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Sudden depression in third trimester

16 replies

Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 00:50

Sorry. I really am but I can't sleep, I don't want to do anything. I feel like giving up everything.
I even told a midwife I wanted to die, did they do anything nope.

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PurpleFlower1983 · 31/03/2021 01:08

Do you have a partner you can talk to? Friends? Family? It’s natural for your hormones to do all kinds of things to your body during pregnancy and pre-natal depression is quite common. Maybe speak to your GP?

BlueberryPancake21 · 31/03/2021 01:14

So sorry you feel like this and your midwife didn't take you seriously. There is help out there and you aren't the only one feeling this way I promise. Pregnancy hormones are awful and if you already have a mental health condition (i do) some days and nights are truly awful. If you are in crisis right now do call the Samaritans - a chat might help. It is tough but you can do this - hang in there a day at a time.

Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 01:18

@PurpleFlower1983 I have a lovely husband, but he needs to beable to carry on.
GP is useless sadly and I don't have friends who can help. They just see me as toxic. I'm sorry I don't really know why I posted tbh

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Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 01:19

@4BlueberryPancake21 I called a crisis line and am waiting for them to call back. But it's been over an hour. Last time I called samaritans they couldn't really do anything but listen. I need action

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Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 01:52

Well it's been two hours now. I guess no ones going to call

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IHateCoronavirus · 31/03/2021 02:23

Op can you tell us more about why you feel depressed?

Willowkins · 31/03/2021 02:56

Antenatal depression is a real thing but it's not as well known as postnatal depression. ADs can help get you through until the baby is born and then there is a good chance it will just go on its own. Don't give up.

Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 03:00

ADs would just mess up my child.

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MagpieSong · 31/03/2021 05:57

They wouldn’t mess up your child, but the baby may be born addicted and need 5 day minimum monitoring for NAS, which not everyone is comfortable with at all. However, I would suggest you phone the GP and also see if you can speak to a different midwife. I know it’s a nightmare advocating for yourself (it gets exhausting doesn’t it) but it’s so important you get support around this. It’s atrocious you haven’t been taken seriously. I’m not sure where you are, so access depends on area, but there are perinatal psychiatrists who’d be able to talk you through options. If you ask your GP they should be able to refer you, they can also refer on to a CMHT for specialist MH support where the psychiatrist prescribes (gp doesn’t always have the knowledge). Alternatively if your gp won’t refer, phone CMHT and explain, they may be able to get you on their books. If you can afford some private counselling sessions, I’d look into those, but otherwise GP theoretically can refer on. Most areas only offer CBT for Depression on the NHS. Some charities also fund therapy, Mind does in some areas, Anxiety UK offer therapy (anxiety often a part of an/pn depression) and may have some good advice as a charity, Rethink offers advocacy which might help you get a midwife to listen.

One thing I would say is that you may be in a better position with anti-depressants and your safety is paramount. Depression around pregnancy tends to be hormone based, but there are some techniques counsellors would support you with that might help - it just takes a long time. As the antidepressants can take months to have an effect, most docs would recommend starting now to be in a safer place once baby is born, however, it is always your choice.

I really hope you get the support you need. Ask your husband to advocate, no matter how lovely he is, he needs to be taking the bull by the horns right now and not allowing no support to be an answer. He needs to phone GP and midwife and voice his concerns until he’s listened to.

Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 09:02

I have an appointment today at 11 to be assessed. But I don't want to take ADs. I am doing everything I can to prevent my child from being disabled mentally in any way.

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Sitchervice · 31/03/2021 14:42

Update: I'm not being put on medication but they are going to try and help me manage my symptoms

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Snally82 · 01/04/2021 06:10

You can usually self refer to Talking Therapies x

Yaty · 01/04/2021 06:31

Sorry you are going through this but just wanted to say anti depressants don't mentally disable your baby! SSRIs are safe to take in pregnancy I know because I took one and so do thousands of other pregnant women. My GP actually upped my dose when I found out I was pregnant. Also my baby wasn't born addicted and didn't require any additional monitoring as the pp suggested. I just wanted to reassure you they are safe to take, won't harm your baby and could really help to just make you feel like you can cope better in the short term whilst the additional support you get (I'm assuming cbt?) starts to work.

MagpieSong · 09/04/2021 07:33

Late back to this, sorry. Your child won’t be mentally disabled, that’s not the risk. NAS is a physical dependence, a term for withdrawing. It is managed safely in the babies it occurs in (not all), but can be stressful for those involved. I really recommend discussing your options with a perinatal psychiatrist as they may can go through your personal situation best. You can also start them directly after birth which prevents risk to baby or breastfeed to reduce likelihood of NAS occurring at all. Antidepressants do not cause mental disability. It isn’t one of the risks.

Sitchervice · 09/04/2021 07:57

I spoke to my obstertrition, I told her the reason why I didn't want to go on anti depression tablets and she said "That's understandable"

I am however being seen by the hospitals mental health team who are helping me. But also said they don't like putting pregnant people on anti depression tablets and it's always a last resort.

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MagpieSong · 09/04/2021 23:05

That’s really good news re hospital team. Absolutely, it is a last resort when people are suicidal or at risk. Mental disability isn’t a risk to the baby, but NAS which is physical dependence can be. Very glad you’re getting support!

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