Tearing and another pregnancy

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Looking for some experiences, had a second degree tear that also went upwards, inwards and downwards (if that makes sense) as took a while to stitch up but recovery was fine.

Pregnant again and I was wondering how likely it is to happen again and if they would push me down any induction or c section route? Baby was normal weight but had a large head 🤣

Our 3rd had a big head and tore me quite badly, our next was breech twins so I had an elcs. This one is due Aug and my consultant thinks I'm a good candidate for vbac despite previous births and history of big babies.

May be worth asking for a consultant referral to discuss options.

I had a 3rd degree with my second.
I actually tried to push for a csection but they weren't keen on it.

But no, with a 2nd degree tear they won't push for induction or csection.

I know many people who had a 2nd degree the first time and didn't even tear the second time

I had a similar injury to yours (second, bordering third degree, needed a lot of internal stitching which they almost did in theatre) and an identical one second time too. No suggestion of anything other than a VB. I healed a lot better the second time and they actually repaired some of the mess from the first time.

I had 2nd degree tear with my first that took ages to sew. Also had a 2nd degree tear with my second but it didn't bleed and was left to heal itself

I had a 3rd degree tear during my first labour (2hrs pushing), lots of internal stitching and two clitoral tears. It was not fun. Second baby basically flew out - all done with two pushes, a couple of small abrasions but no stitching required

Do you mean they refused to let you have a c section @SnooperTrooper12345 so you had to have a vbac? I'm wanting a c section after a 3rd degree tear this time round and I'm worried they won't let me!

@WindFlower92

Do you mean they refused to let you have a c section *@SnooperTrooper12345* so you had to have a vbac? I'm wanting a c section after a 3rd degree tear this time round and I'm worried they won't let me!

My first baby I didn't tear, my second, I had a 3rd degree tear with and wanted to request a csection for this baby as it took me a long time to heal and still get pain from it now, over 3 years later. My consultant wouldn't agree to a csection and neither would the second opinion consultant. And I just dont have the guts to fight for it. Its already caused enough stress with both them rejecting it. So I'm 39 weeks now and heading for a vaginal birth

@WindFlower92

Do you mean they refused to let you have a c section *@SnooperTrooper12345* so you had to have a vbac? I'm wanting a c section after a 3rd degree tear this time round and I'm worried they won't let me!

You have to be prepared to fight for it. And may end up seeing many many people to find someone that will agree.

I just didn't have the confidence to do that

I had a 3rd degree tear and episiotomy with my first. When I saw the consultant in my second pregnancy, C section was not discussed or offered. I didn't realise to ask/request. The consultant told me I had a less than 5% chance of tearing as badly again. This was 11yrs ago.

I've gone on to have 3 further babies, each with large heads (GP was shocked by DD2 when he measured) and a second degree tear each time. With my 4th I'm pretty sure I tore along the same old tear. They did take ages to stitch but I don't really know where they were.

However my recovery, in terms of pain/discomfort etc from the 3 second degree was minimal. It was ok and the births themselves were ok. On balance I'm glad they were all vaginal especially with small gaps.

I know all tears are different. I would probably ask to see a consultant to discuss your options if not routinely offered.

Interesting feedback thank you all. I doubt they would push me down a c section as I also have low platelets again which could mean I am higher risk of bleeding.

@OhNoGroken very similar so fingers crossed this one fly’s out too 😂🤣

I had a third degree tear with my first.

I honestly assumed that tear once, tear again. My second was larger, but I gave birth in the pool and all 4s. I was amazed when the midwife said I hadn't torn! She was impressed with her stitching lol.