Pregnancy uncertainty

[Ellechelle]

Hi all. I'm new to this forum and really hoping for some positive vibes.
I have just discovered that i am pregnant with baby number 4, i am 37 and my husband is 35. Our children are 13, 11 & 8.
We decided we would be happy with another addition to our family so we had a relaxed way of trying, didn't focus on it too much. Found out less than 2 weeks ago and i am pregnant, now nearly 6 weeks. Since finding out i just feel such a mixture of emotions, now questioning if we have done the right thing, i've beem crying and thinking and researching about terminations but at the same time feeling a flicker of enjoyment about a new baby and i feel so selfish to even think about this.
Has anybody felt these feelings and they have eased throughout the pregnancy? Is this just hormonal. Is this still shock and maybe i need time? Thank you for any advise.xx

Hope your pregnancies are treating you well.xx

I had number 4 at 40. My others were 19, 10 and 8 at the time. We were Ttc but it took longer than hoped and I had lots of feelings of worry about my age, about the gap etc.

He is 20m now and an absolute delight, I was fortunate that a few local friends did similar so I have a few friends with older kids and babies. He is loved by his older sisters and they are very good with him. I'm way more relaxed than I was with the others and he's a lovely gentle soul.

I'm now 30wks with DC5 aged 41. This one I was definitely more conflicted, whilst I wanted another close in age to DS i also considered termination but couldn't go through with.

Thank you so much for replying. Makes me feel better that others are planning babies after such a big gap. I actually don't feel like i could go for a termination but also the fear of struggling as an "older" mum scares me so its nice to hear that you are doing good and also having another......thats lovely news. Thanks for sharing. Its really early days for me so i'm hoping the emotions will subside to positives vibes very soon. I get waves of fweling so happy about it all and then knocked back into questioning myself. I need to keep thinking of the positive..xx

Thank you and i hope this pregnancy treats you well.x

It'll be hormonal, see how you feel after seeing baby on a scan.

I had the "wtf am I doing" feelings in the 1st trimester as I just felt awful most of the time with nausea, fatigue and home schooling 5. Crazy really as she is very much wanted after a few chemicals and 2 mc's at 8 & 9wk. I have spent more time worrying than anything else this pregnancy and really struggled to allow myself to be excited. Very happy about baby now and dh says he wants another, maybe if we conceived within a couple of years of this lo. Always said I wanted to be done making babies by 40.

Thanks for the reply. I'm so desperate to have a scan but think it's a little early. I'm certain my feelings will change instantly.........i think i am in shock!

Very happy for you after you have been through losses.
I'm starting to feel more joy than sadness over the past couple of days.x

I think it's normal to have the wtf and I doing feeling. There are a lot of hormones flying around and I'm sure that is influencing how you feel. Ultimately it is your decision alone whether or not you continue the pregnancy but I wouldn't make a snap decision just yet. Who knows, when you have a scan you could feel totally different!

Thanks. I definitely won't be making any decisions just yet, i will give myself time. I'm already feeling alot better about things. Hearing that the feelings are normal makes me feel better. Thanks for replying.xx

I might be in a similar spot if my inklings are correct. Have felt rough for the past few days, really tired, really thirsty etc. I was in the shower earlier and was so tired I wanted to sit down in the shower and it occurred to me that this is just how I usually feel in the first trimester.

I have 3dd already (ages 10, 8 and 3). Number 4 would be VERY much unplanned, as we are (were?) pretty sure we are done. I'm just starting to plan for some changes to my career now that my youngest is on the cusp of school.

I have been so tired. I just keep going to bed to chill, just feel wiped out. We haven't told anybody yet apart from my sister. My children are probably wandering why i am being so lazy all the time.

I hope you get the result you want.xx