Pregnant!

@Miriam89

Hi, I’m so lost and don’t know what to do. Basically about 2 years ago me and my husband had problems our relationship went down the hill we have two children, we were kind of drifting apart we slept in separate bedrooms. But I always kind of didn’t give up and kept on going as I didn’t want my kids to feel the tension or anything at all. Just few months ago I lost my dad, since loosing my dad, my husband has been supporting. One day he came over to me and said we should give our relationship another go for our children and us. And he said “ my dad will be watching me he wouldn’t have liked it if I got divorced etc as in he would want the best for his daughter(me) .. so I kind of thought about it and said yes of course I want to give it another go and we got on really well. I also started to work on myself and loosing weight etc, I started feeling much better about myself etc and felt happy that our relationship is getting better. Now back in March I had taken my coil out as I thought I don’t really need it or want it as we didnt have any inter course for 2 years. I just felt like there’s no need for the coil and I’m not putting my body under any pressure. So sorry for the long post. I since our relationship got better I went back to sleep in our bedroom and we ended up having unprotected intercourse twice I did make him aware that I’ve took the coil out and we just carried on… now I only found out yesterday I’m pregnant which I didn’t expect. After not having intercourse for 2years and the only two times we did have intercourse I get pregnant what are the chances ?! My luck.. now since I find out I’m pregnant I get really happy and felt over the moon but anxious and nervous at the same time as I didn’t know how my husband’s reaction would be. I finally broke the news to my husband and it didn’t go very well. He said he doesn’t want a third baby and started telling me I’m a child myself and how do I want to have another baby, and that we can’t afford it etc. Bear in mind I’m the only one who is working full time and provide for the house etc which I don’t mind. He does other things school runs, cooking, house chores etc. So he does help in the house. I said to him this a blessing, he just wasn’t pleased at all and was asking if I sorted it out as in to have a termination. I’m so annoyed and upset don’t know what to do. We haven’t spoken since last night.

Ps I have had a termination 2 years ago (it was our decision then) as we had problems and wasn’t getting on then and that’s when I had the coil put in and our relationship went down the hill since then. And just recently got back on good terms and now I’m worried if I’ve messed up everything by becoming pregnant but both of us were aware of this before we had intercourse.

Please anyone been in my situation ? I feel so sad and don’t know what to do.

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