6th! now. I love my big family and I endured a lot of heartbreak to get here so I do not feel guilty. I have sympathy with others who have struggled and never managed to make a family. We have good friends who gave up trying at 40 after many losses, they would have made wonderful parents.

Thanks @Chelyanne I’m really struggling already, I honestly don’t know if I can do this again, this is 4th baby but 5th pregnancy and my last ones weren’t at all straightforward, I’m still having issues from taking those pills from the miscarriage I feel like my womb has expanded and falling on my bowel or something as I’m struggling to pass wind unless in certain positions. I’m worried if this is me at 4/5 weeks what will I be like later on 😩

It will get better. Have they ever mentioned you having a retroverted uterus? I was told this after my 1st and that can cause more bowel discomfort in the early days until it moves forward as baby grows.
Let it sink in for a few weeks and see how you feel then. Many women feel like they're not going to cope especially when suffering the really tough symptoms but keep thinking of the end result if you can get through it. Will that be worth it? If so then you will get through it. If not, there are options available to you. Good luck

Yeah I have a retroverted uterus and it was causing me bowel problems before due to adhesions. I feel like my vagina and cervix and uterus is pressing Into my bowel and causing a blockage. It’s so bad I can’t pass wind without moving into loads of different positions and I need laxatives to go toilet. This was an issue before but it’s got worse now 😢 xx

Sorry to moan to you @Chelyanne I was crying before about my bowel now I’m pregnant it’s 10x worse

Sounds like a nightmare. Would be a good idea to speak to your GP then about what they can do to help you get through it. I don't know much about adhesions but there is a pelvic pain support network online that may be helpful.