First trimester struggles

[KateC92]

Hello everyone - I am 8 weeks today and feeling really down. I am so unbelievably grateful to be pregnant as it took so long to conceive but omg I am struggling. The constant worry that the baby has stopped growing or that every time I go to the toilet I will see blood, along with not wanting to eat anything but starving at the same time. I just can’t cope 😭 don’t really know what I am looking for, I suppose just seeing I am not alone maybe 🙈

Hey OP, I'm also 8 weeks and have been feeling pretty ordinary over the past three weeks. My GP prescribed me odansetron 4mg which really takes the edge of the nausea. She also told me to make sure to drink plenty of water as this dilutes the hCG hormone that contributes to morning sickness. Unfortunately miscarriage is a sad possibility, so I'm just hanging out until the 12/14 week mark. Try not to worry too much and hopefully all will be well 😊

Hey OP, congratulations!
Your post reads like I could have written it myself weeks 8-11. I didn't think I could go through the suffering any longer but I finally got a break a fortnight ago and I'm not miserable anymore

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All I can say is that it does get better. I had a terrible first trimester with morning sickness and anxiety but things are starting to calm down now. I'm almost 13 weeks and everything is settling a bit, so hang in there for a few more weeks and you'll feel better- both physically and emotionally.

Hey, congratulations! I'm 16 weeks, our baby was conceived after fertility struggles so I completely empathise. Don't feel guilty for how you feel, pregnancy is hard and it's even harder after you've had to battle to get a BFP. I was exactly the same as you in the first trimester, was convinced I'd end up with a MMC at first scan, constantly checking for blood. However, each day brings you nearer to the first scan and chances are everything will be fine. Just eat what you can and take it a day at a time. I feel a lot better now I'm in the second trimester. You'll soon be in the second trimester x

I found eating popcorn all day enabled me to eat more normally as kept nausea at bay.

Also tell some close family and friends and your boss (if you have to go in to work) it makes life SO much easier when you can talk about it. Made a HUGE difference to my metal health with pregnancy's 2 & 3 even though I lost pregnancy 2.

Rest, treat yourself to whatever you crave and be gentle on yourself.

Sorry I cancelled that!

I felt nauseous constantly to the point of tears because I was so hungry but physically couldn't eat a thing except digestives in a cup of tea. That same along with the worry that I wasn't feeding the baby. I was so upset and frustrated with myself I felt like the worst mum not being able to grow my own baby but then I found out the baby would be growing as should of o kept on folic acid - relief!
Week 8 I had brown discharge. Only when wiping and at funny times of the day. That out me into stress mode every time I went to the loo, along with the fact I had leg cramps and period-like pain I kept expecting blood but that stopped after a week

All of this, along with my raging hormones had me up the wall. I was either a bubbling mess crying over nothing or I was angry/raging. Usually to do with housework or hunger. Always aimed at hubby. Shame. I actually worried he might leave me I was such a cow... but that was just anxiety and paranoia (which has also calmed down a lot!) I kept thinking, who would put up with this shit?? I felt lousy, constipated, weak due to not eating and sex was so far from my mind too. Miserable. I just wanted to wake up in 6 months and it be done with. I thought I'd never make it through

Then week 11 came. The relief! I'm feeling myself. I'm happy. Enjoying pregnancy. Hubby and I back on track. Toilet problems fixed (with laxative help). Hormones are partially covered for now, apologies are working. Still quite a bit of anxiety but not so much paranoia. The stress won't go away but it's manageable.
We had our dating scan two weeks ago at 10+4. Baby is fine and I'm reassured after lengthy talks with my MW. We have another scan tomorrow at 13+2

I'm sorry your having a hard time OP. I wish there was something more I could offer other than my complete support and hope that you keep well and your stress/worries go soon xx

Thank you everyone for your responses, it helps to know I am not alone. I wish I could see into the future and see things would be ok. But I’ll just have to learn to deal with my emotions 🙈 I haven’t heard from the midwife yet either and feel once I can speak to her I will feel better too :)

If you are feeling really worried the community midwifes won't mind if you call them to arrange a call back. They are about maternal care.