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Help me, I'm petrified

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EvelynVictoria · 05/04/2021 00:33

Hi,

I need to talk to someone about what’s going on and hope to get some reassurance.

I had the coil fitted for over a year with no issues and no periods at all. In February I had a really heavy period but didn’t think anything of it. After that I had continuous cramp and pain for 8 weeks like I was going to have another period but nothing. I ended up getting a nurse to check the coil and she found it had misplaced itself and had to remove it. That was five days ago and the pain has improved massively. However, she also advised I do a pregnancy test as the coil may not have been working as effectively. I’m pregnant. I think around four weeks.
Now I am petrified. Over the last couple of months I’ve had a few occasions of drinking heavily, smoking and using recreational drugs with friends. In general I don’t drink much at all, and am not a smoker or regular user of drugs.
However, along with the fact the coil may have led to complications (I won’t know until I see GP), the amount of prescription medications I have to take, my age and then the fact I’ve had a few bad evenings socially, I’m really really worried I may have done harm or made an almost impossible pregnancy now at higher risk of miscarriage :(.

I’ve looked at a lot of online forums and it seems that a lot of people have made the choices before they knew they were pregnant and everything went ok. But I need to know, that if I confide in my GP/Midwife, that there won’t be any consequences? I don’t want to be seen as an addict to drink, cigarettes and especially not drugs. I need to know there won’t be any risk to my daughter with social services and that I won’t be treated differently throughout my pregnancy. Obviously the minute i found out I started making healthier food choices and taking supplements. And I won’t be touching anything that could put my baby at risk.

I’m just so scared.

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bluebell34567 · 05/04/2021 00:48

I’ve looked at a lot of online forums and it seems that a lot of people have made the choices before they knew they were pregnant and everything went ok.
try to keep this in your mind and stay calm. Flowers

Bluewhiteandgold · 05/04/2021 01:12

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EvelynVictoria · 05/04/2021 02:07

Thank you for the reassurance. I didn't want to spend the next nine months being treated like an addict because I confided in my GP/Midwife. And I've not slept well from worrying since finding out I'm pregnant. I've already changed my eating habits and started the pregnacare. I just really hope everything is ok x

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tlxx · 05/04/2021 02:44

I just stumbled upon this and tour situation is so similar to mine. I'm 13wk.
I'm on a lot of prescription meds for chronic pain and I was bricking it on my first midwife call. I also used recreational drugs in my past (not in this pregnancy) and as I answered the q's I felt awful.

We had an early scan at 6+4 as I was worried about prescription medication effects- all ok.
Had dating scan two weeks ago at 10+4 and all fine but I'm referred to 'VIP' a team that will consult my medications throughout. I'm not sure if this team is everywhere tho? But at this appointment they've started reducing everything and are great to help. I'm not judging myself and worrying as much now I'm supported.

The next scan is Tuesday at 13+2 - everything's feeling the way it should and I've forgotten all about the initial beating myself up for living before pregnancy

I hope all goes well for you OP xx

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