Early pregnancy reassurance needed...

[AmIExpecting2Much]

Hello everyone,

I am currently 11 weeks pregnant. I have had multiple miscarriages and genuinely believed I wouldn’t be able to have children. I was in the process of fertility checks when I found out I was pregnant and honestly over the moon. However, the last 2 weeks apart from feeling extremely tired I have no symptoms at all, I have my dating scan on Friday but I am honestly terrified. It feels like it’s too good to be true and a time that should be so exciting and happy I just feel so scared. I’m constantly dreaming that I have the scan and they say they can’t find a heart beat. Nobody knows expect for my partner as I’ve had miscarriages before I didn’t want to go through the heart ache of having to talk about it with multiple people should anything go wrong so I don’t have anyone to talk to about my concerns and get the reassurance I need.

My partner works away so it’s hard for him to comfort me about this. I know I’m probably just worrying myself over nothing and getting worried because of my past experiences. This will be my first baby and I want to look back and enjoy this experience instead of worrying all the time.

Please help x

Hi, Congratulations on your pregnancy although I’m sorry to hear you’ve been having a hard time. I’m also 11 weeks (dating scan today) but I’ve done nothing but worry as my last pregnancy ended in (very early) miscarriage, so I can only imagine what you’re going through. I also haven’t told anyone except from my partner. I really hope all goes well for you on Friday, positive thoughts 😊

It's not uncommon for symptoms to ease around this gestation as the placenta takes over. Your chances of a positive scan now are much better than getting bad news.

I know how worrying it is and how helpless you feel as there's nothing you can do to improve the outcome at this early stage. My dh works away as he's military and he's the only other person who has known about pregnancies until a positive dating scan. I too have had several miscarriages and chemicals so I understand how terrifying it can be going in to those scans. I was more worried going in for my scan this time than ever before and it's baby number 6, 19wk now. I had a private scan at 16+4 to try help ease the worry which did work for a while but now desperate for my anomaly scan to be here already, got a week to wait. It's such a roller coaster of emotions but you just have to take it day by day and celebrate the little milestones you pass, those newborn cuddles make it worth every second.

Good luck with your scan. Hopefully you'll see a very active little one and be able to relax a little.

Thank you both for your response. And congratulations on your pregnancy.

I think I'm just getting myself in a worry because I feel like it's too good to be true, I did about 15 pregnancy tests when I found out because I thought it was lieing having struggled for 3 years to conceive a baby that didn't end in miscarriage. I think on Friday when I have my scan and I know everything's ok I'll calm down a lot. It's mainly just the fear of the unknown because it's not obvious your pregnant and I feel so normal it's strange.

My partner is amazing and really my safe place but with him being away it's so hard to comfort me and I hate telling him my worry's because I know there's nothing he can do when he's 3 hours away.. I know he's just as worried as me. I'm hoping on Friday my worries will be washed away and I can focus on the positives.

Thank you so much for your reply's made me feel a lot better to know I'm not alone and it's ok to worry xx