Telling my boss of pregnancy

[Nojudgments]

I'm only 10 weeks but don't have my 12 week scan until 10th may , I really want to hold out until this has happened. Thing is I'm showing already and it's really getting hard to hide. I'm worried sick about telling her as I had a really bad patch in my relationship which resulted me in leaving work early saying I was changing the locks on the door etc as he had really pissed me off (nothing violent ) I was just fed up with his silly insecure childish behaviour at the time but we have since sorted things out so as u can imagine I she doesn't know we are even still together 😬 could maybe email her instead as I'm really really very nervous about this , to the point I'm thinking I'd rather just hand my notice in and rub away 😟

I think before anything else you need to check the date on that 12 week scan as it sounds like you will be too far along for the screening if you choose to have it.

It's none of your boss' business other than to ensure you are safe at work so tell her when you are comfortable in doing so 🙂

Hang on, you’re ten weeks now, there’s no way you’d not have a scan until 16 weeks surely

I agree with others about checking you date for your scan. 12 week scan needs to be before 14 weeks

Well the problem was I have the wrong LMP date I did change it but haven't had a new scan booked in?

Chase them up. That’s not right. Have you not had a booking in appointment over the phone or anything?

What did your midwife say about it at your booking appointment?

Tbh I was hoping you had meant to put 10th April which would be about right, it doesn't have to be bang on 12 weeks but they aim for a week either side as far as I can tell.

Well she wasn't overly concerned she just said do you have your scan booked I said yes it's in may I can email them

Well of phone them to be honest. So your midwife has seen you, and was totally unconcerned that you won’t be scanned until 16+ weeks? That’s really odd.

As to the original reason for posting, I thought I was showing at 10 weeks but there was a LOT of bloating going on- some loose tops sorted it out and then it actually went down. I’m only really properly showing a little bump now at 15 weeks. It won’t be appropriate for your boss to just ask you ‘are you pregnant?’ so I think you can ride it out for now. I had to tell mine earlier than I’d have liked because I was sick as a dog weeks 8-11.

Thanks .just worried because of the drama that went on , I'm still not divorced from my ex and my life seems like one huge nightmare for a 36 year old mum of 3 😬

I'd really get the scan moved sooner if I was you.
Sorry to look on the negative side but if anomalies are discovered (very rare, don't want to scare you) you may want time to decide what to do and the earlier you are in your pregnancy the better.

Ah ok, it’s different if you’ve been pregnant before I think and you do start to show earlier. Your boss still doesn’t need to know just yet though if you don’t want her to. Hope you get your scan sorted.