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Is it normal to feel like your life is over?

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greysa · 15/03/2021 21:37

I’m in my third trimester and suddenly feeling a complete sense of panic at how much my life is about to change.

My pregnancy wasn’t planned, I’m single but the baby’s dad is involved. I have a good support system of friends and family, but my parents live over an hour away.

As my due date approaches, I’m finding myself worrying more and more and thinking about all of the things that I just won’t be able to do anymore. I used to take little solo holidays a couple of times a year to visit new cities, I could go to the pub when I fancied it, I could go on dates whenever. I am quite career focused and had plans to climb the career ladder a little more before I settled down, as well as buy a house. Now I feel like even saving for a deposit is pointless - I won’t get a mortgage on my own on a part time income when I go back to work. Dating was a minefield before and it’s going to be 10x worse as a single parent. I’m worried I’m going to be destined to life as a single parent with not much to look forward to except for obviously my child.

I don’t want this to sound like I’m ungrateful at all. Although my pregnancy was unplanned, it is very much wanted and I am excited. It’s just what feels like the loss of my former life that feels so, so daunting right now.

Is this normal? Blush I feel so guilty for feeling like this...

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00100001 · 15/03/2021 21:43

Yes. Your life will change. And it's abslutley fine to feel this way. You will miss the freedom.

BUT

You'll love it. When your baby smiles at you for the first time. Or calls you Mum. or turns to you for comfort, or giggles at you, and comes running upto you for cuddles. when you share all the silly moments and watch them grow into something amazing.

You will still miss your pre-child freedom, but your life will be so much better.

As for high flying careers and mortgages and all that...it's not important. Your child doesn't give a shit of your a CEO of a Global empire, or working part time in the local shop for minimum wage. All they care about is their parent(s) being around.

I'd rather earn a pittance and spend time peeling potatoes and going out for picnics at the park, than earning 6 figures, but having to mis all those little things, because I was out of the house early, and not back in until 6:45.

ChocBeforeCock · 15/03/2021 21:44

This is totally normal! A baby is a huge life change and most people I’ve spoken to about it had “aaah shit am I doing the right thing?” moments in pregnancy!

Life is different with kids but it’s amazing too. I can’t pretend I don’t miss parts of my old life but there are now lots more parts that I love and wouldn’t have any other way.

Good luck with your new baby Flowers

Amichelle84 · 15/03/2021 21:46

Its not over, its just starting.

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