husband doesnt want another baby

[mgray345]

i am in a dificult place my husband doesnt want a thrid baby think we have our hands full with two but it hard for me to get rid of it and he thinking of leaving to go in the army im so confued what to do some advice would be good

@HypnoRuler

Unless he agreed to have 3 kids before you married, you haven't got a leg to stand on / YABU.

And even if he did, he has already provided 2 kids. Why are you trying to co-erce him into unprotected sexual relations / making you pregnant?

Just to clarify, are you already prepgnant. If so, my apologies.

In that case, he should have kept it in his pants. Now you both have to live up to your responsibilities imo.

There’s nothing you can do. The person who doesn’t want another baby trumps the one who does.

You either have to decide if you can live with that, or break up your family for a chance (they might never come) at another baby.

I am reading this as you are already pregnant?

It is truly depressing how many of these threads there have been recently.

Did you have a conversation after your second child about whether you were planning any more in the future? Did you agree to try for a third or is this pregnancy an accident? Or was you not on contraception at all and were you both aware of that fact?

Although, if you are already pregnant none of the above can obviously change what has already happened but it does open up a reasonable conversation to have with your partner. Ultimately, if you want to keep the pregnancy that is entirely up to you. It is also entirely up to him if he decides to stay.

If he doesn't want another one, I think you should go along with that. If he is going to join the Army you'll be bringing up your kids on your own, basically ( I was an Army wife so I speak from experience. You are a single mother most of the time). So try to ignore your desire for another one , honestly it's not a good idea to try for a third unless he is in agreement.

If you’re already pregnant you have as much right to decide as him. Takes two people to make a baby!! He should have been more careful if he was this adimant he only wanted 2

If you are pregnant then it is you who has final decision on the keeping a baby front.
If you want to ttc then he has every right to say no more, though he should be willing to do something about it if he is so adamant he is done making babies.

Being a military wife is not easy, you spend most of your time as a single parent. My dh is military was when I met him and got 5 years left to retirement now. We're on baby number 6 now, it's not easy but I manage perfectly fine. He has always said no more after each pregnancy until we found out current is going to be our 5th girl, he said we'll have to try again for a boy lol.