I am 11 weeks PP and already pregnant

[Flowergirl98]

Hi everyone baby boy was born on 30th Dec 2 weeks early, I am 11 weeks PP and have had 3 positive tests ! We wasn’t trying but feel so blessed. Do I go ahead with this pregnancy? I don’t want me 3mo to feel left
Out as there will only be 11 months between them,eek!

My cousin's daughters are 11 months apart - also not planed that way.

The girls have never consciously known life without one another as siblings or their family as anything other than the four of them.

It was really hard when they were littles but the parents said they could see the advantage to getting all the nappies, lack of sleep, potty training etc over with more or less at one go, and the girls have always got on well despite being different from one another in almost every way you could imagine.

My sister and I are 13 months apart and I am the oldest. I never knew any different. My Mum said getting all the nappies out the way at once was brilliant.
We are and yours will be in two different school years so that is good. Having the very oldest and very youngest in the same school year would be tough.
We always had someone to play and fight with and we are very close.
If you want two go for it.

My dh has 2 brothers they are each born 11 months apart from each other. Mil said it was hard when they were 3,2 and 1 but once at school much easier.

What would your 3 month old be left out of?

How much support do you have? It's going to be exhausting. But honestly if yiure already calling it a blessing are you actually thinking of termination or do you just wnat to hear about how others coped? As people do manage the kids survive!

But is it likely taxing on the mum's physical and mental health? Yes. It's it less enjoyable? Possibly.

if you feel blessed then yes have the baby.

It'll be tough, but I knew some one with 4 under 4 who worked full time, so must be doable.

There's 13 months between my children and I remember that feeling well when I found out I was pregnant again. I worried that I could never love the new baby as much as I loved the first, but if course you do. It's definitely hard for the first year or so but I think it's a great age gap. They're 3 and 4 now and I've got all the nappies and sleepless nights out of the way and they like to do similar things.

I have a 2 yo (3 in October) my 2 month only will be 1 in December and new baby will be 1 month in November.. 2 yo goes nursery part time can I manage a new born with an 11 month old ? My husband works from 5 am till 5 pm so I’m home on my
Own all day. Self employed so I work as and when I can but I’m just stressing as it’s manageable now with 2 that are 2 years apart .. my sister in law is also in the same position but her 2 are going to be in the same school year !

We found out about DC3 when DC2 was 8 weeks old.

I won't lie, we've found it incredibly challenging. One of your DC has SEN so that has probably made it a bit harder.

Obviously a lot of people have small age gaps and cope fine.

For me though I wouldn't repeat it.

How do you think you'd cope?

If you had twins you'd manage! It may be tough but you'll get through it.

I think I can manage I’m worried about the materialistic side of things such as having to buy a new pram so I can go out with both together I’m just extremely worried about physically coping out of the house I can cope with them in the house as I’ve had my 1 yo nephew this week looking after him so it’s so able for me I just hope I can still live a life outside of being a mum too

I don’t know if this is what you want to hear and I don’t wish to be insensitive, but I found myself in a similar position a few years ago and I chose to have an abortion. The thought of two so close together was absolutely terrifying and I knew I’d never cope physically or mentally. HOWEVER, if you feel you could cope and want the baby, then forget everything else and go for it 😊 best of luck whatever you do xx

The biggest toll will be on your body and health in the short term, I think it’s recommended to wait at least a year between pregnancies to give your body time to recover properly. I’m sure once your baby is here you will manage just fine outside of the house. It will be hard work but at least you’ll have the baby stage over with in one go!

Did you have a C-section? That might change my view a bit

10.5 month between me and my brother . No problems between us at all, although my mum says it was very hard work back in Terry nappy / pre disposable times .

Only health issue is that he had very bad baby teeth due to calcium deficiency ( I was bottle fed but apparently mum was deficient due to growing me ? )

I did used to be mean to my brother and tell him that he was just the afterbirth leftovers 😆

Also we were in different years at school. If your dates fall awkwardly you could have them both in the same year which might cause issues