Usually disappointed. Please someone convince me it could be ok this time.

[mumsneedtochat]

Hi all,

Background story - one three year old choice, one ectopic pregnancy, currently pregnant now. Struggled to get pregnant for the last 2 years and I suffer from irregular periods.

Had early scan as wasn't sure how far I may be, couldn't see anything, maybe too early on? Hcg levels currently being checked every 48 hours.

I have this sickening feeling that it's not ok and that something is going to go wrong again. Part of me inside just hopes and prays that this will be ok - it happened once before but I just can't let myself accept that.

Anyone have any words of wisdom? How do I stop driving myself crazy. If I worked my dates out right, I could only be 3 weeks right now. There is a long way to go and with the looming thought that anything could go wrong any time.. I feel like I'm just waiting for it to come crashing down.

I have longed for the feeling of being pregnant again for years and as soon as it happens I just assume it will only be taken away from me.

It’s so hard after loss isn’t it 😔

I can tell you, it is possible! I had an ectopic last year, and I’m 20 weeks pregnant today. Your big hurdle will be that early scan. If you’re only 3 weeks, you definitely won’t see anything yet. Have they rebooked your scan for around 6 weeks? I found a lot of the pressure was off after that.

The fact they are measuring your HCG every 48 hours is really encouraging and hopefully will keep you going til your next scan. I kept testing for about a week to watch my lines get darker, which I don’t think is particularly healthy, but it’s what I needed to keep me going at the time.

Best of luck with everything, you’ve got this

@mumsneedtochat I’m in a very similar position! I know exactly how you feel, it’s so so hard. I had an ectopic pregnancy and surgery to remove my left tube only 3 months ago.

I found out I was pregnant again a few days ago and was absolutely over the moon. However yesterday I had quite a lot of pain where my tube was removed, kind of behind my scar. Now I’m absolutely terrified it will happen again.

It’s going to be a long couple of weeks until my first scan! (I’m only about 4 weeks). We just have to do our best to stay positive 💐

@MrsB2019x huge congratulations!! 🥳 That’s such amazing news. I love hearing stories like yours, it’s so reassuring!

[quote hopingforamiraclex]@mumsneedtochat I’m in a very similar position! I know exactly how you feel, it’s so so hard. I had an ectopic pregnancy and surgery to remove my left tube only 3 months ago.

I found out I was pregnant again a few days ago and was absolutely over the moon. However yesterday I had quite a lot of pain where my tube was removed, kind of behind my scar. Now I’m absolutely terrified it will happen again.

It’s going to be a long couple of weeks until my first scan! (I’m only about 4 weeks). We just have to do our best to stay positive 💐

@MrsB2019x huge congratulations!! 🥳 That’s such amazing news. I love hearing stories like yours, it’s so reassuring![/quote]
It's so nice to read this from someone in the same sort of position considering the circumstances. Just nice to know that I'm not alone in this and that you are going through something similar too! I feel early pregnancy can be a very lonely time as you aren't able to share with the world or people yet about it and struggle to find someone to talk about it.

I'm really hoping it's going to be ok but any kind of twitch , I'm so paranoid and just want time to go faster.

@MrsB2019x

It’s so hard after loss isn’t it 😔

I can tell you, it is possible! I had an ectopic last year, and I’m 20 weeks pregnant today. Your big hurdle will be that early scan. If you’re only 3 weeks, you definitely won’t see anything yet. Have they rebooked your scan for around 6 weeks? I found a lot of the pressure was off after that.

The fact they are measuring your HCG every 48 hours is really encouraging and hopefully will keep you going til your next scan. I kept testing for about a week to watch my lines get darker, which I don’t think is particularly healthy, but it’s what I needed to keep me going at the time.

Best of luck with everything, you’ve got this

Thank you for your comment. Yes you are right the fact I'm having levels is reassuring and hopefully will give me the answers I need. The fact they are closely monitoring me aswell, I really appreciate it as it doesn't happen for everyone and really helps with my anxiety levels at this time knowing there's something to look forward to. Just really hoping I see something on my next scan.

@MrsB2019x

It’s so hard after loss isn’t it 😔

I can tell you, it is possible! I had an ectopic last year, and I’m 20 weeks pregnant today. Your big hurdle will be that early scan. If you’re only 3 weeks, you definitely won’t see anything yet. Have they rebooked your scan for around 6 weeks? I found a lot of the pressure was off after that.

The fact they are measuring your HCG every 48 hours is really encouraging and hopefully will keep you going til your next scan. I kept testing for about a week to watch my lines get darker, which I don’t think is particularly healthy, but it’s what I needed to keep me going at the time.

Best of luck with everything, you’ve got this

Oh and congratulations to you. That's great news and always so happy to hear of others positive stories.

I had three losses inc a ruptured ectopic before my baby.

I had bleeding throughout pregnancy and I still don’t believe he’s real now.

He’s one, and snoring.

Did you mean you are 5 weeks really? As surely 48 for 3 weeks when most people haven't even implanted yet is good? Have they booked you in again at 7 weeks?

@hopingforamiraclex Congratulations! 🥳 I had pain at my ectopic site at 5 weeks, I went in for my early scan the day after and they said that it can be common as everything preparing for pregnancy can irritate existing scar tissue. Hoping that’s the case for you too! Let us know how you get on x

@mumsneedtochat it is really tough not being able to talk about it. I also think unless you’ve been through it it’s hard to understand just how scary it is. I wish time would go faster too! Do you have a date for your scan yet?

@MrsB2019x thank you! That’s really reassuring to hear. I really hope it’s good news in a couple of weeks 🤞