Anxiety over virus

[Thomastank12]

I am 13 weeks. Ds1 goes to nursery and this weekend had cold symptoms (grumpy and a runny nose/sneezing for a day). DH has now had the same symptoms since yesterday but a bit worse. I've had that tickly feeling in my nose/back of my throat since but doesn't seem to be developing. I do have a mild headache too but have had that on and off with pregnancy anyway.

But it's 3am and I'm awake worrying that it's Covid and that my baby will be damaged by it :(. Cases are really low where we are right now and DS had it in December already so it's unlikely but still freaking out.

How do I make it through the next 6 months without letting anxiety take over,? I know DS is likely to bring other viruses home and I can't get into that state everytime :(

I thought I was doing quite well keeping my anxiety in check but it's in overdrive again ..

You all need to be tested asap. It might not be Covid but you need to know.

In the Same, I’m 5 weeks pg and I think I’m going to push for the vaccine. Its later in pregnancy I’m worried about x

Totally get tested.
However I feel the same. I have 3 children 2 different schools 🤦🏼‍♀️.
2 children have to get a taxi to school with 6 other children too 😂.
I'm also very anxious and already worried about the last 12 weeks when I become vulnerable and the government will be opening every where up. Im 12 weeks plus 6 so quite close to you. Sorry I can't help.

@Skymum82 I’ve got two at different schools and a dp who will be back in the office when they re open.

What are your thoughts on having the vaccine? I’m so undecided but I think it’s the only way I’ll relax x

I can actually have the vaccine however the midwife has said best not too. I think I will think about it again near my last trimester. It's a difficult one as not been tested it pregnancy and with these clotting claims seems a bit scary 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thank you for not making me feel silly I feel less alone! I was so excited when they announced a lockdown after I found out I was pregnant, I was able to spend my first trimester hiding at home withour feeling guilty or needing to justify not seeing anyone. Like everyone I'm dreading everything reopening. Schools have only been back a week and here we are, all 3 of us unwell already. I hate that it needs to be this stressful :(.

Besides Covid I'm also worried it might be CMV, which has definite adverse consequences in pregnancy. I'm just a mess !

Oh and about the vaccine, I guess by the current guidance I won't be offered it as I'm not at risk. I think they still say only have it in pregnancy if benefits outweigh the risks?

I'm (probably naively) not super worried about myself if I catch it, just worried about potential unknown effects on a developing baby. So I feel a bit more worried about catching Covid early on as all the important developments happen than later in pregnancy. So hopefully by summer I'll be able to relax a bit more...

I am 22 weeks pregnant, and worried about catching Covid as my pregnancy progresses. I'm healthy and I'm not working at the moment, so I do not qualify for the vaccine. Personally, I would choose to have the vaccine if it was offered to me. It's so frustrating that pregnant women are classed as 'moderately vulnerable' based on our pregnant status alone, yet we cannot choose to have the vaccine! It's infantilising.

I have three children at three different schools, and I worry about what will happen to the infection rates when shops open up, and when 'everything' opens up on 21 June. It's a month before my due date.

I follow a Covid vaccination group on Facebook for pregnant women, it's mainly made up of US women but some are based in the UK. One woman was told by her GP that she could discuss having the vaccine when vaccines open up for her age group. I'm 41 and my age group should be next so I plan on doing this.

If anyone's had the vaccine as a healthy, non-keyworker, pregnant woman, I would be interested in hearing how you got your midwife/GP to agree on this.

Ontario in Canada are prioritising pregnant women for the vaccine. It will be interesting to see how that goes.

@ScandiCrimeFan would you share the name of the group? I’d be interested in joining x

Like everyone I'm dreading everything reopening.

I don’t know anyone dreading everything reopening! Everyone I know is counting down the hours!!

@Girlmama3 it’s called ‘COVID 19 Vaccine-Evidence Based Group: Pregnancy, Lactation, TTC and Families’. I didn’t know if it was the done thing to advertise FB groups here!

If I’m still unvaccinated when everything reopens, I’m going to be in the position of possibly having to tell my DC that they can’t visit friends’ houses indoors, until the baby and I have been vaccinated, approx. 6-8 weeks after 21 June. So ‘everyone’ will be allowed to hug people, go indoors etc, except for me and my family. And it will land me in the shit with the in-laws, who’ll want to come and visit.

@ScandiCrimeFan thank you 😀

I’ve told dp that we’re not having people in the house this year. I’m limiting garden visits to close family only.

