Struggling with 2nd pregnancy

[MyGrassIsBrowner]

Hi all! Not sure what I particularly want from this thread other than me having a vent but here goes.

Just as title says.. really struggling with my 2nd pregnancy. I'm currently 11+5 but I've had hurrendous nausea since around 6 weeks, I have appauling cystic and unsightly acne all over my chin and jaw line, hormone related I assume. I'm mourning my pre baby body and just generally hating the fact that I look so unwell. I know I'm probably sounding ridiculously selfish as I have a beautiful girl who is turning one on Monday and other than feeling sick constantly haven't actually been sick.. yet. I'm lucky in that DH is still on furlough so he takes the strain with baby and dog when I'm feeling rough but I'm frustrated that I'm literally resigned to being a couch potato at the moment, I'm generally on the go all the time. Anyone feeling similar with their 2nd pregnancy/have any words of encouragement or sympathy... or just simply want to tell me to woman up and get on with it? 🤣

Meeeeee! 🙋🏼‍♀️

I'm 8 weeks today. I felt pretty good during my first pregnancy, bar tiredness in the first trimester but nothing too bad.

This time I feel awful - nauseous on and off all day, totally exhausted, feel too ill to cook a decent meal most days. I feel sorry for DH as I'm sick of hearing myself whinge so God knows how he feels

I found the first few weeks of my second pregnancy incredibly tough; I just felt so unwell but still had to carry on as normal with DD. It did get better in the second trimester though and I felt more my normal self.

@BabyBooDueNov21 Oh girl I hear ya! My first pregnancy was a breeze.. I had sickness for about 2 weeks if that but I was being physically sick and I found it a relief.. spew in the morning and crack on with the rest of the day lol.
Same here with DH, poor sods lol! Then again it takes two to tango so it's partly their fault we're in this predicament right?! 🤣

Are you finding out the gender? I had a private scan a couple of weeks back as DH isn't allowed in the dating scan.. Covid 🙄 baby was tiny but lovely strong heartbeat which I couldn't ask for more really. I have my dating scan on Tuesday which I am really excited about. How old is your first? X

@user1493413286 This is what I'm hoping for, a bit of normality in 2nd trimester but I guess time will only tell! Can't help but feel totally sorry for my pathetic self haha.

@MyGrassIsBrowner it's so much easier to deal with isn't it! My life just carried on as normal at this point during my lash pregnancy, this time I can barely get out of bed on a morning 😬

That's very true! Hahaha he is a sweetheart and will listen to me complain and offer sympathy but if it was the other way round I'd be telling him to shush by now 😂

We are this time! We have a DC together and I have a DSC too, both the same sex. Depending on what this one is will mean a change around in bedrooms so we want to give the kids a heads up - they have their own rooms atm but there'll have to be some sharing going on moving forward.

Are you going to find out? That's great that you seen a strong heartbeat I'm not sure if our trust is allowing partners in scans at the moment. But I'm going to surprise DH with a gender scan at 16 weeks (he thinks we'll be waiting until 20.)

@BabyBooDueNov21 Oh absolutely! I was running a shop on my own up until about 24 weeks but I ended up leaving early as I overworked myself and ended up putting myself in hospital 😫 I'm a SAHM now and loving every minute of it. I think the only saving grace is that DD isn't walking yet so it's not like I'm chasing around after her all day, she quite happily sits on her play mat with all her toys and entertains herself. I still feel utterly guilty that I'm probably not giving her as much attention as I should be though.

So good that your DH is sympathetic! Mine has been amazing with me and he'll let me crawl into bed during the day if I've had enough. He is due back on phased return soon though which I am trying to come to terms with, I'll be a blubbering mess when he goes back full-time god help me, lol. 🙈

We'll need a re-think about our bedrooms too although baby will be in the next to me crib for a fair few months to begin with so right now I'm putting off even having to think about it, lol. We moved into this house when I was pregnant with DD and had the kitchen totally re-done in the process and it was the most stressful thing I have ever done. 🙈

We're definitely going to find out, I'm too impatient and so is he. Thankfully our hospital allows partners into the 20 week scan so can't complain.
Your DH will be over the moon with that! How lovely! 🥰