It’s my first baby so I’ve no idea if this is normal or not, but I’m feeling a bit neglected by my midwife. She told me I could email her if I had any questions, so I’ve emailed a couple of times and she’s never replied to any of them. I then end up having to phone triage which feels like wasting their time as it’s non urgent things, but things I need answered nonetheless. The last time I contacted her was to ask for a physio referral for suspected PGP - I wasn’t sure if I should go through the midwives or the GP. That was over a week ago and still no response. I’ve been in for reduced movements in that time and the registrar at the hospital noticed how much I was struggling with movement and did a referral for me straight away.
I also saw my own midwife for reduced movements a couple of weeks ago, and when I mentioned feeling bad for wasting their time she said something along the lines of ‘you aren’t wasting time but you need to try and reign your anxiety in’ - to me, this implied that I was over reacting about the movements when every other midwife I have spoken to has encouraged me to be seen about them and never made a comment like that. To add, I was really calm when I went in and saw it as a precautionary measure, I wasn’t beside myself with worry or acting like that so I was a bit confused when she mentioned that. I have had a miscarriage before so I do feel hyper conscious of the slightest changes, but I am quite level headed about things at this stage.
At my booking in, she also told me specifically not to gain any weight, and implied I should actually have lost some weight by the time the baby is born (my BMI was 32 so definitely overweight but this seemed like extreme advice).
Again, not sure if I’m being overly sensitive or expecting too much since it’s my first. But I just feel a bit let down and I feel like a nuisance every time I contact her. Is this normal, or have I got the short end of the stick here?