When do you feel human again after a newborn?

[georgarina]

Not a FTM so I should know this lol but I've forgotten.

How many months did it take for you go from feeling hit by a truck to getting a bit of normality back?

Hmmm depending on child anywhere from 3 months to 3 years......

Physically it was different with each child.

But in terms of adjusting first was hardest....third was easiest....he just slotted into the family.

Depends what you mean. The first month is brutal because of lack of sleep, labour recovery, the changes from having a newborn. The first twelve weeks are really hard and then I feel like you get into the swing of things - you both get to know each other, feeding is established, baby has a better idea of when day and night is. So for me, I think after three months is much much easier.

In terms of getting some of 'you' back - my DC are 8 and 5 and for the last year it has been much easier!

I reckon 6 months first time, quicker second time- about 3 months to feel like myself again. Neither of mine were particularly high needs though. I did bf both so I don’t think I felt completely back to being me until I finished.

I think once I got a solid 6 hour sleep I felt amazing. A couple of months in with most of ours as they were formula fed, maybe a bit longer with the twins.
Physically felt fine within a few weeks with younger ones, eldest had more bruising so about 6wk.

Different each time for me and I have 4 DC.

Very different experiences for me.

First child - physically it took about 18 months. Emergency c-section, feeding issues, sleep deprivation etc. I didn’t feel fully human again until he started sleeping full nights at 2.5 years!

Second child - better birth and age slept well from day one. I felt energised again about 4-6 weeks list north, physically fully recovered by 4 months. I was completely ‘myself’ by the time I went back to work when she was 6 months old.

post birth not list north!

Physically I was largely ok after all three of mine but my husband and I both feel that at 6 months with each of them we came out of the tunnel of the all consuming nature and exhaustion of having a new baby and kind of come back into the word again. I was still breastfeeding at that point but even that was more predictable and you could plan around it, they start eating, naps are predictable etc. The good thing is that if you have other kids already, although there are some veeery long hours and nights in there, overall it feels like that time flies by.

Still not sleeping full nights at 11mo so not totally yet... but felt better around 6mo.

First baby: 6 months when I felt healed from traumatic birth.

Second baby: when I stopped breastfeeding at 4.5 months. Within a day I felt amazing and back to normal.

When they were 18 and moved out! Just kidding, I think it took a good few months for me to feel human again xx

2 years when stopped bf I felt like my body was mine again and more 'me'. The sleep deprivation had a serious impact, still doesnt sleep through age 3. Hopefully DC2 will be different.