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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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My DD is 4 mths and I might be pregnant again!!!

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Amai · 01/11/2004 10:56

I am going to the doctors today for my haemmaroids, blush, and thought i would get a pg test as it is free but may take a couple of days. I seem to have spent a loooong time with out my periods and tried sex once the other week, couldn't find the condoms so DP had to pull out! I dont breast feed and am not on the pill so where have my periods gone. TBH dont want to be pregnant so soon as it seems a lot of work any one else had this happen how are you coping!

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SpringChicken · 01/11/2004 10:59

Amai - would it be such a bad thing for you in yor situation??

I only ask because i started a thread like this this morning - my DD is 3.5 months and although i dont know how i would cope ith 2 children just about under 1 and a puppy - im sure dp and i would manage 1 way or another

stitch · 01/11/2004 11:05

omgod!!!!!!
i have 19 months between my two and that was a complete nightmare.
for both your sakes, i hope you are not pregnant.
do not underestimate the hardwork involved.
and most partners, (as a generalisation, yours might be different) are bloody useless at helping out.......

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Amai · 01/11/2004 11:27

SpringChicken will try to read your other thread and stitch i sit really that hard!!? We have only one income and one bedroom and cannot get any benefits and i am studying part time to be a teacher. I will be in the middle of the course still when I give birth if I am pregnant. Its an odd one because DD is so good and big and strong and sleeps all night, she has a different father to my DP so they would be half siblings. This would be good and bad as DP would have his own child not just a step child who he treats as his own.

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throckenholt · 01/11/2004 11:41

hard for some and not so hard for others - totally dependent on personality of babies and mothers I guess.

Probably hardest when you are pregnant and when they are tiny - as they get older they are at similar stages and play together reasonably well.

There are 14 months between me and my brother (we survived - and so did our parents ), and 18 months between ds1 and twins ds2 & 3.

stitch · 01/11/2004 11:41

it is that hard!
i did my pgce with one child, and that was a nightmare too.
the problem with two little ones is that they are both babies. and they both need attention, but in different ways.
you wont enjoy the first year of your first babies life, as you will be pregnant. then, when new baby arrives, you have a new born to deal with,and a toddler. assuming you dont have nay jealousy problems, you will still have to make sure that the toddler doesnt get into dangerous situations whils tyou are sat breastfeeding. or having a tantrum when you have put baby down for a nap. or toddler doesnt get too energetic with hugs and kisses whilst you are trying to sort out dinner, or washing, or are in the shower. forget about baths, unless you have lots of help!
its also a fine balance, making sure first child doenst kiss baby too much, yet is allowed to feel part of it all.
most people do manage it, but it is very very hard work.

RnB · 01/11/2004 11:52

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Hulababy · 01/11/2004 11:55

I am sure that having too so close will be pretty tough going sometimes, but I am also sure they'll be loads of good points and advantages too. There is just 16 months between me and my brother, and both my parents loved us being so close in age.

bumpsy · 01/11/2004 13:51

I am expecting my third in March when DS2 will be 15mths and I have to say I am not looking forward to it which sounds really harsh but life is so easy at the moment DD1 is 4 and just at school and DS2 is a very easygoing fella who sleeps 7-7 and for 2 1/2 hours in the day and I love my sleep!.I am dreading the broken nights again and how to juggle my attention between all three of them on lack of sleep.I know people cope very well with 3plus but it just seems too much too soon!I think it is because the labour and all the hard work of the early days is so fresh in my mind that I am really worried.I really tried so hard and put a lot of effort into getting DS2 into a routine from early on and I won't have the time of course this time to work at it and I am so worried that it will all go wrong if I don't and the new baby will be up all night long OMG am I rambling or what!!!I just need a bit of reassurance to know it won't be all bad.

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Amai · 02/11/2004 09:42

Thanks for all the varied input. RnB and Throkenholt hats off to you, mucho respect you are both good examples of coping but bumpsy and stitch I feel for you and dont want to go there! But hey these things happen. I want more than one kid, it is just too close for comfort! I will be more careful in future if this is a false alarm. Getting a pg kit today as the surgery dont do tests and they wanted me to go all the way to bloody hospital with my urine sample, half an hour on the bus, and then wait six days for the result!!!(not at the hospital). Testers are expencive arent they like £15 each. Best do it first thing in the morning so it works first time although you can get two at boots second halfprice. any watch this space SpringChicken how you doing?

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beckswith3 · 02/11/2004 11:23

I think you scaring the poor girl, it's really not that bad. My DS1 is 8, DS2 is 13months and I'm overdue by 6days with babe3. DS2 has only been sleeping all night for the last month and I've just finished working full time 2 weeks ago.
I have throughly enjoyed ds2's first year and it hasn't been jeopardised by the fact that I'm pg again. Yes I've worried about how I'll cope but people cope, it may be hard for the first 6months but then DS2 will be 18mths and babe3 will be 6mths and sitting up, eating solids etc;
It'll be great as they grow up and why get used to no nappies, sleeping all night etc just to do it all again in a year or so. There's plusses and minuses to any age gap. I can't wait to met babe3 when he/she decides to arrive!

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Amai · 02/11/2004 12:13

beckswith3 coolstay positive! Congrats and hope the delivery goes well. Keep me posted and watch this space to see if I am in the same position as you one day.

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bumpsy · 02/11/2004 20:42

You are right Beckswith3 I need to remain positive at all times.I am lucky that both children are happy and healthy eat tons and sleep through and they will have another sibling to play with and lean on if needed when they are older.It can't all be hard work morning noon and night can it!!
Good Luck with your latest by the way,keep us posted.

beckswith3 · 03/11/2004 16:15

bumpsy - it is hard to remain positive at all times! not saying I have, there are times when I throw my own mega sized tantrums! BUT it'll all be great in the end. Make the most of sleep now.

milkybarkid · 03/11/2004 17:26

I am pregnant and have a demanding son, there will be 14 months between them and I don't have a partner or anyone else to help. I am finding pregnancy tough so worrying how I will cope with two children close together but I am trying to tell myself things are hardest now and when the abbys born as I will get more support eg from some sort of voluntary scheme

RnB · 04/11/2004 21:40

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Amai · 11/11/2004 10:11

Well I am at this moment thanking my lucky stars that i have just tested negative for pregnancy!!(Early morning pee) Now i can complete my PGCE and get a bicycle and may be plan my next baby! Thank you all for your support hope it goes well ladies. As for my elusive periods, nearly two months now, who needs em!

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