How did your partner react? <heartwarming>

[Veronika13]

I'm currently ttc and it has crossed my mind how I would tell my OH. He doesn't know my ovulation dates so it'll be announced unexpectedly to him one day.

How did you tell you partner? Was he (she) excited or shocked, even apprehensive at first? 😄 My friend bought a cute pair of baby shoes and casually gave to her OH in a bag as a present.

I think I'll be so overwhelmed I'll start crying and will shove him a pregnancy stick 😆

Can you share your ideas and experiences with me, it'll make my heart warm during this (at times frustrating) ttc journey

Hey - we did the test together and then I let my partner turn it over and look. It was a clear blue that clearly says the word 'pregnant'. He staggered back and couldn't believe it. He was so happy and excited. It was nice to share that moment together and I'll never forget it.

How many dpo are you?

First test he could only see one line, second test he confirmed there were two.

That was pretty much it.

@eternalflame2020

Hey - we did the test together and then I let my partner turn it over and look. It was a clear blue that clearly says the word 'pregnant'. He staggered back and couldn't believe it. He was so happy and excited. It was nice to share that moment together and I'll never forget it.

How many dpo are you?

I'm 10 dpo so it's testing time soon. I think I'll test on my own, not sure why!

Was that your first test that was positive? I have pcos so think it'll take a few cycles to conceive , hence prob don't want to involve my partner to all the testing etc:)

I always did pregnancy tests on my own, mostly so I could deal with the disappointment alone first. But I did buy him a book of dad jokes for when I planned to tell him. On the day I found out I was pregnant I was just shocked and needed someone else to check the test for me so just called out from the toilet that I thought it was positive and then bought it to bed for him to see 😂 I gave him the book afterwards. He was over the moon though, despite my lack of cute announcement

We did tests together. If it takes you a wee while to conceive, testing becomes pretty stressful/emotional. I thought, why should I go through that alone - he's as much invested in it as I am and doing it together meant we shared the disappointment (and joy when it came)!
So glad we did this - a great moment, finding out together.

Should add that I only tested once per month, after 13dpo, so I wasn't doing fifty tests a day. I can see this would be very annoying if you had to do them all together!

After 5 years and one round of IVF I did the test at 3 am as o couldn’t sleep and needed to know as it were. I woke him up 25 mins later to show him.

With our first he cried - she wasn't planned and we were in the middle of planning our wedding, I think the thought of having a baby was a bit overwhelming to him (he was 22 at the time!) 🙈
She's almost 4 now and has him wrapped around her little finger, his best friend!

With our second baby he was apprehensive with good reason - we'd gone through a TFMR only a few weeks before and I wasn't sure if the BFP was leftover HCG from the lost pregnancy. He wanted us to wait until we had a blood test before getting excited which was sensible.
Well our little whirlwind DD2 is currently sitting on me so all went well there thankfully. 😂

And with my current pregnancy I secretly did the test on our 10 year anniversary and showed him the result when are children were in bed that night - I've never seen him smile so much, he was so happy! ❤️

Congratulations

Our 1st he was devastated and gave me money for a termination, unplanned of course but he was excited after seeing the dating scan pics.
2nd he was overjoyed, even more so when we found out it was a boy at 16wk.
3rd he was a bit shocked and not too happy but he came around.
Our 4th & 5th were a coil fail, he was gobsmacked when we had a scan at epau and told it was twins. It took us both a while to get our heads around that one.
This one I didn't tell him for a week as we'd had a mc 5mth earlier after seeing a hb on a scan, our 5th mc. He just sat in silence for a while, we both struggled to be excited in the 1st trimester but once I'd had the dating scan he couldn't help but tell people, he face timed MY mum while I was putting my notes away lol.
He's said no more after each one to date but now says he wants another! We are expecting our 5th girl and he wants another son, I've told him chances are we'd get more girls and I'm not going to keep going until we get a boy.

Yes, you've got to do what's right for you. I would recommend waiting until at least 13/14 dpo before testing though. I know it's tempting but I don't think it helps to test too early.

It wasn't our first month ttc that we fell pregnant. I just knew I was though when we did conceive and knew it was going to say pregnant when he turned it over! It was the first month I did it that way.

Good luck, everything is crossed for you!

First time around I put the pregnancy test in a jewellery gift box so it looked like there was a bracelet or watch inside.

