Early scan tomorrow - terrified

[tipilass6]

Just looking for some comfort really. I had three miscarriages in 2020. All equally heartbreaking and devastating. The first one felt like bad luck and then we couldn't believe it when we had two more. I am now 8 weeks pregnant, or will be tomorrow. And we are booked in for an early scan tomorrow afternooon. I feel sick with anxiety. I am just so scared it's happening again and I literally don't think I could face being told again the baby has died. I've had bad back all week - which is probably because I sit at a desk all day, but my head is telling me it's the start of a miscarriage. Just looking for a handhold. Thank you.

Impossible not to worry but do try to do things that can distract you. Can you have a lovely bath and cuddle up in bed ? I know after several miscarriages you must be on tenterhooks, so just try to rest as anxiety is exhausting.
Have you had any investigation or support for your losses ?
Wishing you all the best for tomorrow, if it helps, everyone I know who lost a baby or babies did go on to have a child.

Gosh I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. Must have been such a difficult time...

I know it's so easy to worry yourself sick during pregnancy. I worried a lot with my second pregnancy too, right from the start as if something was going to go wrong. But baby arrived safely, thank goodness.

Maybe try listen to some music, have a warm drink, keep yourself as busy as possible to help stop those negative thoughts. Will be thinking of you tomorrow and sending positive vibes!

Thank you for your kind replies. I've had a nice (not too hot) bath this evening to try to relax. I find myself daydreaming about being further along in pregnancy, having the baby, all these milestones and I'm cross at myself for doing it and getting my hopes up. These first 12 weeks are so painfully slow, I wish they'd speed up! We had to chase the investigations they promised after they said they'd only investigate if we had three. By the time we had our first appt I was 4 weeks pregnant again so they've paused now. I have the day off tomorrow so I am going to try to keep busy in the morning. The appt isn't until 3.30. I really appreciate your replies, thank you.

Best of luck @tipilass6. Really hope you get god news x

Good*

How did it go today OP? Thinking of you

I hope today went ok x

Hope you are ok op x

Hope your scan went ok op. X

Hello ladies - all was fine! There was a strong heartbeat and I was measuring exactly 8 weeks just as I'd calculated! I'm not ashamed to say I had a cry. I know it's only a snapshot of time but I'm happy. We've booked another for 10 weeks, so we have shorter milestones until 22 weeks. Thank you so much for checking in x

12 not 22!

Congratulations! How exciting!

That's great news so happy for you xxx

That's great news! Congratulations!

I'm pregnant again after 3 MCs and remember crying at my 8wk scan. Lots of us in the same position are on this thread. You should join us.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/birth_clubs/4187142-pregnancy-after-loss-autumn-babies-2021-thread-2

Thank you @marplemead x

So pleased all is well OP. 🙂

So pleased for you OP and hope all smooth sailing from now!