My worry is that the vaccinated can still pass it on but will probably be asymptomatic after their vaccine. I’m just not going to risk it. Everyone else will be back to normal and we’ll still be staying home!

I’m not due until mid November 😩

@Girlmama3 November, that's a long time to wait - and worry. I sincerely hope that the govt. guidelines will change soon.

I worry that the vaccinated will think 'I'm vaccinated, everything is fine, lets get back to normal' and forget about the unvaccinated. When I read threads about how things will work from 21 June re. the unvaccinated the focus seems to be just on those who choose not to receive the vaccine, and the anti-vaxxers. Completely forgetting about the growing group of pregnant women who might like to have the vaccine but are told we can't.

Apparently being vaccinated reduces the risk of transmission by 40%-70%. It it's just 40% it's not great at all, and it means that me being protected is reliant on others being vaccinated.

Hey lovelies
Current advice from RCOG is it's a risk / benefit decision.
Today i have my second faint (but darker) positive result. I was due my second vaccine tomorrow.
I work in health care and I'm also very overweight.
My risk of catching it is higher and my risk of being ill is also higher.
I've put my second dose off (i have a few weeks window) to see if this faint positive turns into a viable pregnancy.
I have no idea when i conceived as LMP was over 56 days ago (PCOS) i just know as my line is still faint I'm very early days and still at risk of chemical pregnancy.
I'm too concerned if i have the vaccine and misscarry for whatever reason that I'll end up blaming the 2nd vaccine dose and thinking what if.
I'm waiting until another test in 4 days, and weigh up my options then if I'm still pregnant.
I thought finding out you're pregnant, especially first time and planned was meant to be super exciting - I'm just filled with anxiety and fear.

I had it at 7 weeks pregnant and was fine. My greatest concern was the accompanying fever as I was anxious about having a high temp in the first trimester. Anyway, baby is now a healthy 4 month old.I know that is anecdotal reassurance but I think complications in pregnancy are INCREDIBLY rare as long as you are otherwise healthy. I was consultant-led by the guy who actually researches and writes the information for the Rcog and he was completely unphased by the whole thing. He recommended being careful, but only because that was the advice for the general population, and of course any infection pregnancy is generally best avoided if possible. He said any positive cases he had come across in his job at an NHS hospital were mild and NONE had an effect on the babies.

I totally understand your anxiety - we will always worry about our babies - but I think in this instance it probably ISN'T covid you have, especially if your DS has already had it. No harm in getting a test - but if it is positive, I still don't think you have any need to worry. X

I understand the worry
I'm 28 week's Thursday and my daughter Is in school and we haven't had covid yet

I feel very worried about catching it during this last trimester.
I'm otherwise healthy though and 27 years old so should be ok if I did catch it but I have anxiety and I am finding it hard to not worry to much about it

When I was pregnant with dd2 I had the swine flu vaccine. Pregnant women were prioritised for that one. I remember worrying about having it but in only every one one person who’d had swine flu. It was nothing like Covid.

@Lnix "He said any positive cases he had come across in his job at an NHS hospital were mild and NONE had an effect on the babies." Thank you for that I think I might print and frame that to look at whenever the anxiety takes over!! I feel better this morning and know realistically it's unlikely to be Covid, the dread is just always worse at night.

Sorry to hear about everyone else who is also anxious. Definitely also feeling the guilt that when everything reopens things won't change for my DS, because we've made a decision to be pregnant and will still need to be careful. Poor boy, he's already not been able to go anywhere or see my family for a year. Urgh. But I know it will be worth it in the end, we can do it!

@Thomastank12 You still need to be tested. Symptoms differ now so you could be spreading it it your not self isolating.

@Girlmama3 we have been isolating anyway and have a test booked in the morning

🤞🏻 It’s negative x

@Thomastank12 - yes! Do! I loved my appointments with him because he always put me at ease. I suffer from health anxiety myself so I do know how it feels to be extremely worried about something like this and it is hard to see how disproportionate your worries are when you're in the thick of it. I also had a friend who gave birth whilst positive for covid and both she and baby were fine and home the next day. Also, I am a primary school teacher and have a 5 year old at school too so, like you, there was no hiding for me. I found lockdown quite reassuring as there was no need to mix and possibly increase risk but we are out the other side now and you'll get there too! X

Test came back negative thankfully! I felt dreadful last night and can't taste or smell anything so was getting increasingly worried!