Second time it was less romantic as we had a few miscarriages and so we were checking each test together to see if they were darkening/progressing x

@VNttc

I always did pregnancy tests on my own, mostly so I could deal with the disappointment alone first. But I did buy him a book of dad jokes for when I planned to tell him. On the day I found out I was pregnant I was just shocked and needed someone else to check the test for me so just called out from the toilet that I thought it was positive and then bought it to bed for him to see 😂 I gave him the book afterwards. He was over the moon though, despite my lack of cute announcement

I feel exactly the same - don't want to drag him in to my disappointments

And I'll prob buy a gift but when the time comes I'll scream from the toilet to look at the test 😁

@eternalflame2020

Yes, you've got to do what's right for you. I would recommend waiting until at least 13/14 dpo before testing though. I know it's tempting but I don't think it helps to test too early.

It wasn't our first month ttc that we fell pregnant. I just knew I was though when we did conceive and knew it was going to say pregnant when he turned it over! It was the first month I did it that way.

Good luck, everything is crossed for you!

Thank you so much 😊 I'm 11 dpo and af due in 5 days, dont think I'll test before it's late.

Mostly because I don't want to know in case there's a chemical. And also want to be 100% sure with the result :) x

I had several losses so would just show Him the test....I wouldn't buy anything as feels like tempting Fate

We were one of the lucky ones, caught first try. He didn't want me to know before him so we did the test together the day before his Birthday (I just knew i was & couldn't wait another day Ha!) as soon as he saw the Positive he said:

'you said this could take a while!'
'Are you happy now?' (we'd be waiting to try for what felt like forever!)

Then he gave me a hug and a kiss, I didn't get the excited emotional response that's just not him! I got that from my Mum instead :)

My other half went "oh" and fell back to sleep! Some nonsense explanation later about knowing his super sperm had done the job. Just saying.. reactions can be disappointing!

I just showed him the test. Couldn't/didn't want to make him wait whilst I bought a cute present as he has as much right to know as me. Also didn't want to buy anything in advance because I knew I would then be even more disappointed if the test wasn't positive.

I did actually find his reaction a little disappointing as he was happy but very chilled about it (as he is with everything else). He has turned out to be the most amazing, loving father though so it's not all about getting the biggest reaction.

I wonder what my OH's reaction will be as when I initially brought up ttc he said we will soon as he has to complete something first (can't say as too outing sorry).
Anyway it got me slightly upset as my age was creeping up (turned 34) but I decided to leave it for a bit. A week later he's asked if we could start trying as he's given it some Thought and he's ready.

So I think he'll be happy but I do think a lot of men might have a more chilled reaction:)

I was at home having left work feeling a bit odd. Did a test and rang DP at work and just blurted it out. It was a major shock and I don't think he knew what to do. He was very happy though.

I tested on my own as I didn’t think for one second it would be positive, then showed DH. We then had a row about why I’d done it on my own, he was really upset about it. So it didn’t go particularly well!!
It was shock for both of us (half heartedly TTC) as we thought we were past it. Once the shock wore off he was fine but I wish now we’d done it together. I didn’t think he’d be so bothered.

First time. I did a test on a whim and to my great surprise it was positive (2 years TTC by that point). DH was at work, so I called him in my sheer excitement. He was slightly gobsmacked (from what I could tell) but took it in his stride.

Second time, we were both on annual leave as our kitchen was getting replaced, and really didn't want the stress of our jobs at the same time. I'd had my round of Clomid (nearly 3 years TTC at this point), and I was starting to get the same symptoms as last time. It was two days before my period was due, but two lovely dark lines came up immediately. I called DH into the bathroom and waved the test at him. Conversation as follows. "Look! Look!". "What am I looking at?" "..... There's two lines!" "I can see that, but what does it mean?" "It means I'm pregnant!" "Oh.... Wow.... Ok.... What now?"
Wind was taken slightly out of my sails, but he did get excited in the end. Especially after the first scan.

TTC DC2 now. Would be nice if I could have a positive test to give to him for his birthday. It's only 3.5 weeks away, so it's looking unlikely, but a girl can dream. I'd probably tell him anyway. I'm terrible at keeping secrets from him.

I've had several miscarriages which means the telling wasn't always as happy as you might think as was tinged with worry but when I look back now I smile.

First daughter - age 32 after 2 losses "I'm pregnant. I won't be drinking but I don't want to talk about it until 12 weeks" (obviously I did talk about it, but prior to this I'd known for a week and not told him because I was too scared!)

Second daughter - me at 5am on period due date wakes him up to say (had taken a year and a half and one more loss) "I'm pregnant" Him " that's lovely, don't get too excited."

However for some reason with No2 I knew it would be ok....

Now 6 and 3....

Mine was roughly aware of when my periods were due both times tbh and I would tell him when they were late. Both times I didn't test until they were a week late. The first one I tested whilst he was there, we were both getting ready for work. The second one I tested while he was at work and whatsapped him a photo of the test. No big dramas!

@Megan2018 it hasn't even crossed my mind that he might be upset that I've tested without him.
I guess we don't have control of other persons feelings so not sure how they will take the news.