Almost 14 weeks - feeling sick, tired and isolated :(

[Tryingandhoping2020]

Will be 14 weeks at the weekend. Have had terrible sickness since 6 weeks which has improved slightly since 11 weeks — had almost a month off work between 6-11 because I was so ill, spent 6 weeks basically laying in bed doing nothing but sleeping and vomiting.

I’ve felt a lot better since 11 weeks, but I’m still nowhere near right. I have barely any energy, feel sick most days and still vomiting every few days. I have no libido whatsoever, have to sleep for a few hours during the day and go to bed early. I feel bad for my partner having to spend so much time alone, he’s doing all the housework and looking after the dog and I just feel useless and like a shell of myself.

This is a much wanted and planned for baby but I’m really struggling with pregnancy so far. Will my second trimester energy suddenly kick in? Any similar experiences would be great, everyone I know who has had a baby didn’t struggle this much and doesn’t understand — I feel quite alone

Sorry you’re still feeling crap. I was actually about to post something similar! So no answers but solidarity from me!

I’m 14 weeks, nearly 15 and definitely feeling better. That means I’m no longer constantly nauseous, completely exhausted and utterly miserable. Instead I’m nauseous in the morning and evenings, knackered and frustrated. Which I guess is progress?

I was the same in previous pregnancies and I thought by now I would be more accepting that the 2nd trimester glow just isn’t for me. But I hate feeling like such a failure for being so knackered and grumpy. I’m struggling to get excited despite this being a very much wanted 3rd baby. I know in my heart it’s worth it as my other DC are great, but urgh pregnancy sucks!

I feel your pain! I was 16 weeks pregnant this time last year and totally unable to see anyone due to lockdown. Didn't go anywhere at all. I had horrible morning sickness until 16+2 and then it disappeared overnight! Hopefully you're at the tail end of it!

@Tryingandhoping2020 - As this is your first pregnancy and you’ve no other kids to tend to my advice would be rest up without feeling guilty. Your OH will understand what a big job you’re doing carrying the baby and to be fair I’d rather do the housework than be sick with pregnancy symptoms any day! I think you shouldn’t feel guilty about how much time your spending in bed. I wish I could have done the same but with kids to look after I’ve had to force myself into the kitchen during my peak nausea so I can whip up some food for them.

I hope you’re nearing the end of the sickness and that the second trimester brings you more energy. Keep telling yourself “this shall pass” and take as much help as you need to x

Thank you all, it’s nice to hear some similar stories. I will keep plodding along! Xx

OP - I don't have anything to from experience to add to what's been said above (this is my first pregnancy and I'm still very early on) but I just wanted to say you're not alone, you e got the support of all the wonderful people on this forum . I hope things get better for you soon xxx

I'm 9weeks +5 and feeling exactly the same. This is also a planned for pregnancy but I've been sick since 5 weeks and off work because I can barely function apart from lying in bed and feeling awful and I'm miserable I can't feel happy about the pregnancy yet at all. It's affected my mental health quite a lot and have spoken to my MW about it. Me and my partner also spend a lot of time apart with me just dwelling in bed most of the time but it is what it is and I'm hoping things will improve by the second trimester also. I've read a lot of other pregnant women on here feeling exactly the same.

My friends were the same my one friend had no sickness at all and breezed through both pregnancies but I think there's loads of women who feel the same as us. I've found this forum a massive source of support. Hoping you feel better soon

Have you had treatment? If not, call your GP and get some antiemetics prescribed, you shouldn't just be left to suffer without trying any treatment. I'm on my second HG pregnancy, also 14 weeks, so I sympathise. I'm still very unwell and been signed off work since 6 weeks, currently taking ondansetron which does reduce the frequency of my vomiting, although I'm still vomiting a few times a day, more on a bad day - 6/7 or times today so far and counting . Definitely don't feel guilty about your partner, it is what it is. You need to rest. Mine is working FT, doing all the housework, and all the childcare of toddler DC outside of work and has been since it started 8 weeks ago. It's bloody tough on him but it can't be helped.

Also, contact the Pregnancy Sickness Support charity, they are great. They offer a peer mentoring service which I'm using and it's had a noticeable effect on protecting my mental health compared to last time when I got really depressed.