Unexpectedly Pregnant

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Well... from two pregnancy tests done this morning it appears I am pregnant. Absolutely shell shocked doesn’t even cover it tbh.

Been having cramps and constipation type issue for a couple weeks (sorry if TMI!) but presumed these were just menstrual or Keto diet related. I have been on the Keto diet since January but stopped and returned to carbs last week. Decided to do a pregnancy test, just to rule it out... and oh shit!

DP and I are in an extremely happy relationship, he’s overjoyed at the news and really wants to have the baby. I, on the other hand, feel abit sick at the whole thing. We already own 2 houses but wanted to sell up and move to a “forever family home” this year. Money should not be an issue as we earn over 100k between us. I think I’m currently just exasperated over how much this will change my entire life. I’m 30 in September and have made a lot of plans for the back end of the year, we have holidays booked for this year and next; including a trip to New York in December which I really wanted to go on. I’m absolutely terrified of being pregnant, body changes, weight gain and giving birth. And I’m equally as terrified that this’ll be the end of my career, I’ve worked incredibly hard to get to where I am right now and feel it’s going to go to waste if I take time off for a baby.

Someone please give me a pat on the back (or a small shake to snap me out of it) and tell me it’ll be alright

It'll be fine, but it will change your life. It need not end your career and lost of working women come back and keep advancing after a baby.

Was this a contraception failure?

@MissConductUS thanks for your response!

Yes it was. I’ve been on the same pill around 14 years due to really painful periods in my teens and have never had any mishaps previously.

I think I’m just overwhelmed at the thought of it all!

Firstly, congratulations!
I totally understand how you feel, and was exactly the same at your age, but having only just got pregnant at 40 after 5 years of trying on our 4th IVF cycle you really can't plan the perfect time for these things.
Babies can still go on aeroplanes (if this pregnancy works, ours certainly will be) and yes your life will be different but if your company is a good one, you'll still have that career.
Good luck x

Finding out you’re pregnant is overwhelming and scary, even if you’ve planned it to be honest! It’s a shock so take time to let it sink in a bit. It doesn’t have to be the end of your career at all, or the end of holidays etc. Life changes, yes, but generally you don’t mind once your baby is here because you love them more than anything, so you adjust. It will all be ok

We had a lot of battles to conceive (I had a lot of investigations and then surgery) so it was a very, very wanted pregnancy but I still felt all of the same things. I was so sure that I wasn't ever going to be a mum, I had built my life around that - 2 houses, career plan, enjoying life as a couple. The thought of that changing to life as a family scared the pants off me.
It's amazing! I feel like a better person because of the way our boy makes us feel (he's 2 very soon). I work full time but enjoy lovely evenings and weekends as a family - little boy loves nursery and all of the things they do with him. I have achieved a promotion since returning to work (after 7 months to be precise).
So yes, it might be a shock and of course your life will change but you may well look back and realise that it was the best thing to ever happen to you (as it is for me). Congratulations

Ladies thank you so much for your comments.

I’m also overjoyed that those of you who had struggles TTC are now on your journey to motherhood or are already mothers [heart]

I’m glad to know I’m not alone in feeling like this, I think it’s all just such a shock for me because I felt like I was taking the test just for the sake of it. More of a tick box “I’m not pregnant”, I didn’t even look at the stick for a good half hour. Forgot about it and went back to work (WFH due to COVID) and then STOP THE BUS there’s two lines

I know because of the person I am that I’ll definitely be a working mother so I’m also really happy to hear that some of you have successfully transitioned back into work and your life now has a new normal. Thanks so much for the hand holds! xx

It is a bit overwhelming at first. I'm a New Yorker and am sorry your holiday is now in doubt. New York will still be here when you are ready to come back.

I have two, both in uni now and doing really well. I'm not going to tell you that it's easy, but it does get easier as you learn what you need to know and they get older. My best advice would be to make sure you have lots of support for the first few months. For my second we had a doula come in for a few hours a day when my husband was working. That was a godsend as it gave me time to shower, run to the store, take a nap, etc.