Is this antenatal depression?

[Ftmmumx]

Hi everyone,

I’ve been feeling really down the past few days and I wanted to reach out on here to see if anyone has went through similar emotions as me.

I have never suffered with depression or anxiety before and my mental health has always been pretty good I’d say, however the past few days I have been constantly crying and upset. The smallest thing can set me off and I’m just finding my emotions totally overwhelming.

Like anyone, when it’s my time of the month I can have an emotional day here or there but this has been completely different and emotions/feelings are so much higher.

I recently moved out of my family home and into a house with my partner, and whilst I’m so happy for our future together I can’t shake this feeling. I’m feeling overwhelmed by everything at the minute and things that I would usually take in my stride, I just can’t face it. I don’t know if it’s just the change in my hormones, coupled with a change in home but I am just struggling and finding it difficult to deal with :(

I have a midwife appointment scheduled for tomorrow and I’m thinking of bringing it up to get it off my chest but I wanted to speak to you ladies first about it in case any of you had went through go similar...

I've got no experience but I'd say it could be. As you've never had depression before you definitely need to mention it to your midwife as you won't have the tool kit experience to help you ride any big waves. When did you give birth? A few days after when your milk comes in is known as Tits and Tears day xxx

Antenatal depression is more common than postnatal depression. Ring your midwife today.

Really sorry @Ftmmumx I totally misread! Yes could be antenatal depression, need to get it sorted as it'll make you more prone to postnatal depression. Please talk to your midwife Xx

Moving out is harder than you think it would be. I remember being really down at first. It was so quiet? I have 2 sisters and all of a sudden know one is there. I sat at the back door one day and had a little cry i felt really lonely even though I was living with my partner. It's a big chapter leaving your family home I think, never mind being pregnant too. So don't be too hard on yourself your allowed to feel how you feel you can be super happy and super sad at the same time.

Talking always makes everything easier

@RaspberrySocks yeah so I've not actually given birth yet! I am so excited for the baby to come and I wouldn't say I'm feeling overwhelmed with the thought of life after baby - if anything I'm more looking forward to the baby in the sense that I won't be home alone. I've been working from home & it sounds ridiculous because I only moved to my new house last week and this is only my third day of WFH, but my partner is really busy with work & I suppose I've just been feeling a bit lonely & isolated. I'm more overwhelmed with being in a new area, having to learn how to work new appliances, having to go to new supermarkets etc etc. In the grand scheme of things these are things that wouldn't normally phase me and I'd take in my stride but just the way I'm feeling it's difficult...

@Thatwentbadly I will definitely speak to my midwife about it! Even if it's just getting it all off my chest & speaking to someone other than friends/family I think it would be really good for me :)

@JMassey This sounds almost identical to my situation! It's hard being so used to being in quite a busy family home and then moving in to a house with your partner who works a lot and gets up early/comes in late it's just a big change :( I've only been in our house for a week but it doesn't feel like "home" yet. It's almost as if because I'm pregnant & feeling vulnerable I'm just really needing my mum.. but on the plus side I'm not far from my family home so I can drive over whenever I like to see my family , every cloud & all that :)
I've already confided in family/friends who have been so amazing, so I am really lucky to have such an incredible support network around me!
But thank you

It sounds like all the changes in your life plus pregnancy hormones are causing you to feel depressed. I have had depression before and I find that I feel panicked, upset and low and lose interest in everything I used to love. Does it feel like that for you?

I had a bit of antenatal depression a few weeks ago (I’m now almost 11 weeks) I think it was a combination of worrying about the pregnancy and lockdown as well as pressure at work. Thank fully it passed after a few days.

I find it’s helpful to talk and most of all to be kind to yourself. Tell yourself it’s ok to feel this way and it will pass.

For me it passed after a few weeks - hope it’s the same for you xx

Yeah I mean it was nearly 7 years ago now and i can't imagine not having my own house now ha! But at the time I found it alot harder than i thought it would be! Especially as i was so excited to move out and be an adult.

But yes don't sit in all alone pick up the phone if you need them and blame it on hormones haha!

I'm 27+5 and I wouldn't have been OK then so I really relate. My Husband changed shifts and works a 2pm till 10pm shift and I work 8am till 4pm. So that was a big change again to go home after work and be alone until after 10pm (we got a dog ha!) but now I love my evenings to myself and quite look forward to me and baby having evenings doing our little routine :) it's just adjusting to big changes isn't it, it's not easy and thats ok x

@Ftmmumx make your life easier and register for online deliveries from Tesco's or somewhere Xxx