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Pregnant and insecure

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indigo27 · 17/03/2021 19:51

I don't know what's wrong with me.
I'm 16 weeks and engaged to my partner.
He has a daughter from a previous relationship who is 5 and I have a daughter too who is 9.
Lately I'm just getting pangs of jealousy and paranoia about his ex.
I feel like I'm constantly having to compete with her- this is honestly all my own feelings. He never makes me feel this way and I've never really had any issues with her.
I just find myself constantly feeling like I need to compete and worrying that I'm not sailing through this pregnancy like she did.
I have stretch marks and I know she didn't get any and I'm exhausted and a bit grumpy so now I'm just thinking I bet he wishes he hadn't ended up with me and that he wishes he'd reconciled and made their relationship work.
Right now I honestly feel like ending the relationship and just doing this alone so I don't need to feel these jealous feelings anymore. I do suffer from anxiety which I take medication for but have had to stop due to pregnancy.
I just feel like crap and like I just don't know what to do to feel better as she is never going away.
I don't know where this has all come from - just feeling awful and like I just want him to go away so I can enjoy this pregnancy and not worry about him or what he's thinking/feeling/doing

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4amWitchingHour · 17/03/2021 20:19

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way OP. You know it's the anxiety talking though, and it's talking utter bollocks.

I went a bit haywire in pregnancy - felt so low and had all sorts of random depressing thoughts. Every pregnancy is different, your hormones are going mad and you have kid(s) to look after already. Are you able to do other self care things to help your anxiety now you're off the meds? A worry hour? Some CBT techniques? Telling your OH you feel anxious (even if you don't disclose the actual stuff if you don't want to)?

Please ignore the content of the thoughts and remember how awesome you are, and it's just your brain having a bit of a squishy moment

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