Feeling so low

[Chloe7737]

Hi all,
hopefully can get a little insight/advice on my situation. I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant but really struggling to cope, it’s more mentally rather than physically but it’s starting to get really overwhelming now. I just feel so unsupported, I have a partner and I know it’s not anyone’s job to make me feel happy but I just feel extremely alone and everyday I’m feeling more sad I’m scared it will affect my pregnancy honestly. My appointments have been with 2 midwives so far so I’m not actually sure who to contact if required and I don’t even have any contact numbers for them! I’m just looking to see if anyone else has been in similar situation and how you handled it, also any advice on how to move forward? Thanks so much

Sending you a hug.
I totally get this, in the first 12 weeks of my pregnancy I started developing depression, I felt so low, I just wanted to sleep constantly and had no motivation and generally felt meh.
My partner tried his best to help and I felt so guilty feeling so low as I was carrying a baby, I should have been on a high but I just couldn't shake it.
In the end I had to take some time off work and I went to see the gp who put me on citalopram anti depressants, I am not promoting this choice as there can be risks being on medication whilst pregnant but I personally felt I was no good throughout the pregnancy feeling the way I was feeling and wanted to nip it in the bud so I could enjoy the rest of my pregnancy and my baby when she came along.
After a few weeks i felt tonnes better. I also started going out for walks during the day as like you I was pregnant during COVID and it was quite a dampener.

Thank you so much @Poppet12345, I feel exactly the same I feel so guilty as this should be a time where I’m happy and excited yet I’m just feeling the opposite. I have tried in the past a few years ago to speak to my GP in regard to my mental well-being but felt brushed off and came out feeling worse than I went in so I just left it! I was hoping to maybe speak to my Midwife as two I have seen before were very helpful but just confused as to who I’m dealing with and how to contact her hopefully I’ll get somewhere soon but thank you so much for replying

Your welcome, I know it is hard you feel so alone and beat yourself up for unintentionally feeling this way.
But just explain that you don't want this to follow into a depression when the baby's here (I doubt it will as when you see your little baby for the first time you will forget ever feeling like this) but, JUST incase.
Just be honest with them, it will take the load off you for sharing how your feeling, and try and talk to your partner aswell it will help.
Keep me posted how your doing and soon the world will all the opening back up from lockdown so that will ease the loneliness ❤️