So I am almost 4 weeks post partum, we had a happy healthy baby boy and he is my world. I have noticed I am just irritable..especially with my husband. I feel like everything he does irritates me. Mind you he is a great dad, and loving husband. He cares. But one thing he has been doing is he is jumping the gun on things for our child as far as development. Our son is only 3 weeks and 4 days old and my husband is already talking about not using pronouns because he needs to know his own name, or wanting to introduce him to church a couple years from now (we have been together almost 6 years and we do not attend church), trying to get him to sleep in the co sleeper by himself, getting an activity gym even though while our son is starting to grab he does not have the connection between his brain and motor functions yet etc.
While I am trying to just enjoy this time and not worry about the future, because we have so little time where he will be like this..And then it makes me feel like we are not on the same page and that he is telling me how to care for our child because he has these expectations.. and I don't want to be that parent right now because he is so little and for my job (mental health therapist) I see so many kids be pressured by their parents to do things they don't want to do, and I don't want to be that parent. I have talked to my husband about this and he says he doesn't have an agenda but I feel like he does.
Is this a normal thing I am feeling? I worry about post partum depression too but I don't feel I meet the criteria for it (but I will mention it to my doctor in a couple weeks when I see her).