Feeling guilty

[mmc1xo]

Hi, this will be my third pregnancy my first baby was stillborn and I then had my rainbow baby. I remember really enjoying my pregnancies. This time round I am hating absolutely everything about being pregnant don't get me wrong I'm super grateful and blessed and happy to be having another baby but actually being pregnant is a struggle. I am constantly emotional and crying quite a bit. I just feel down a lot and I know the sickness isn't helping. Has anyone else experienced this I'm now 17 weeks and have been like this pretty much from the start.

Just to add this is making me feel really guilty and then in turn makes me feel even worse that I'm not enjoying being pregnant.

Nothing to feel guilty for - I’m 36 weeks with first(and only) for the very same reason you are posting. I’ve HATED every single minute of being pregnant. I mean dont get me wrong I’m so excited for meeting baby in a few weeks but I’m more excited about not being pregnant anymore.

I think it’s either for you or it’s not and I’m not scared to say it’s not for me. Glad I’ve done it to experience it but could never do it again.

Don’t feel guilty as you have the right to hate what is going on in your body, doesn’t mean you aren’t grateful for what comes at the end. Good luck OP.

Enjoying being pregnant isn't compulsory - it's uncomfortable, painful, tiring, stressful etc etc. When I was pregnant with my second I was so busy with my first as a 3 yr old toddler that I barely had time to think about being pregnant. Whereas first time round I could contemplate my bump as much as I liked without interruption!

Pregnancy is a means to an end, there is no need to beat yourself up for not enjoying it at all.

Is the crying etc due to stress of worrying about the baby and if they will be ok?

If so it the stress should start to lessen soon - I didn't enjoy the first 25 weeks of my last pregnancy as I was convinced something would go wrong (after 2 mc). Once I started feeling the baby move things improved. But the worry stayed till the end.

Some days I like it, some days I hate it, some days I'd forget I was pregnant (if my clothes still fitted!)

I think it's completely normal to have mixed emotions - hormones, tiredness, stress, lockdown etc. it's amazing that you're keeping going! Also this time round you have another little one to look after, which must make everything more of a challenge!