Feeling sad about being pregnant

[SamH6x]

Hi everyone, im really sorry if im insensitive to other people , or if this the wrong place to post. Im feeling seriously depressed over being pregnant, and considering an abortion. Im almost 11 weeks, ive already booked the consultation twice and cancelled because im too scared to go through with it , worried if it will effect my mental health. This was a planned pregnancy , but for months and months i really couldnt decide if i wanted another child or not (already have a toddler) so i decided to try and honestly thought once id got pregnant id be so happy. And from the moment ive found out ive been faking my happiness but im really going to miss our family dynamic of 3. The fact that we dont struggle for money (we arnt well off by far , but comfortable, both low income jobs) our little home suits us 3 perfectly, i enjoy my part time job and im probably not going to be able to work for years. Something that wasnt expected was that the banks wont lend us money so we cant buy a bigger home and our home is TINY , im talking 400sqf and no garden. Im feeling over whelmed and very sad at the fact we are going to be poor and struggle and i feel like ive lost my freedom. I want to be able to give our only everything they need. Honestly wish i got an abortion at the early stages because im petrified of having a surgical one.

I’ve reported your thread so MN can move it to the pregnancy choices board where you’ll hopefully get appropriate help.

You sound depressed. It happens in pregnancy due to the hormones. Have you spoken to a doctor?

@SamH6x when I found out I was pregnant a few months ago I found myself really sad and regretful even though I’d wanted another baby for a couple of years and we’re trying for a year. But like you, once it became reality I started to worry about finances, loss of freedom again, etc etc. I felt like this for many weeks and only now at 13 weeks starting to feel happy and excited. Have you had your scan yet? I found after my 12 week scan and seeing a real baby in there brought out so much happy emotions.

Ultimately your choice but just keep in mind that your hormones will be playing a bit part in how you feel now. Also have you had sickness and fatigue? I found I just couldn’t be happy when I felt so crap all the time.

Good luck with whatever choice you make x

I have had a scan yes , at 8 weeks. I was hoping it would make me feel happy but after getting home i still felt the same. I have been feeling sick and lack of energy, but honestly i think me feeling so down has effecting me not cleaning up around the house etc

Oh god ignore the name change? I change my name every now and then i dont know whats happened there. Not that it matters i dont think this will out me

If you decide an abortion is best there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I had a surgical one about 7 years ago out of choice - I didn’t want to put myself through the discomfort of a medical and it was absolutely fine. I was under general anaesthetic and once I came round I was up and about that day, no side effects apart from some bleeding. It didn’t affect my mental health either, not everyone will be adversely affected by an abortion. It’s your choice.